Would you apologize?
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Anonymous
| So, NYE my DH and I went to a really awesome party. I have a mild, harmless, crush on one of our friends and he was there. DH is completely aware of my crush and thinks its funny, has no problems with me flirting with this guy, etc. I'm sure everyone can see where this is going. DH ends up passing out way before the rest of us were ready to call it a night. I spent most of the rest of the party flirting with my friend while we were all drinking, dancing, etc. I ended up confessing my crush when we were alone and attempted to kiss him. He very appropriately and nicely turned me down. I apologized in my drunken state, we hugged and went to bed. The next morning everything was fine, he treated me 100% normal, huge hug when it was time to go home. I told my DH and he basically laughed at me. I feel like I should reach out to my friend and apologize now that I am 100% sober and embarassed. I don't want to hurt this friendship and we won't have an opportunity to actually see him in person for a couple months. Would you apologize again sober? Or just let it go since everything was normal when you said goodbye? I know I'm over thinking but I am so embarassed and I feel bad I put him in that position. |
Anonymous
| You just want an excuse to talk to him again. Get some individual therapy. You are a slow but definite train wreck. |
Anonymous
| I would rather forget it and not be reminded if the awkwardness. I would just be very sure to control my drinking next time you're around him. |
Anonymous
| What is happening - has DCUM been invaded by teen moms? These posts are ridiculous. Who does this stuff? |
Anonymous
| I would let it go and not say anything again. |
Anonymous
Studies show she is 28-34. OP, are you? |
Anonymous
People raised on reality shows. |
Anonymous
ah, sadly, no. Pushing 37. I wouldn't say I'm a train wreck by any means, just someone who got rip roaring drunk and lost control of my self control temporarily. I'm sure I'm not the only middle aged person who develops a slight crush on another person. |
Anonymous
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Umm, what about apologizing to your husband? Seriously?
Do not seek this guy out to apologize. Don't. As PP said, it's just an excuse to talk to him again. When and if you see him you can apologize to him then. Or if you text otherwise, you apologize in a text and forget about it. |
Anonymous
| If you got that drunk at your age, you may want to consider you have an issue with alcohol. You were in the wrong and personally I don't find any of your behavior amusing. |
Anonymous
| Wow this is really sad. |
Anonymous
Train wrecks are rarely predicted only analyzed post wreck and the injured parties are usually badly injured. You should read " No just Friends" by Shirley Glass. Everybody meets people who thy are attracted to, it is normal. Acting on it drunk or not is not normal. You want to justify it but it is not healthy. You really need some self reflection. |
Anonymous
| OP, you let your crush go too far, IMHO. If you have your friends email address, write him an apology note and leave it at that. You have no business messing with him, you are fortunate he's a respectable man. Your intentions clearly depict what you wanted to happen that evening, you just didn't get that lucky! Grow up and work on your marriage and on yourself. |
Anonymous
| These conflicted feelings are your subconscious telling you the friend could be your real soulmate, more so than your husband. A period of intimate relations could help determine whether this is so. |
Anonymous
At the age of almost 37 I understand why you are embarrassed. Perhaps you should make this new year the time to really think through what you wrote in your post and how being in such a position makes you appear utterly pathetic and foolish. I would be shocked if your other friends are not embarrassed by you too. |