should start buying coffee just to see him again?

[Anonymous]

I feel silly asking about this...especially that I am no in my teens or twenties!

About six months ago, I was walking toward my building in the morning, and this tall guy started talking to me and asked me if I was heading to Starbucks, I said no, he then asked what building I worked at and where I worked, I returned the questions. It was weird because during the whole conversation, I did not look at him once! I was feeling sick that morning, and was running late, and didn't even notice that he was interested in me ( I am divorced, haven't dated in a while, and swore men off) then we crossed the road and as I was saying " have a good day", I turn and see his face. Needless to say, I immediately regretted not going to Starbucks, he was handsome! and I really liked the way he approached me and talked to me, it took me a while to forget him.

Fast forward to about 3 weeks ago, we cross paths again, he and his male coworker were coming back from Starbucks and I was heading to my office. We both lock eyes, nod ( hi, i know who you are) then, sparks everywhere. I could tell he was happy to see me, I think the feeling was mutual.

Well, I cannot take him off of my head, I keep on reliving the second encounter, his face, the way he looked at me, the whole thing over and over again. I really want to see him again, and maybe talk to him. I know he goes to the Starbucks in my building, and I kind of know his timing. I am now considering going to the coffee shop at around the same time and see what happens. I really need to either get to know him or forget about him.

Any words of wisdom?

[Anonymous]

GO FOR IT!

[Anonymous]

Definitely go to Starbucks around that time. You might have to initiate this time since you blew him off the first time.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the encouragement. I never approached a guy in my life, but I think I can do this!

[Anonymous]

definitely go for it...deal with the elephant in the room (your first encounter) and make light of it - even go as far to joke that you thought it was a just another guy hitting on you, you had a lot to do that AM and didn't really want to deal with it...then, you really noticed him the second time around

he'll eat it up - we men love it when a sexy woman can laugh, make jokes and be flirty all at the same time. Don't be nervous, don't act like a teenage girl, just be relaxed, look good that day for sure, and HAVE FUN!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:definitely go for it...deal with the elephant in the room (your first encounter) and make light of it - even go as far to joke that you thought it was a just another guy hitting on you, you had a lot to do that AM and didn't really want to deal with it...then, you really noticed him the second time around

he'll eat it up - we men love it when a sexy woman can laugh, make jokes and be flirty all at the same time. Don't be nervous, don't act like a teenage girl, just be relaxed, look good that day for sure, and HAVE FUN!!

Thanks, I am making sure I look great everyday, just in case!! I've gotten lots of complements at work, LOL! I am definitely not going to act like I am reserved, I feel pretty sexy ( I haven't felt this way in a long time)
The tricky part is that I told him I didn't like Starbucks coffee, and it's true.

[Anonymous]

Order tea, or a pastry or some Smart Water instead, then.

[Anonymous]

Go for it! And don't forget to update!!!!

[Anonymous]

Yes, please go! And then report back!

I think you can ease into it since he's a regular there. Been there before OP. A guy flirted in the grocery store and joked that he wished I was texting him (I was sending a text to someone else). I gave him a half-smile, but never looked up at his face until I was walking off. He was a really handsome guy!

So as you can see, some of us are living vicariously through you. I really hope he's not working for the govt and on furlough this week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, please go! And then report back!

I think you can ease into it since he's a regular there. Been there before OP. A guy flirted in the grocery store and joked that he wished I was texting him (I was sending a text to someone else). I gave him a half-smile, but never looked up at his face until I was walking off. He was a really handsome guy!

So as you can see, some of us are living vicariously through you. I really hope he's not working for the govt and on furlough this week.

OP her, he's not a govt employee.

[Anonymous]

You totally should go for it. You have nothing to lose, and a lot to possibly gain. Don't worry about having told him you don't like Starbucks. If he figures out you are there specifically to see him, that's a good thing. If he thinks you were dishonest and blew him off the first time, that is a slightly bigger hurdle but easily explained once you get talking to him.

[Anonymous]

I agree, GO FOR IT, and report back! Us DCUMs need to live vicariously through you.

[Anonymous]

It's actually good that he knows you don't like Starbucks - that way, it should be clear to him that you're hanging out there trying to run into him, which will make it easier for him to take it to the next step. Just be honest - "I thought I'd stop in and perhaps run into you again."

[Anonymous]

Of course you should go to Starbucks. Duh!

[Anonymous]

I'm impressed you told him where you work. I would have wondered why he was asking!

Definitely stop by when you think he might be there. Please! Because I want to know that this sort of chance encounter can actually work! And sure you don't like Starbucks coffee...get one of those pretty iced teas. Or a cake pop, and then look all sexy eating it. Ok, just kidding on the last part -- but I hope you go for it!