God! My Boyfriend Can Be Such A Douchebag, Jerk, A-Hole, etc. !!!

[Anonymous]

Argh!!

Just got into another argument with my boyfriend. Been together only a few months, but have been fighting like cats & dogs lately and the fights have gotten uglier and uglier.

What makes me so mad is when we argue and I yell at him, he will put his fingers in his ears and yell, "La la la la...." and sing until I shut up. So basically he is drowning me out. I think this is so disrespectful.

Also, he's constantly accusing me of the weirdest things that have absolutely no merit. Like he will ask me if I am "spying" on him...What "agency" I work for. He is always accusing me of sleeping w/another man. I.e., my neighbor, co-worker....even the cop who gave me a traffic ticket last week. He searches my drawers, closets, etc. because he thinks I am hiding drugs. When I take a shower, he makes me keep the door open because he thinks I am secretly smoking meth in there. If he hears me sniff in the shower, he will accuse me of sniffing a drug. If I do not answer the phone for like a 20 min. period for God knows why, he will grill me over and over, accusing me of sleeping with another man. If I go to the kitchen to get a drink of water, I will turn around and he will magically appear out of nowhere and I will jump and he will say, "Why did you just jump?? What were you planning on doing? Trying to sneak a hit of some drug?"

At night, I cannot leave the bed to even take a pee, because if the notices I am gone, he goes berserk accusing me of leaving and either a). sleeping with a neighbor or b). doing drugs.

It's so damn hard living like this.

For the record, I have never EVER done anything to ever make him suspicious of cheating, doing drugs or spying on him. All of these accusations come from thin air and are ludicrous.

My friends think the reason he is always accusing me of doing all of this is obvious.
They claim it is him who is actually doing all of this so he just naturally assumes I must be as well.

I tend to think he is kinda schizo.
Or has had bad experiences with ex-GF's who cheated on him and lied about drug use, perhaps?

What do you all think?

[Anonymous]

Why don't you re-read your post out loud to yourself and then answer your own question?

[Anonymous]

He's doing drugs. And cheating. It's his guilt conscience putting the blame on you.
Or he has mental health issues.

Why are you still with him? And seriously -- how old are you two? The fact that he puts his fingers in his ears and says "la la la" during any argument?

[Anonymous]

You sounds nuts. You deserve eachother!

[Anonymous]

Run, run like the wind, and don't look back.

Seriously, you cannot be that desperate to have a boyfriend that you're willing to put up with this stuff. You need to get out fast.

[Anonymous]

'Or has had bad experiences with ex-GF's who cheated on him and lied about drug use, perhaps?'

This is a kind and blind explanation of your BF. He is way more sinister than you're giving him credit for.

You should dump him and take the time to look at yourself in the mirror. A long hard look at why you've been okay with this type of relationship for wayyyy to long. You attract people at your emotional level. Find out what you brought to the table so next time around you can be at an emotional level that is healthier. Then you can attract someone healthy as well. If you don't do this now you'll continue to have shitty and psycho boyfriends.

[Anonymous]

Why are you making excuses for this guy? You aren't married, you don't have kids, you don't own property together--GET OUT. Stop being such an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Would you be happy having kids with this guy? Would he make a great dad to a teenage girl? I don't think so.

So stop wasting time with him.

[Anonymous]

You have a son, right, OP? Listen to me very carefully: choosing shitty men over the well-being of your child will cause your child to grow up and have major resentments/anger/possibly hatred toward you.

What the fuck are you doing staying with this man??? What are you gaining from this? People do not continue with the same behavior unless they are gaining something from it. You think this man loves you? Ugh.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/325274.page

[Anonymous]

Paranoid Schizophrenia.

[Anonymous]

By the way, OP, staying with this man despite that it is horrendous for your son to be around him means that YOU are ALSO a "douchebag, jerk, a'-hole, etc."

You stated in your previous post about this that you think he could be a child molester, yet you are still with him???

Fuck you for continuing to put your child at risk.

[Anonymous]

Why do you even bother with him? Boyfriend my butt!
you wasting one second on him says you both deserve each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Run, run like the wind, and don't look back.

Seriously, you cannot be that desperate to have a boyfriend that you're willing to put up with this stuff. You need to get out fast.

+1 million

Save your life and run from this guy.

[Anonymous]

go make lots of babies with this gem!!

[Anonymous]

I think he has a son, not her.