Shopping for husbands?
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Anonymous
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So a new twenty something woman showed up at our church about a year or so ago. After being there a few weeks, I noticed she was flirting very heavily with our pastoral intern, who seemed uncomfortable with each advance she made. After he completed his studies and services, he was gone and hasn't been back in months.
About two months ago, I noticed her flirting again with our (married) vicar and constantly throwing herself at him. And now last week, it's becoming apparent that she is now flirting with our organist (also in a relationship). My mother and I were discussing it and came to the conclusion that she's probably shopping for a husband. At first I thought it was extremely desperate, but hey, if people look for mates online and at bars, why not at church? Has anyone else shopped for a husband? Or know anyone that has? Or know anyone who completely throws themselves at people all the time? |
Anonymous
| I thought this thread was going to be about buying husbands clothes. |
Anonymous
| She's not a gold digger, just looking for true love |
Anonymous
| Sorry. Lol. I always seem to do that with threads (completely unintentional). |
Anonymous
| She is single and she is trying to meet a nice guy at church? This is the opposite of salacious. |
Anonymous
OP said two of the men are married or in a relationship. Yes, salacious and inappropriate. |
Anonymous
I did too. I was ready for a discussion about Christmas gifts.... |
Anonymous
| Snapped episode. |
Anonymous
| Hitting on married men doesn't seem like a good husband-shopping strategy to me, but yes, I've known women who became involved in a church (or a club, or a sport, or a class, etc.) because they wanted to meet men. Seems pretty normal to me, except for the married men part. |
Anonymous
| They always say....want to meet a nice man, go to church. |
Anonymous
| Does she just have a flirtatious personality? Hitting on a married pastor seems really odd. |
Anonymous
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Op here: no, I don't think it's her personality that makes her seem that way. She presented an idea to our vicar for a community outreach event, and since our vicar knows I do that stuff, and since I'm really good friends with the vicar, he invited me to join. When I told her I would help out, and what time I get off of work, she seemed annoyed that I'd be there and changed the time to two hours earlier so I wouldn't be able to join.
It seems as if she's threatened by me (and several other single women) in our church, even though I have no desire to steal married men away from her, or their wives. |
Anonymous
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Daddy Issues. She has Daddy Issues. Stay far away. DH had this at work. The woman was incorrigible. She made an ass out of herself every single day at work, and didn't even realize it. I kind of felt bad for her, but not enough to tell her, since she went through so much trouble to bring it upon herself. Frankly, I don't think you have to say anything at all. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't worry about her unless she's trying to steal your partner. |
Anonymous
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While it's okay to "shop" for a significant other, I do not think it is ethical to flirt w/people who are already spoken for.
Does your church have a singles group? This might be the best place for this woman. |