Does it irk you that your husband can't do anything domestic for the house?

[Anonymous]

My husband can't even change a light bulb, shovel snow, move furniture He says just to hire a handyman. We can afford it but to me everyone in the house should do domestic work and I still think about money spent for easy chores. My kids are to young and moving the patio furniture is hard. Yes he works long hours but weekends easy jobs should be easy to do.

[Anonymous]

My husband is the same way. I don't mind because he works a lot and honestly, on his time off, I would rather him spend it with our family doing something fun. As long as the job gets done, I don't care who does it....as long as it is not me.

[Anonymous]

Be thankful.
My dh is very handy and in theory could do just about anything around the house (plumbing, carpentry, electric-you name it) but he also has a full time job and three kids so nothing ever gets done to full completion.
Really, we have so many projects started and done to a functional point and then just left hanging while he moves onto his next project.
"Writing a check" is a great handy-man skill, trust me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband can't even change a light bulb, shovel snow, move furniture He says just to hire a handyman. We can afford it but to me everyone in the house should do domestic work and I still think about money spent for easy chores. My kids are to young and moving the patio furniture is hard. Yes he works long hours but weekends easy jobs should be easy to do.

He can't or won't?

That would be a huge turnoff to me.

[Anonymous]

OP, can you do auto mechanics?
Assuming that your husband loves you and all, leave the poor guy alone.

[Anonymous]

What kind of an upbringing did your husband have? If he grew up never having to do anything domestic for himself maybe he is worried that he doesn't know how to do these jobs right. Or he just has the mentality that other people do these jobs for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband can't even change a light bulb, shovel snow, move furniture He says just to hire a handyman. We can afford it but to me everyone in the house should do domestic work and I still think about money spent for easy chores. My kids are to young and moving the patio furniture is hard. Yes he works long hours but weekends easy jobs should be easy to do.

You married it.

I suppose one way to divorce would be to nag and harp at him. And emasculate him to others. Plenty of other disillusioned women have taken this path, and you seem to be starting on it.

But, it might be quicker and easier to just leave him now, or learn to just live with it. You made your choice.

[Anonymous]

So did he hide this behavior before you got married? Or was he the same way and you figured he'd change once he got married and in a house with you?

[Anonymous]

Why can't you do it?

[Anonymous]

It's ok if one person brings home all the bacon, and the other one does the house and children. That's why it's good to have two parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can't you do it?

Seriously. You see a lightbulb is out so you wait until your husband is home to change it? Do you need for him to drive you places too? Are you helpless in other ways?

[Anonymous]

I agree. You do it, OP, or hire it out.

[Anonymous]

Some women think home repairs are to men as water is to a Labrador. Wrong.

But there's a difference between not knowing how to do things and deigning not to handle things one can do.

[Anonymous]

I lived alone for a nice spell of my life and got by just fine. Then I got married and developed some learned helplessness that I am trying to break out of! Just do it yourself OP. Or at least try.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, can you do auto mechanics?
Assuming that your husband loves you and all, leave the poor guy alone.

Umm.. Really?? Auto mechanics? Reread her post. She's frustrated about easy stuff like changing a light bulb. Don't you think you are being a little harsh? I'd be pissed too.