Office party
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Anonymous
| I work for a medium size firm with about 20 people in my section, from management positions to clerical positions. A person had an holiday party at their home last weekend and invited everyone except me, including all the employees that report to me. My boss was blunt enough to mention that I was not invited before hand, once he saw the e-vite. The host and I have worked together for years, and I thought that, although not close, had a cordial relationship at least. (I know now, guess I was wrong about that one!) Is this type of thing commonplace or is this a big hint that I should pay attention to, or just blow off and move on? |
Anonymous
| That is the biggest piece of juvenile bullshit I have ever heard. That person would be dead to me, honestly. That's horrible. |
Anonymous
| Was your boss blunt to you abouting not being invited or to the host? If to the host, was there any response. |
Anonymous
| Juvenile and unprofessional. Sometimes ppl like that never understand or care how their actions affect others. Next year it's your party and he doesn't get an invite! Jk... maybe not. |
Anonymous
| OP - my boss is matter of fact, and mentioned it to me in a different context. In a sence I was grateful, it made it easier to hear about the party from others. |
Anonymous
Hmm, if he just mentioned it to you and not the host, is it possible you were just left off the evite by accident? |
Anonymous
Yes, I would have assumed that I was left off of the evite by accident. I would have mentioned it to the host. Or, if it was an open evite, I would have just RSVP'd yes on the assumption that it was an accident and not an asshole move. |
Anonymous
It is not commonplace and extremely rude. The fact that your boss and other employees tolerate such poor etiquette is the bigger problem. 
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Anonymous
| If I was the boss of that firm, I would almost mandate that everyone get invited. I know that it's technically not a work event, but it kind of was and sure as shit is going to impact the workforce. I can't fathom why he didn't put his foot down. |
Anonymous
| It was highly inappropriate. I am sorry that happened to you. I hope a lot of people asked the host "Where's Laura?" and they squirmed answering. |
Anonymous
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If I were the boss, I wouldn't have attended.
No, the boss has no place to tell an employee who she/he can or can't invite to a party. But the boss can refuse to participate in something like that. And he really should have. It was inappropriate and rude of the employee who threw the party. But it was downright unprofessional of the boss to attend, knowing that some (even if just one) of his staff were excluded. |
Anonymous
Come on, that has to be an innocent oversight. Now it's too late, but I would have asked your boss or someone you trusted to ask the hostess if she meant to exclude you. At this point, assume positive intentions until you get more information to change your thinking. |
Anonymous
| Something similar happened to me (multiple times)...for company sponsored events. However, the slight is more administrative...At my division, most of the people work at the company facility. I work on a customer's site, but in the next building to our office. So, I often go to lunch and stuff with my colleagues. But, when they send out invites, it goes to people whose office is officially in the building.... |
Anonymous
| Is there some way to get revenge on the person who didn't invite you? Any who went to the party who still aren't big fans of the host? You might enlist them. |
Anonymous
| OP it was not an oversight. |