Married Men, preferably sole providers, help!

[Anonymous]

My husband is the sole provider of our family while I stay at home. I am also a full time college student and our plan has always been that once our youngest (19 months) hits kindergarten, that I will return to work. Right now, my husband supports me staying at home and understands that with the costs of childcare, it is pointless for me to work right now. Even though I have his support as a stay at home mom and full time college student, I am having a hard time figuring out how I can support him/lift him up when he works way too much and we aren't where we'd like to be financially.

I keep reminding him that where we are as a family is a phase. We won't be a one income family forever but it isn't changing tomorrow either. We have everything we need (food, shelter, clothes on our backs) but my husband wants to be able to save and live a little without being paycheck to paycheck. I understand that as a man, he takes great pride in providing for us, and I make it a point to let him know that I appreciate him and his hard work.

What else can I do? Besides the obvious: don't spend what we don't have?

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is the sole provider of our family while I stay at home. I am also a full time college student and our plan has always been that once our youngest (19 months) hits kindergarten, that I will return to work. Right now, my husband supports me staying at home and understands that with the costs of childcare, it is pointless for me to work right now. Even though I have his support as a stay at home mom and full time college student, I am having a hard time figuring out how I can support him/lift him up when he works way too much and we aren't where we'd like to be financially.

I keep reminding him that where we are as a family is a phase. We won't be a one income family forever but it isn't changing tomorrow either. We have everything we need (food, shelter, clothes on our backs) but my husband wants to be able to save and live a little without being paycheck to paycheck. I understand that as a man, he takes great pride in providing for us, and I make it a point to let him know that I appreciate him and his hard work.

What else can I do? Besides the obvious: don't spend what we don't have?

Thank you!

Men don't generally need presents, especially if all of your money is coming from his job and money is tight. I tell my wife that lingerie for her counts as presents for me. If you go buy something slinky (or even kinky) and surprise him with it that will go a LONG way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is the sole provider of our family while I stay at home. I am also a full time college student and our plan has always been that once our youngest (19 months) hits kindergarten, that I will return to work. Right now, my husband supports me staying at home and understands that with the costs of childcare, it is pointless for me to work right now. Even though I have his support as a stay at home mom and full time college student, I am having a hard time figuring out how I can support him/lift him up when he works way too much and we aren't where we'd like to be financially.

I keep reminding him that where we are as a family is a phase. We won't be a one income family forever but it isn't changing tomorrow either. We have everything we need (food, shelter, clothes on our backs) but my husband wants to be able to save and live a little without being paycheck to paycheck. I understand that as a man, he takes great pride in providing for us, and I make it a point to let him know that I appreciate him and his hard work.

What else can I do? Besides the obvious: don't spend what we don't have?

Thank you!

Men don't generally need presents, especially if all of your money is coming from his job and money is tight. I tell my wife that lingerie for her counts as presents for me. If you go buy something slinky (or even kinky) and surprise him with it that will go a LONG way.

OP Here.

Yea, I wasn't going to get him a gift. He isn't a gift type person anyway.

Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Do you use childcare when you are in school? Is it online school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you use childcare when you are in school? Is it online school?

No childcare costs. Thankfully, we are blessed with family to watch the children while I am at school. I do all of my studying, papers and research after I put the kids in bed.

[Anonymous]

Do a good job running the household. Try and make sure he doesn't come home to chaos & no signs of dinner. Don't complain too much about the kids. Run errands for him to make his life easier. Oh, and blow jobs.

[Anonymous]

Cook him nice meals of foods that he likes. Encourage him to take some "me" time to relax.

[Anonymous]

The best gift you can give your husband is to go through your day, perform your studies well, and minimize the amount of drama he has to deal with when he gets home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you use childcare when you are in school? Is it online school?

No childcare costs. Thankfully, we are blessed with family to watch the children while I am at school. I do all of my studying, papers and research after I put the kids in bed.

Then you are blessed enough to be able to work (part time) with no child care cost to have extra spending money for hubby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you use childcare when you are in school? Is it online school?

No childcare costs. Thankfully, we are blessed with family to watch the children while I am at school. I do all of my studying, papers and research after I put the kids in bed.

Then you are blessed enough to be able to work (part time) with no child care cost to have extra spending money for hubby.

I have suggested that I work part time. My husband is not in agreement with this and is adamant that I need to finish school and raise our children. Even if I did work part time, our family that helps in elderly and is overwhelmed as it is. I would not expect them to keep my children while I then go to work after they have been at my house by %am for me to make it to the hospital for class by 6am.

[Anonymous]

**5am, sorry typing on phone.

[Anonymous]

I'm honestly not trying to be glib; but spontaneous, enthusiastic blowjobs make a guy feel like a superhero.

Doesn't take too long and it's free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm honestly not trying to be glib; but spontaneous, enthusiastic blowjobs make a guy feel like a superhero.

Doesn't take too long and it's free.

Truth.

[Anonymous]

Do not let him see commercials on tv, unsubscribe from any catalogs, etc. Basically, lower the advertising he is seeing reminding him of all the things he wants.

Also, lower home costs. I make my own yogurt, the family's bread, etc. We do picnics where I pack all the food from home instead of eating at a restaurant, and the change of scenery does us just as well.

Make sure you're getting any scholarships for school that you qualify for and using all non-loan financial aid that you can. Be sure you're taking as many courses at a time that you can while still keeping your grades up. That way you'll finish sooner rather than later. Be sure you're doing everything you need to in order to lay the tracks to getting a job promptly upon graduation. If that means an internship or part-time job or student teaching, find a way now to get those positions.

Oh, and I agree with the BJ's. Priceless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do a good job running the household. Try and make sure he doesn't come home to chaos & no signs of dinner. Don't complain too much about the kids. Run errands for him to make his life easier. Oh, and blow jobs.

sound like a lazy one.