Does it irk you that your husband can't do anything domestic for the house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, can you do auto mechanics?
Assuming that your husband loves you and all, leave the poor guy alone.

Not OP, but my husband does not have a single mechanical skill that I lack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is the same way. I don't mind because he works a lot and honestly, on his time off, I would rather him spend it with our family doing something fun. As long as the job gets done, I don't care who does it....as long as it is not me.

+1

[Anonymous]

It goes beyond not changing lightbulbs. My husband does very little house-related work. He mows the lawn and sometimes take out the trash. I keep my own car gassed up, washed, cleaned and maintained.

I change every bulb, have personally decorated, rearranged, moved and refininshed furniture around and hung pictures in every room.

I do all the gardening, raking, minor repairs and have peeled off wallpaper border off nearly every wall.

I renovated my laundry room solo. Ripped out cabinets, repainted and hung some shelves.

So frustrating! If I want something done, I do it myself or it doesn't get done. Husband never wants to pay for a handyman, either. Too cheap.

So, this Christmas, I've started some projects that won't be finished by time DH parents come over. Let them see that our kitchen light is not working, let them notice that the bathroom has lost all of the wall hooks. Let them deal with the hassle of a toilet that may or may not flush and enjoy the experience of a shower than turns into a bath (tub hasn't drained properly for years). I'm done nagging my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It goes beyond not changing lightbulbs. My husband does very little house-related work. He mows the lawn and sometimes take out the trash. I keep my own car gassed up, washed, cleaned and maintained.

I change every bulb, have personally decorated, rearranged, moved and refininshed furniture around and hung pictures in every room.

I do all the gardening, raking, minor repairs and have peeled off wallpaper border off nearly every wall.

I renovated my laundry room solo. Ripped out cabinets, repainted and hung some shelves.

So frustrating! If I want something done, I do it myself or it doesn't get done. Husband never wants to pay for a handyman, either. Too cheap.

So, this Christmas, I've started some projects that won't be finished by time DH parents come over. Let them see that our kitchen light is not working, let them notice that the bathroom has lost all of the wall hooks. Let them deal with the hassle of a toilet that may or may not flush and enjoy the experience of a shower than turns into a bath (tub hasn't drained properly for years). I'm done nagging my husband.

Why wouldn't you take care of your own car? WTF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It goes beyond not changing lightbulbs. My husband does very little house-related work. He mows the lawn and sometimes take out the trash. I keep my own car gassed up, washed, cleaned and maintained.

I change every bulb, have personally decorated, rearranged, moved and refininshed furniture around and hung pictures in every room.

I do all the gardening, raking, minor repairs and have peeled off wallpaper border off nearly every wall.

I renovated my laundry room solo. Ripped out cabinets, repainted and hung some shelves.

So frustrating! If I want something done, I do it myself or it doesn't get done. Husband never wants to pay for a handyman, either. Too cheap.

So, this Christmas, I've started some projects that won't be finished by time DH parents come over. Let them see that our kitchen light is not working, let them notice that the bathroom has lost all of the wall hooks. Let them deal with the hassle of a toilet that may or may not flush and enjoy the experience of a shower than turns into a bath (tub hasn't drained properly for years). I'm done nagging my husband.

+1 My DH has an excuse for every occasion. Now he throws a big ugly fit when he has to do normal work, like his dishes, pick up his clothes from the floor, take out the trash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband can't even change a light bulb, shovel snow, move furniture He says just to hire a handyman. We can afford it but to me everyone in the house should do domestic work and I still think about money spent for easy chores. My kids are to young and moving the patio furniture is hard. Yes he works long hours but weekends easy jobs should be easy to do.

Why would you need your husband to do these things for you? Just do them yourself or hire someone. I can't imagine leaving a lightbulb for someone else to change - how lazy is that. Get up there and change it. that is like your husband leaving you the empty toilet paper roll for you to change - you'd be annoyed he didn't just do it himself. I don't have a husband so I do all those things myself. Women aren't weak, helpless, needy delicate flowers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be thankful.
My dh is very handy and in theory could do just about anything around the house (plumbing, carpentry, electric-you name it) but he also has a full time job and three kids so nothing ever gets done to full completion.
Really, we have so many projects started and done to a functional point and then just left hanging while he moves onto his next project.
"Writing a check" is a great handy-man skill, trust me.

this is so my life and I can't stand it anymore. Constant projects, mess. I have come to dread renovating and home improvements. Grass is always greener I guess (with a little drywall dust and some 2 x4s on it)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do get frustrated at times. He grew up in a country where labor is cheap. I grew up poor doing it all myself. I'm the one who does house repairs 99% of the time because I don't want to spend the money. He'd hire everything out if he could. I wish he'd change a lightbulb of he saw it out. Without my having to ask him. That's probably what frustrates me the most. If something is obvious, fix it.

The boldface part of your post is incredibly ironic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband can't even change a light bulb, shovel snow, move furniture He says just to hire a handyman. We can afford it but to me everyone in the house should do domestic work and I still think about money spent for easy chores. My kids are to young and moving the patio furniture is hard. Yes he works long hours but weekends easy jobs should be easy to do.

Why would you need your husband to do these things for you? Just do them yourself or hire someone. I can't imagine leaving a lightbulb for someone else to change - how lazy is that. Get up there and change it. that is like your husband leaving you the empty toilet paper roll for you to change - you'd be annoyed he didn't just do it himself. I don't have a husband so I do all those things myself. Women aren't weak, helpless, needy delicate flowers.

OP, are you a SAHM? If you are at home and a light bulb goes out, you should change it. But things like moving furniture--that ought to be done by two people, generally--should be done together. The other thing is, if your kids are in school, then you really ought to be shouldering more of the household maintenance.

The point is why should OP be the one who does it 100% of the time. I agree that these are easy enough for ANYONE--man or woman--to accomplish. That is not the point. The point is that household work is not equitably divided.

OP, you need to write up a list of all the household tasks that need to be done and write next to each item who does it. Show the list to him, and then discuss what you both think is a fair division of labor, and what you agree can be outsourced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It goes beyond not changing lightbulbs. My husband does very little house-related work. He mows the lawn and sometimes take out the trash. I keep my own car gassed up, washed, cleaned and maintained.

I change every bulb, have personally decorated, rearranged, moved and refininshed furniture around and hung pictures in every room.

I do all the gardening, raking, minor repairs and have peeled off wallpaper border off nearly every wall.

I renovated my laundry room solo. Ripped out cabinets, repainted and hung some shelves.

So frustrating! If I want something done, I do it myself or it doesn't get done. Husband never wants to pay for a handyman, either. Too cheap.

So, this Christmas, I've started some projects that won't be finished by time DH parents come over. Let them see that our kitchen light is not working, let them notice that the bathroom has lost all of the wall hooks. Let them deal with the hassle of a toilet that may or may not flush and enjoy the experience of a shower than turns into a bath (tub hasn't drained properly for years). I'm done nagging my husband.

Question: Did he once do some of these things? Did you ever correct the way he did them? If so, that explains his attitude now. You can tell him what to do or you can tell him HOW to do it, but you don't get to do both.

[Anonymous]

A lot of you married pussified lazy men.

I hit the husband lottery ! There is nothing mine can't do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do get frustrated at times. He grew up in a country where labor is cheap. I grew up poor doing it all myself. I'm the one who does house repairs 99% of the time because I don't want to spend the money. He'd hire everything out if he could. I wish he'd change a lightbulb of he saw it out. Without my having to ask him. That's probably what frustrates me the most. If something is obvious, fix it.

The boldface part of your post is incredibly ironic.

It's only ironic because you assume I'm not doing anything else when asking him. Wish I had downtime like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do get frustrated at times. He grew up in a country where labor is cheap. I grew up poor doing it all myself. I'm the one who does house repairs 99% of the time because I don't want to spend the money. He'd hire everything out if he could. I wish he'd change a lightbulb of he saw it out. Without my having to ask him. That's probably what frustrates me the most. If something is obvious, fix it.

The boldface part of your post is incredibly ironic.

It's only ironic because you assume I'm not doing anything else when asking him. Wish I had downtime like that.

If your life is so busy that you don't have time to change a lightbulb, you have far bigger problems than a husband who doesn't shovel snow often enough.

[Anonymous]

Why are people assuming she needs things done "for" her? I assume couples should be splitting chores and repairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do get frustrated at times. He grew up in a country where labor is cheap. I grew up poor doing it all myself. I'm the one who does house repairs 99% of the time because I don't want to spend the money. He'd hire everything out if he could. I wish he'd change a lightbulb of he saw it out. Without my having to ask him. That's probably what frustrates me the most. If something is obvious, fix it.

The boldface part of your post is incredibly ironic.

It's only ironic because you assume I'm not doing anything else when asking him. Wish I had downtime like that.

If your life is so busy that you don't have time to change a lightbulb, you have far bigger problems than a husband who doesn't shovel snow often enough.

Like what?