Match - is winking effective?

[Anonymous]

I just joined match in an attempt to start dating again. The online thing is new/bizzare to me but I have been winking at people - maybe 30?- with zero response. My picture isn't great so I don't know whether it is me or that winking isn't effective or both. I am not really comfortable just randomly emailing people…ugh.

[Anonymous]

Post a the best picture you have of yourself. Why post a bad picture?

[Anonymous]

I winked at someone. Now he is my husband

[Anonymous]

I just joined a few weeks ago. I'm female, not sure if you are male or female? I get a good amount of winks but I haven't returned one of them. My feeling is that if the guy can't take two seconds to write a quick email, he isn't that interested. Or that he is winking at everyone and just seeing who replies. I can see your side about not wanting to write emails to strangers but it can be something fairly simple. Comment on their profile, maybe a picture that you like. Basically anything to show you put just a little effort into it. Not sure if guys feel the same.

Good luck! This is my first time trying online dating and it's crazy! I'm learning as I go

[Anonymous]

I don't have a recent pictures of myself so I had to take an iPhone selfie - not my best look, but…

good to know 14:46

[Anonymous]

For a female more than for a male.

If you want to get someone's attention write them a message.

[Anonymous]

That was my first interaction with my now-husband. Married almost 7 years and have two kids now .

Though I think a good pic is important. I did a literal double take when I opened dh's email and saw what he looked like.

[Anonymous]

I am on Match too and if the wink isn't followed up by an email, I usually don't bother responding. How difficult is it to write a short email if you are interested?

[Anonymous]

I am a woman. I wink when I am lazy or when the guy's profile is really generic and I cannot think of anything to say. I do not respond to winks.

[Anonymous]

thanks, all. I guess I need to start sending emails - maybe tonight after a glass or two of wine I am female by the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I winked at someone. Now he is my husband

+1 I winked. He wrote back a three page response. All the more impressive because he can't type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just joined a few weeks ago. I'm female, not sure if you are male or female? I get a good amount of winks but I haven't returned one of them. My feeling is that if the guy can't take two seconds to write a quick email, he isn't that interested. Or that he is winking at everyone and just seeing who replies. I can see your side about not wanting to write emails to strangers but it can be something fairly simple. Comment on their profile, maybe a picture that you like. Basically anything to show you put just a little effort into it. Not sure if guys feel the same.

Good luck! This is my first time trying online dating and it's crazy! I'm learning as I go

This is how I felt too. I never responded to winks. Seemed juvenile to me. I switched to eharmony and met my husband there. If you have checked it out, eharmony is the most tedious of all

[Anonymous]

Have a friend take some amazing photos of you. I met my husband online. I know lots of couples who met online and every single guy said he skims the write ups and its the pic that gets his attention. These are not shallow men but they ARE men.

[Anonymous]

I am a woman and here is my hypothesis - see if you agree.

If a man winks at a woman, that is more likely to be a bad tactic because she will think he is lazy, not that interested. A woman winking at a man might be a more worthwhile tactic if it makes him take a look at her profile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman and here is my hypothesis - see if you agree.

If a man winks at a woman, that is more likely to be a bad tactic because she will think he is lazy, not that interested. A woman winking at a man might be a more worthwhile tactic if it makes him take a look at her profile.

as a single dad on match, I would agree with this - but the caveat is that the woman has to have some good photos and bring her game otherwise I wouldn't bother sending an email to her. I actually do read the profile and if there's nothing there despite good photos, I more than likely wouldn't respond. but maybe i'm just picky that way.