Relationship/couples counseling recommendations needed

[Anonymous]

My 10+ year marriage seems to be falling apart. We need help in a lot of areas. Does anyone have any good recommendations for therapists that are proactive and really get to the bottom of issues quickly.
Please. We are in the Herndon area but are willing to travel if the therapist is worth it.

[Anonymous]

anyone?

[Anonymous]

No suggestion, unfortunately, but looking for someone similar in the Falls Church, McLean, Tysons area.

[Anonymous]

Check for Counselors that use Imago therapy.

I read Getting the Love You Want a long time ago and thought it was just what we needed, but my DH and the counselor talked me into sticking with the therapist we were seeing. After six years (!) of useless therapy with that therapist, I finally called it quits and sought divorce. At that point DH finally said okay let's try your idea. We haven't done it yet because I'm still thinking divorce but with still a child at home I'm thinking maybe we should give the relationship one more chance. I think Imago focuses on understanding the other person's viewpoint, and offers specific guidelines on how to talk to each other constructively. That would have prevented the final straw in our couples therapy where DH called me an asshole threw the contents of his drink at me.

You can search local providers on Google, use "Imago Relationship Therapy"

From Wikipedia: Imago is a form of marriage therapy that takes a relationship approach rather than an individual approach to problem solving in a marriage.[1] Developed in 1980 in Dallas, Texas by Dr. Harville Hendrix, founder of the Samaritan Center of Relationship Therapy,[1] Imago means " 'the inner unconscious image of the opposite sex' or what you're looking for in a partner but aren't aware of."[2] Hendrix memorialized imago therapy in his 1988 book, Getting the Love You Want, A Guide for Couples.

[Anonymous]

My sense is that Imago requires that both partners are motivated to change, and to accept change from the other. My DH was looking to fix me, and so it fell apart when the spotlight turned to him.
Unfortunately we've had more bad luck with marriage counselors than good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Check for Counselors that use Imago therapy.

I read Getting the Love You Want a long time ago and thought it was just what we needed, but my DH and the counselor talked me into sticking with the therapist we were seeing. After six years (!) of useless therapy with that therapist, I finally called it quits and sought divorce. At that point DH finally said okay let's try your idea. We haven't done it yet because I'm still thinking divorce but with still a child at home I'm thinking maybe we should give the relationship one more chance. I think Imago focuses on understanding the other person's viewpoint, and offers specific guidelines on how to talk to each other constructively. That would have prevented the final straw in our couples therapy where DH called me an asshole threw the contents of his drink at me.

You can search local providers on Google, use "Imago Relationship Therapy"

From Wikipedia: Imago is a form of marriage therapy that takes a relationship approach rather than an individual approach to problem solving in a marriage.[1] Developed in 1980 in Dallas, Texas by Dr. Harville Hendrix, founder of the Samaritan Center of Relationship Therapy,[1] Imago means " 'the inner unconscious image of the opposite sex' or what you're looking for in a partner but aren't aware of."[2] Hendrix memorialized imago therapy in his 1988 book, Getting the Love You Want, A Guide for Couples.

We hated Imago therapy. It made things worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 10+ year marriage seems to be falling apart. We need help in a lot of areas. Does anyone have any good recommendations for therapists that are proactive and really get to the bottom of issues quickly.
Please. We are in the Herndon area but are willing to travel if the therapist is worth it.

Consider looking for solution oriented therapy. I've also heard it called "SOTB" or solution oriented brief therapy. Instead of trying to find the cause of issues which can sometimes take forever and go back to your childhood, they look for the actions you can take to improve things now. The entire point is to help things get better fast.

On the flip side, I've heard that it is similar to putting a band-aid on the problems, but won't really solve them. Still, I think it would be better to see improvement fast. You always have the option to continue with more traditional therapy to get to the bottom of things later. But if you don't see improvement fast, you may not still have a marriage, depending on just how bad your situation is.

[Anonymous]

Judy Mazza in Bethesda. Active approach therapy. The Best. Highly respected. She helped save my marriage.

Her website looks sterile, but she is far from that. www.familytherapy.com

[Anonymous]

Ditto 19:00.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:anyone?

Have you done a search here on DCUM? This is a common request.

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[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Paola Sandoval in Fairfax. Her Therapy Today website doesn't list couples counseling (she's a sexual assault trauma therapist) but she does do couples counseling as well. Evening and weekend appointments only/mostly.