Should a man reveal his income in a dating profile?
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Anonymous
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Male here. As someone who is private about money, I really feel like putting it on the profile is not only flaunting it but also will attract women for the wrong reasons. The income is around 200K/year -- which I have no problem admitting here since it's anonymous. Anyway, what I have done instead is to mention a couple things in my profile such as being a small business owner, which can be derived by women as meaning I likely have decent income.
But I wonder if I am missing out on some women who are not gold diggers but are looking for a stable financial partner who can makes enough to support the family should she wish to stay home with the kids, etc. I also wonder if I miss out on women in a similar income bracket who is looking for someone else in that bracket as it suggest similar personality traits and career aspirations. What is your reaction when seeing income listed? Should I list it? How many other men list it? I never look at other men's profiles. |
Anonymous
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Don't reveal your income because you can never be too sure about whether the site is secure. Also, it sounds desperate to list $$$ as one of your attributes. Meet the woman first before revealing any financial information.
Typically, men tend to keep this information to themselves well into the initial stages of the relationship. |
Anonymous
| You put it out there on a hook, you will attract a certain type of fish. If you don't like that kind of fish, don't do it. The woman who has similar values and life goals will realize your financial stability as she gets to know you. Be patient. |
Anonymous
| Hell no. |
Anonymous
| How about "financially stable" and leave it at that. |
Anonymous
| You could always choose the $100-$150K bracket. Not high enough to attract gold-diggers, and most of the financially stable, educated women I know would be fine with that income, so you wouldn't deter good women who want a guy who has some stability. |
Anonymous
| No, don't put it. Personally, I ignore the 'income' part of a guy's profile even though I am looking for safe/stable, etc. |
Anonymous
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No way. This area is crawling with gold diggers. Are you okay with being with one, potentially? And that would no the the worst of it. No way. |
Anonymous
| I'm a woman who is looking for men to date on line. I actually prefer when men do not list their income. It's not one of my primary concerns and would be turned off by someone who is "showing off" his wealth. I can support myself so it's not really an issue as long as the person I am dating is stable and has a career he funds rewarding. I'm in my 40s. |
Anonymous
| Say middle class 100k to 450k |
Anonymous
| I dont. Seems tacky. |
Anonymous
Yes. I try to respond to guys on the same page family wise, academically, and financially. $ for me can be a little less, equal, or more. A drastic difference with him under tends to fail. |
Anonymous
| Btw sale business in Internet speak means you sell vaccines door to door. If you don't care the amount of money your potential love brings in then by all means skip it. |
Anonymous
+1 I am also a woman who does online dating and I don't like it either. I find it to be boastful. The only aspects of your job/finances that I would really care about are whether you like your job, 'financially stable" etc. I also make more than $200k so I share your concerns, OP. I don't want people to focus on how much I make, but on the rest of what my profile says. I don't list it on my profile. |
Anonymous
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There is a chic on here trying to get married by 50. She's 48.
Introduce your self.... You must name your first born Larla and tell Jeff so he can post it. |