Family Beach House- DS and Friends Using it for Summer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Imagine believing this update about a “bidding war” LMAO

I absolutely believe it. Growing up my best friend's parents had a house on St. Simons. During college and law school her parents let her use it for the summer. Competition was FIERCE to get a spot. You have any idea who you rub elbows with in the summer down there? Judges, Senators, Congressmen, etc. These are people that can set you up for life.

Lol. Yes, why be a summer associate when you can hang in a shed on St. Simons!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The friend wasn’t looking for a place to rent at the beach. He also wasn’t shopping around for 3 months of free accommodations. He was simply excited about being invited to live with his buddy at the beach for the summer. What makes the friend (or his mom) a freeloader if there was no mention of a lease and rental fees until after the invitation was accepted?

And don’t forget, the reason for inviting the friend wasn’t because the family wanted to rent out their glorified shed; it was because OP’s son didn’t want to spend the whole summer away from all of his friends. If one of my friends wanted me to rent crappy accommodations (that cost them almost nothing!) from them for several months just so that they’d have me around to entertain them, I wouldn’t feel like that was a great deal.

That’s a child’s view. Someone else should pay for my housing if they want to be my friend. If it doesn’t work for him just decline the offer. It’s asking a lot to be a guest for 3 months. Some people have enormous homes and lots of extra room and feel like entertaining a guest for months on end. That’s a very small group. That don’t have a tiny old cottage.

You must have grown up very poor or been raised by stingy people to be so worried about the nominal cost of having a friend use water and electricity for the summer. “I want a friend nearby, so please stay in the shed behind my beach house so I won’t be lonely. P.S. You’ll need to pay me.” There’s no way to spin that that doesn’t sound like a major social feau pas. Sure, the kid should definitely contribute something in exchange for staying on their property, but this was handled very poorly.

I agree. The sad thing is the son and friend are probably now embarrassed beyond belief. They may not find jobs and probably only p/t at that age.

Does this old house have smoke detectors, and fire extinguishers? Are the smoke detectors frequently checked? That would be my main concern if I allowed guests to use it from time to time.

It’s faux pas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Imagine believing this update about a “bidding war” LMAO

I absolutely believe it. Growing up my best friend's parents had a house on St. Simons. During college and law school her parents let her use it for the summer. Competition was FIERCE to get a spot. You have any idea who you rub elbows with in the summer down there? Judges, Senators, Congressmen, etc. These are people that can set you up for life.

Lol. Yes, why be a summer associate when you can hang in a shed on St. Simons!

Lol indeed. Judges are really looking for clerks who bum around in a shed at a resort. That's the main hiring pool, so to speak.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow.

OP here.

So many angry people. Maybe you wouldn't be so angry if you had a beach house?

Anyway, update.

First kids mom has come grovelling back asking over the course of three emails if her kid could please join the beach house. She apologized profusely and claimed she'd been emotional when she sent the email. Answer was "Too bad, so sad"

Three other boys have since come forward asking if they could rent the other bunks in the bunk house and they got into a bidding war- offering $2000 each. DH and BILs said no because of the septic system. I thought they were foolish because for 7k you could almost replace the system which is nearing its end of life anyway.

So- here's the takeaway if you're a mom. Keep your gossipy mouth shut and play nice. Because it will cost your kid socially big time.

Maybe you woudn't be if you owned one? Because you don't--it belongs to others, remember?

Also, you're quite loose with the truth and have been called out numerous times. Give it up, we can all tell.

She most certainly owns a share. Marital property is marital property.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Imagine believing this update about a “bidding war” LMAO

I absolutely believe it. Growing up my best friend's parents had a house on St. Simons. During college and law school her parents let her use it for the summer. Competition was FIERCE to get a spot. You have any idea who you rub elbows with in the summer down there? Judges, Senators, Congressmen, etc. These are people that can set you up for life.

Lol. Yes, why be a summer associate when you can hang in a shed on St. Simons!

Lol indeed. Judges are really looking for clerks who bum around in a shed at a resort. That's the main hiring pool, so to speak.

Uhh, being a clerk is the only way to climb? Somebody needs to tell this guy about networking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is paying $1000 a month this summer to share a bedroom in a 3 bedroom cottage with one bath.

Indoors. With plumbing.

Right. Just like OP's friend. His room is indoors in conditioned space and comes with plumbing.

[Anonymous]

It would have been more equitable to charge all or charge none. If you had charged all, you could have put the money back into maintaining the house. At least make them all put in a damage deposit and explain that they will be responsible for any damage. All these kids living in a "very special" beach house has the potential for disaster.

No, the mother's behavior was not appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow.

OP here.

So many angry people. Maybe you wouldn't be so angry if you had a beach house?

Anyway, update.

First kids mom has come grovelling back asking over the course of three emails if her kid could please join the beach house. She apologized profusely and claimed she'd been emotional when she sent the email. Answer was "Too bad, so sad"

Three other boys have since come forward asking if they could rent the other bunks in the bunk house and they got into a bidding war- offering $2000 each. DH and BILs said no because of the septic system. I thought they were foolish because for 7k you could almost replace the system which is nearing its end of life anyway.

So- here's the takeaway if you're a mom. Keep your gossipy mouth shut and play nice. Because it will cost your kid socially big time.

Maybe you woudn't be if you owned one? Because you don't--it belongs to others, remember?

Also, you're quite loose with the truth and have been called out numerous times. Give it up, we can all tell.

She most certainly owns a share. Marital property is marital property.

And this would be an instance where property is not marital property. A house that has been in the other family for years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It would have been more equitable to charge all or charge none. If you had charged all, you could have put the money back into maintaining the house. At least make them all put in a damage deposit and explain that they will be responsible for any damage. All these kids living in a "very special" beach house has the potential for disaster.

No, the mother's behavior was not appropriate.

Who charges their kid to stay in their house? Especially when said kid is taking care of the maintenance. Bizarre parenting there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow.

OP here.

So many angry people. Maybe you wouldn't be so angry if you had a beach house?

Anyway, update.

First kids mom has come grovelling back asking over the course of three emails if her kid could please join the beach house. She apologized profusely and claimed she'd been emotional when she sent the email. Answer was "Too bad, so sad"

Three other boys have since come forward asking if they could rent the other bunks in the bunk house and they got into a bidding war- offering $2000 each. DH and BILs said no because of the septic system. I thought they were foolish because for 7k you could almost replace the system which is nearing its end of life anyway.

So- here's the takeaway if you're a mom. Keep your gossipy mouth shut and play nice. Because it will cost your kid socially big time.

As you've described it here and located in NC? No thank you.

Other mom probably found this site. And pegged you for what you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is paying $1000 a month this summer to share a bedroom in a 3 bedroom cottage with one bath.

Indoors. With plumbing.

Right. Just like OP's friend. His room is indoors in conditioned space and comes with plumbing.

Right. In the MAIN generational house. lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is paying $1000 a month this summer to share a bedroom in a 3 bedroom cottage with one bath.

Indoors. With plumbing.

Right. Just like OP's friend. His room is indoors in conditioned space and comes with plumbing.

Right. In the MAIN generational house. lol

So proximity matters? The kid in the shed could very easily be closer to water and kitchen then a kid upstairs and down a hall. You don't know and never will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It would have been more equitable to charge all or charge none. If you had charged all, you could have put the money back into maintaining the house. At least make them all put in a damage deposit and explain that they will be responsible for any damage. All these kids living in a "very special" beach house has the potential for disaster.

No, the mother's behavior was not appropriate.

Who charges their kid to stay in their house? Especially when said kid is taking care of the maintenance. Bizarre parenting there.

OP didn't say the kids are taking care of the maintenance in her opening post (haven't read all posts); OP said they were working at the beach .

[Anonymous]

Awkward situation. OP is not really in the position to demand that the cousins pay to stay in their own home. It wasn’t handled well but that’s because the friends mom went overboard. It’s hard to think that someone expects to stay all summer in someone’s else home with no real discussion of how it would work out and quickly jumps to conclusions.

[Anonymous]

Wow.

OP here.

So many angry people. Maybe you wouldn't be so angry if you had a beach house?

OP, I’m sitting in my beach house right now. My beach house, not one that I share with my husband’s family. And I think you’re ridiculous.