This finger-walking 24/7 baby is going to be the end of us.
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Our 11 mo DD is trying to walk. She skipped crawling. She is rolling over, not sitting up well, and not interested in pulling herself up. She can stand assisted, walk holding fingers so well. She doesn't want to cruise without holding our hands. She will stand and play on something for a couple of minutes. But, most of the day, she wants to walk or run around the house. This requires us to be bent over with her holding one or both fingers. Kills. Our. Backs. She can stand up on her own, but won't pull herself up on things, she will only use our fingers to get up. She cries when left on the floor. She cries when we try to get her to crawl. She's not interested in playing on the floor on her own or trying to crawl at all.
It's like the universe says, "Oh? So you think skipping crawling would be cool? Lemme show you!" This has been going on for 3 months. We've seen a little progress week to week, but she's still completely dependent on us to get around. This baby not crawling, not pulling up, but finger walking 24/7 is going to be the end of us. I thought the end of this last wonder week two weeks ago would push us into something new, but we got not much. She's sitting up a little better. Ugh. To make matters worse, she won't let anyone else hold her or walk her around. We see family from time to time, and she screams if anyone else holds her besides DH, me, or my mom. We just visited family, and even though we were staying with people for days, people she's seen before several times, she didn't let anyone else walk her around. DH works too much (not by choice), barely sees her during the week. My mom, who watches her during the day, is about to fall apart. She is having a hard time with the bending over for 6 hours a day. I want to hire someone to help my mom with the walking a few hours a week, but no one is going to be able to hold her. What? We invest a month trying to coax her into letting someone else hold her for that person to be unavailable after that or something else happen? We don't have any other family in the area, no childless friends who can drop by regularly to try to get on her sweet side. What can we do to end this madness? |
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| Our DD was exactly the same and she qualified for services for early intervention. Not sitting well at this age is huge missed milestone and also not crawling for a school of thought in child development. |
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Try not to indulge her so much. Yes she may cry but her frustration might be enough to motivate her to work on other ways to get around or to work at pulling herself up and cruising on furniture. A little struggle on their part is ok.
Just wondering though, and I hope I'm choosing my words wisely because I don't want to say this wrong, but has her ped said anything about not sitting up properly? |
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| I think you need to talk to the ped about siting, tats really important for her core and likey the reason she can't walk alone but can walk holding your hands so well. Also crying will not kill her, it's OK to sit with her on the play mat and let her work on sitting while she crys. |
Anonymous
| At my daycare, I saw the women "walking" on their knees behind DS while finger-walking with him to save their backs - genius! It hurts my knees on a hard surface, but at least it gives my lower back a break! |
Anonymous
| Let her cry a bit and figure out how to move herself. She may not crawl but she might scoot in her own way. She has no reason to do that now as she has her own personal chauffers! |
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first of all, get a phys eval for the pulling up and crawling. there is probably nothing to worry about, but doesn't hurt.
secondly, get a long wooden (cooking) spoon and let her hold the wooden spoon while you hold the handle- you won't have to lean over as much as this will require extra effort on her part to balance and build walking muscles. thirdly get push toys-these are great for learning how to walk fourthly- stretch her frustration a bit, see if she can figure some things out on her own |
Anonymous
| Get a juppy on amazon- lets you assist without bending over. |
Anonymous
Crawling isn't even considered a developmental milestone by many pediatricians. |
Anonymous
that's a great idea! Have you tried a basic walker? even one with a tray that you could put toys or snacks on for her? Otherwise, I agree with PPs that you'll just have to stop indulging her so much if it's really getting to you. |
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There is now some research that suggests that crawling is important for brain development. When my DC was in EI, they stressed the imperative of crawling. |
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Fine motor development perhaps. Not brain development. Or maybe not: http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=crawling-may-be-unnecessary |
Anonymous
I was thinking this too, PP. OP, she may have weak core muscles and that's why she has trouble sitting up and wants to by-pass crawling. I think it would be worthwhile to call EI. She might need some PT. |
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| I'd be much less concerned about the crawling (movement is the milestone, not crawling per se) and more about the not sitting up well. At 11 months, that should be down pat. I'd also contact EI at this point for an eval. |
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Walker or push toy
Use a long, skinny blanket to loop -- she holds onto the loop, you hold the ends while you walk |