When you turn down a school, do you tell the truth or make up an excuse?

[Anonymous]

For example from another post- You thought the Admissions officer was obnoxious and a bad representative of the school or do you not go into it?

[Anonymous]

No need to give any reason unless you think you may apply again.

[Anonymous]

Not liking the admissions officer is a crazy reason to turn dwn a school.

No reason to give a reason unless you think you might apply again and it's a reason that makes the school looki good -- like we really like the school, but can't swing the finances now, or something like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not liking the admissions officer is a crazy reason to turn dwn a school.

No reason to give a reason unless you think you might apply again and it's a reason that makes the school looki good -- like we really like the school, but can't swing the finances now, or something like that.

+1 its like declining a job offer because you didn't like the HR recruiter. Completely irrational.

[Anonymous]

location is always a plausible excuse, especially in DC. If the it's not an obvious lie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: For example from another post- You thought the Admissions officer was obnoxious and a bad representative of the school or do you not go into it?

Why would you give any reason at all? I don't understand.

[Anonymous]

"Your school really sucks and you need a better attitude!" that's what I always say.

[Anonymous]

No need to give a reason. Just say "thanks for the offer and for their time, but we've decided to enroll Larla at another school."

[Anonymous]

You mean Mulva, no?

[Anonymous]

If you know you are going to turn down the school, then why apply? Or, perhaps you have already applied and you are discovering the school isn't for you. In that case, you might want to consider withdrawing your application. It saves the school some unnecessary work in evaluating your child and it opens up a spot for a family that does want a spot.

If you feel the need to give a reason, just can say you don't believe it is a good fit for your child (or family) at this time. Or, if it is after acceptance letters have been sent out, you can say that you found a better fit for your child.

You don't want to burn any bridges - you never know what the future brings and whether you might later find that school is a good choice for your family. (This might be an excuse for not withdrawing an already submitted application).

I agree with others RE Admissions Officer - once you are in the school, you will never interact with them again. And, they are not always a good representative of the school experience (which is unfortunate - as it would be nice if the school found someone who better represented the school). In our case - we love the admissions folks and are disappointed we don't get to interact with them more!

[Anonymous]

Just say thank you and move on. Don't burn bridges unnecesarrily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just say thank you and move on. Don't burn bridges unnecessarily.

I disagree. Dysfunctional organizations will never improve without accurate feedback. I have a motto: "I don't burn bridges, I blow them up."

In the long run people appreciate honest feedback.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say thank you and move on. Don't burn bridges unnecessarily.

I disagree. Dysfunctional organizations will never improve without accurate feedback. I have a motto: "I don't burn bridges, I blow them up."

In the long run people appreciate honest feedback.

In the long run you are dead.

[Anonymous]

...and you are ruining your kid's life by being so destructive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say thank you and move on. Don't burn bridges unnecessarily.

I disagree. Dysfunctional organizations will never improve without accurate feedback. I have a motto: "I don't burn bridges, I blow them up."

In the long run people appreciate honest feedback.

In the long run you are dead.

Hang on. OP if you really have issues with the AD, then, after you have declined the invitation to attend, you should write a letter to the head of the school politely explaining your experience. You should not 1) reject the school soley based on the AD or 2) be nasty to anyone.