Do you open your spouses mail?

[Anonymous]

I have been married for almost 15 years. My spouse and I get along and there are no huge issues. However, it bugs me incredibly that he opens up my mail. Is this something I should be upset about or am I overreacting? I have asked him not to do this before and he says, "What do you have to hide?". I have nothing to hide, but when it's addressed to me, I would like to open it. I dont open his mail.

[Anonymous]

It would only bother me if I specifically asked him not to do it and he still did it.

[Anonymous]

I do, but I'm trying to implement OHIO (only handle it once) for papers in my house. If he told me it bothered him, I'd stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been married for almost 15 years. My spouse and I get along and there are no huge issues. However, it bugs me incredibly that he opens up my mail. Is this something I should be upset about or am I overreacting? I have asked him not to do this before and he says, "What do you have to hide?". I have nothing to hide, but when it's addressed to me, I would like to open it. I dont open his mail.

Not intentionally. Sometimes I'll verify that something is junk before I shred it.

[Anonymous]

I don't open anything that looks like 'real' mail. I open/throw away any credit card offers, advertisements, etc.

I've been married 10 years.

[Anonymous]

How else are they going to find out if you're cheating. The same spouse probably covertly reads your email, too. But it's for the best.

[Anonymous]

Yes, because if I didn't , no one would. My husband couldn't care less about what comes in the mail.

[Anonymous]

Who gets real mail? I'd be upset if it was a letter or card addressed to me. Don't care about the other stuff, although I guess it would be annoying if he opened my credit card bills (not that I get those in the mail - all digital).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, because if I didn't , no one would. My husband couldn't care less about what comes in the mail.

pretty much.

My husband would never even get the mail if I didn't. Bills would go unpaid - it would be bad.

I open anything that looks official, like credit card statements and such. Or if we are waiting on a check or something. I leave anything else for him to decide on.

[Anonymous]

I only open his mail if he asks me to.

[Anonymous]

I don't open anything that has only his name on it. Even if it is clearly junk or a bill that needs to be paid. He opens it all right infront of me in the evenings usually and hands over any important items that need attention.
Even if he doesn't open it infront of me, I don't feel like opening his mail.

[Anonymous]

I do because she isn't timely on bill paying and will stuff our annual property tax assessment in a file without reviewing it. Anything remotely personal I leave alone.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I open his mail. If it is something hand addressed, I give it to him. If it's junk mail, a random credit card statement or something I know is benefits related, I open it. He and I have the same employer so I'm pretty familiar with everything we receive from HR.

[Anonymous]

Only if it's joint mail or obvious what it is and something that pertains to both if us (eg car registration or tax bills). Obvious junk gets recycled. He does the same with my mail. Personally addressed things get left for the addressee to open.

[Anonymous]

Husband checks and opens all mail. I don't care.