I think I made a bad first impression

[Anonymous]

26 year old woman here, and I've been chatting with a guy (36) I met online recently. We had our first quick phone conversation last night and I was sooo nervous. I know that it showed and I'm pretty sure I made a bad first impression. What is the best way to move past this?

[Anonymous]

ignore. why did you feel it necessary to list your ages? that was weird.

[Anonymous]

How did you end the conversation? Are you meeting up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did you end the conversation? Are you meeting up?

Him: "So we're still on for video chatting on Monday, I guess then?"
Me: "Yes, that sounds good. Okay I'll talk to you later, goodnight"

We are planning to go out in person next month sometime

[Anonymous]

I have never cyberdated, but I'm really curious:

Is this the progression now? Create a profile, find a match, do some e-mails, talk on the phone, upgrade to video chat, and THEN meet in person?

Sounds ... awful.

[Anonymous]

Okay, then your next move is to be more relaxed. Just be yourself. Don't overthink this.

[Anonymous]

Video chat?? Do you not live near each other? That seems weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Video chat?? Do you not live near each other? That seems weird.

We live about an hour away from each other. He wanted to meet up this month but our schedules wouldn't allow it, so that's why we're waiting til January. The video chat was his idea, I was fine with just the occasional message until our actual date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Video chat?? Do you not live near each other? That seems weird.

We live about an hour away from each other. He wanted to meet up this month but our schedules wouldn't allow it, so that's why we're waiting til January. The video chat was his idea, I was fine with just the occasional message until our actual date.

OP, You'll be fine. Like the PP said--just relax. And don't listen to the "seems weird" posters. Some posters think everything is weird.

[Anonymous]

Video chat is smart on his end. Usually the people who avoid or delay meeting in person aren't physically what they portray themselves to be and are hoping that you fall for them first. He just wants to ensure he's not being "cat-fished" is all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Video chat?? Do you not live near each other? That seems weird.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Video chat is smart on his end. Usually the people who avoid or delay meeting in person aren't physically what they portray themselves to be and are hoping that you fall for them first. He just wants to ensure he's not being "cat-fished" is all.

I think you don't understand what cat fishing means.

The whole idea seems like lazy dating.

[Anonymous]

Too old for you. You're in your prime and he's APA. Look for a younger, healthier specimen.

[Anonymous]

Go find someone closer to your age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Too old for you. You're in your prime and he's APA. Look for a younger, healthier specimen.

I agree. There is something too methodical about his methods and at 36, he's going to be really set in his ways. Personally, I would not agree to a video chat. Too bad that you live an hour away. Make him drive to see you, for a real first date.