Moved to the burbs and I hate it

[Anonymous]

My husband and I lived in a tiny 800 square foot condo in Columbia Heights for 10 years and I absolutely loved it – loved the neighborhood, loved the walkability, loved the people, loved running into friends everywhere, loved the feel of tons of stuff happening right outside my front door. Place was tiny but cozy and I loved it.

Then we had a baby and ran out of room.

We looked for over a year with a very low budget, and 6 months ago in the Maryland burbs we found a decent-sized place in great condition, a mile from a metro. And I HATE IT. I hate not seeing anyone on the street, I hate being in a silent neighborhood surrounded by car-choked streets, I hate being in the freaking car ALL THE TIME, I hate spending time on the stupid lawn, I hate f’ing pressure to decorate for Christmas, I hate having nothing but old white people as neighbors.

Is it insane to try renting out this place and moving into a rental back in the city? It has only been six months, but I just despair about spending years of my life in this place.

[Anonymous]

Boring people are bored.

[Anonymous]

Not insane at all. Go for it.

You should always live in a place you love (within budget).

[Anonymous]

I feel you, I can't imagine living out in the suburbs. It sounds terrible.

However, financially, I'm not sure if it makes sense. You need to at least try and stick it out a year or two.

That being said - I would go out of my fing mind.

Good luck, we are waiting for you back here in the city, with open arms!

[Anonymous]

Sorry, no advice, OP but just wanted to say that I hope things get better! Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Something like this happened to me 18 years ago when I moved from the Upper West Side to Montclair, but I got used to it, mostly because it wasn't so car-centric and had little pockets of shopping among the residential, kind of like a village. But sounds like where you are there's not even that village-y feel. When we moved down here in 2002, even with little kids I vowed to live in the city no matter what. We managed it but I get that affordability is the problem. But you should absolutely move back to Columbia Heights. Sell your place, don't saddle yourself with a rental, ugh the headache. You can probably make do with a tiny apartment when you don't need lawn equipment, can do alot outside the house, and get rid of anything that doesn't do triple duty.

[Anonymous]

Stupid lawn?
Too much time in car?
Pressure to decorate?
You hate old white people?
I think the OP blames this all on her kid.

[Anonymous]

You would hate it worse raising a growing child in a 800 sq ft home. I had one child in a 1300 sq ft home and nearly went nuts with the lack of space. Do you really want to raise your child in a closet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My husband and I lived in a tiny 800 square foot condo in Columbia Heights for 10 years and I absolutely loved it – loved the neighborhood, loved the walkability, loved the people, loved running into friends everywhere, loved the feel of tons of stuff happening right outside my front door. Place was tiny but cozy and I loved it.

Then we had a baby and ran out of room.

We looked for over a year with a very low budget, and 6 months ago in the Maryland burbs we found a decent-sized place in great condition, a mile from a metro. And I HATE IT. I hate not seeing anyone on the street, I hate being in a silent neighborhood surrounded by car-choked streets, I hate being in the freaking car ALL THE TIME, I hate spending time on the stupid lawn, I hate f’ing pressure to decorate for Christmas, I hate having nothing but old white people as neighbors.

Is it insane to try renting out this place and moving into a rental back in the city? It has only been six months, but I just despair about spending years of my life in this place.

You are in the wrong nighborhood. Don't blame "the suburbs" for your problems. Find another area, one with young families and nearer activity. You problably thought all burbs were the same...they're not. I was much like you with the urbanity and reasons for moving, but we landed in an area with a ton of kids (in S. Arlington) and it's nice, although certainly way quieter than I'm used to.

[Anonymous]

Come on back!

[Anonymous]

Raising my child in a 'closet' in the city. He loves it. Three parks in walking distance, lots to do.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's stupid if that's what you want.

[Anonymous]

Spoiled

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way. We moved from Capitol Hill to MoCo to get our third child out of our closet (literally). I hate it, but we can't afford to move back to a big enough place to hold us all. It's a totally different lifestyle, and it turns out I hate driving!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My husband and I lived in a tiny 800 square foot condo in Columbia Heights for 10 years and I absolutely loved it – loved the neighborhood, loved the walkability, loved the people, loved running into friends everywhere, loved the feel of tons of stuff happening right outside my front door. Place was tiny but cozy and I loved it.

Then we had a baby and ran out of room.

We looked for over a year with a very low budget, and 6 months ago in the Maryland burbs we found a decent-sized place in great condition, a mile from a metro. And I HATE IT. I hate not seeing anyone on the street, I hate being in a silent neighborhood surrounded by car-choked streets, I hate being in the freaking car ALL THE TIME, I hate spending time on the stupid lawn, I hate f’ing pressure to decorate for Christmas, I hate having nothing but old white people as neighbors.

Is it insane to try renting out this place and moving into a rental back in the city? It has only been six months, but I just despair about spending years of my life in this place.

Everything about your post screams complete immaturity. Why on earth did you buy a place in the suburbs in the first place if you really want to live in a hispter neighborhood and pretend to be 23 the rest of your life?

Your poor child.