What parts of your life/lifestyle are unapproved by DCUM standards?

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t pay a dime towards our kid’s college education. While we fund some expenses, the loans and majority is on her.

Does she commute from your house? Is she on a full-tuition scholarship? Is she at a community college? Does she have a full-time job?

Not sure how that’s possible otherwise unless you’re understating what you mean when you say “we fund some expenses.”

It is called been working and saving since 11. College is four hours away at a state Uni. Tuition almost laid for but not room and board. We give 200 a month for gas and pay car insurance. Books are on her too.

We buy some groceries but she pays for hello fresh, her apartment, electric, rental insurance. She won't be able to work full time going forward for next two years so it is college loans.

She paid cash for her used car.

What does an 11 year old do for work?

And are you low-income? If not, why would you put her in this position?

Kids can ref soccer as an AR starting at 11. Lifeguarding and more.

We didn't "put" her in any position. We paid for our college and paid off our loans in less than 10 years.

We did

It is your responsibility to pay for your child’s university education; that is why the FAFSA asks about & bases EFC on parental assets.

No worries, your daughter has leverage here to restrict your access to your future grandkids.

So says the anonymous Chairborne Ranger.

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t pay a dime towards our kid’s college education. While we fund some expenses, the loans and majority is on her.

Does she commute from your house? Is she on a full-tuition scholarship? Is she at a community college? Does she have a full-time job?

Not sure how that’s possible otherwise unless you’re understating what you mean when you say “we fund some expenses.”

It is called been working and saving since 11. College is four hours away at a state Uni. Tuition almost laid for but not room and board. We give 200 a month for gas and pay car insurance. Books are on her too.

We buy some groceries but she pays for hello fresh, her apartment, electric, rental insurance. She won't be able to work full time going forward for next two years so it is college loans.

She paid cash for her used car.

What does an 11 year old do for work?

And are you low-income? If not, why would you put her in this position?

Kids can ref soccer as an AR starting at 11. Lifeguarding and more.

We didn't "put" her in any position. We paid for our college and paid off our loans in less than 10 years.

We did

It is your responsibility to pay for your child’s university education; that is why the FAFSA asks about & bases EFC on parental assets.

No worries, your daughter has leverage here to restrict your access to your future grandkids.

So says the anonymous Chairborne Ranger.

You mean the PP who thinks it’s a badge of honor to neglect her daughter?

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Anonymous wrote:If there is one person in the world who exemplifies all that DCUM holds dear, it is Katie Ledecky. Multiple gold medals, National Merit Scholar, Stone Ridge and Stanford, etc. Kind, classy, not flashy. Father is a Harvard/Yale educated biglaw attorney.

So true!

Also brother is a Harvard MBA

This is not a knock against Katie, but her appearance is just everything I imagine DCUM's to approve of. Not overweight, very fit (obviously). Simple haircut. Clean look. Her style seems to be preppy, modest (but not weird), muted, classic, simple. Makeup, but very natural look. No visible logos. Straight teeth. Simple jewelry.

Family lives in Bethesda. House is spacious, but not gaudy. Brick colonial. (My parents live a few blocks away, don't judge.) I'm sure it is very classy and clean on the inside.

Even her and her brother's names exemplify the DCUM dream: Katie and Michael. Simple. "Classic."

She seems utterly sexless.

What a bizarre comment. Is her sexuality supposed to be public? Is she supposed to be sexy on top of being a record breaking Olympic athlete? Like, what are you looking for out of this woman living her life?

It's very rare for a 26 year old to come off as completely sexless, so it is worth noting. I think it's true that DCUM approves of this, as the forum is mainly composed of rather unattractive, socially conservative, rule-following people.

You are so creepy. Eww.

Oh, are you the person who thinks no one should ever notice anyone else sexually, who was posting on the thread about that 40 year old man who approached a college age woman? You thought the police should be notified because one adult approached another adult? Yeah, get wrecked.

I have no idea what you are talking about.

But you are obviously creepy.

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Anonymous wrote:If there is one person in the world who exemplifies all that DCUM holds dear, it is Katie Ledecky. Multiple gold medals, National Merit Scholar, Stone Ridge and Stanford, etc. Kind, classy, not flashy. Father is a Harvard/Yale educated biglaw attorney.

So true!

Also brother is a Harvard MBA

This is not a knock against Katie, but her appearance is just everything I imagine DCUM's to approve of. Not overweight, very fit (obviously). Simple haircut. Clean look. Her style seems to be preppy, modest (but not weird), muted, classic, simple. Makeup, but very natural look. No visible logos. Straight teeth. Simple jewelry.

Family lives in Bethesda. House is spacious, but not gaudy. Brick colonial. (My parents live a few blocks away, don't judge.) I'm sure it is very classy and clean on the inside.

Even her and her brother's names exemplify the DCUM dream: Katie and Michael. Simple. "Classic."

She seems utterly sexless.

What a bizarre comment. Is her sexuality supposed to be public? Is she supposed to be sexy on top of being a record breaking Olympic athlete? Like, what are you looking for out of this woman living her life?

It's very rare for a 26 year old to come off as completely sexless, so it is worth noting. I think it's true that DCUM approves of this, as the forum is mainly composed of rather unattractive, socially conservative, rule-following people.

You are so creepy. Eww.

Oh, are you the person who thinks no one should ever notice anyone else sexually, who was posting on the thread about that 40 year old man who approached a college age woman? You thought the police should be notified because one adult approached another adult? Yeah, get wrecked.

I have no idea what you are talking about.

But you are obviously creepy.

DP. Why are you running interference? Are you that upset that a 40 year old man mistook a 20 tear old woman for a 28 year old woman?

You're going to have to deal with it not being creepy; because it isn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter and I have matching tramp stamps.

What design and why?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None of my 3DC were identified as gifted nor recommended for Advanced Academic Placement.

I had no interest in attempting a parent/psychologist referral, either.

Those were dire straits, indeed. Really bold move to reject therapy after a diagnosis of “Average.”

[Anonymous]

We have no interest in TJ Admission!

[Anonymous]

Watched TV shows & movies with our kids at a young age that DCUM would consider extremely inappropriate. And I don’t mean horror movies.

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Anonymous wrote:If there is one person in the world who exemplifies all that DCUM holds dear, it is Katie Ledecky. Multiple gold medals, National Merit Scholar, Stone Ridge and Stanford, etc. Kind, classy, not flashy. Father is a Harvard/Yale educated biglaw attorney.

So true!

Also brother is a Harvard MBA

This is not a knock against Katie, but her appearance is just everything I imagine DCUM's to approve of. Not overweight, very fit (obviously). Simple haircut. Clean look. Her style seems to be preppy, modest (but not weird), muted, classic, simple. Makeup, but very natural look. No visible logos. Straight teeth. Simple jewelry.

Family lives in Bethesda. House is spacious, but not gaudy. Brick colonial. (My parents live a few blocks away, don't judge.) I'm sure it is very classy and clean on the inside.

Even her and her brother's names exemplify the DCUM dream: Katie and Michael. Simple. "Classic."

She seems utterly sexless.

Like PP said, she is everything DCUM approves of. Including that.

Her appearance is nothing to envy.

—dh

She doesn’t exist to be your sex toy.

Of course not, and I’m sure she’s a wonderful person. I am simply saying that no one needs to be envious of her appearance.

Are you joking? She’s trim and fit!

She has an older aesthetic. Nothing wrong with that, but she has a different look than the typical 26 y/o in 2023.

You mean a size 10 or higher wearing oversized sweatshirts and leggings?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If there is one person in the world who exemplifies all that DCUM holds dear, it is Katie Ledecky. Multiple gold medals, National Merit Scholar, Stone Ridge and Stanford, etc. Kind, classy, not flashy. Father is a Harvard/Yale educated biglaw attorney.

So true!

Also brother is a Harvard MBA

This is not a knock against Katie, but her appearance is just everything I imagine DCUM's to approve of. Not overweight, very fit (obviously). Simple haircut. Clean look. Her style seems to be preppy, modest (but not weird), muted, classic, simple. Makeup, but very natural look. No visible logos. Straight teeth. Simple jewelry.

Family lives in Bethesda. House is spacious, but not gaudy. Brick colonial. (My parents live a few blocks away, don't judge.) I'm sure it is very classy and clean on the inside.

Even her and her brother's names exemplify the DCUM dream: Katie and Michael. Simple. "Classic."

She seems utterly sexless.

Like PP said, she is everything DCUM approves of. Including that.

Her appearance is nothing to envy.

—dh

She doesn’t exist to be your sex toy.

Of course not, and I’m sure she’s a wonderful person. I am simply saying that no one needs to be envious of her appearance.

Are you joking? She’s trim and fit!

She has an older aesthetic. Nothing wrong with that, but she has a different look than the typical 26 y/o in 2023.

You mean a size 10 or higher wearing oversized sweatshirts and leggings?

No, I mean her short haircut, bangs and earrings. And her dressing like a matronly 45 year old woman. She wears a lot of blouses.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t pay a dime towards our kid’s college education. While we fund some expenses, the loans and majority is on her.

Does she commute from your house? Is she on a full-tuition scholarship? Is she at a community college? Does she have a full-time job?

Not sure how that’s possible otherwise unless you’re understating what you mean when you say “we fund some expenses.”

It is called been working and saving since 11. College is four hours away at a state Uni. Tuition almost laid for but not room and board. We give 200 a month for gas and pay car insurance. Books are on her too.

We buy some groceries but she pays for hello fresh, her apartment, electric, rental insurance. She won't be able to work full time going forward for next two years so it is college loans.

She paid cash for her used car.

What does an 11 year old do for work?

And are you low-income? If not, why would you put her in this position?

Kids can ref soccer as an AR starting at 11. Lifeguarding and more.

We didn't "put" her in any position. We paid for our college and paid off our loans in less than 10 years.

We did

Oh right, the 11-year-old life guard certification. How interesting/terrifying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:None of my 3DC were identified as gifted nor recommended for Advanced Academic Placement.

I had no interest in attempting a parent/psychologist referral, either.

Those were dire straits, indeed. Really bold move to reject therapy after a diagnosis of “Average.”

PP and in my corner of the world, parents moved to our neighborhood so that their DC could gain admission to the
AAP Center school. Very much base vs. AAP parents. I posted many times but “base kid” was a playground and bus taunt from the AAP students.

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t pay a dime towards our kid’s college education. While we fund some expenses, the loans and majority is on her.

Does she commute from your house? Is she on a full-tuition scholarship? Is she at a community college? Does she have a full-time job?

Not sure how that’s possible otherwise unless you’re understating what you mean when you say “we fund some expenses.”

It is called been working and saving since 11. College is four hours away at a state Uni. Tuition almost laid for but not room and board. We give 200 a month for gas and pay car insurance. Books are on her too.

We buy some groceries but she pays for hello fresh, her apartment, electric, rental insurance. She won't be able to work full time going forward for next two years so it is college loans.

She paid cash for her used car.

What does an 11 year old do for work?

And are you low-income? If not, why would you put her in this position?

Kids can ref soccer as an AR starting at 11. Lifeguarding and more.

We didn't "put" her in any position. We paid for our college and paid off our loans in less than 10 years.

We did

It is your responsibility to pay for your child’s university education; that is why the FAFSA asks about & bases EFC on parental assets.

No worries, your daughter has leverage here to restrict your access to your future grandkids.

So says the anonymous Chairborne Ranger.

You mean the PP who thinks it’s a badge of honor to neglect her daughter?

Oh sure not paying for college for your kid is obvious neglect. What a moron!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don’t pay a dime towards our kid’s college education. While we fund some expenses, the loans and majority is on her.

Does she commute from your house? Is she on a full-tuition scholarship? Is she at a community college? Does she have a full-time job?

Not sure how that’s possible otherwise unless you’re understating what you mean when you say “we fund some expenses.”

It is called been working and saving since 11. College is four hours away at a state Uni. Tuition almost laid for but not room and board. We give 200 a month for gas and pay car insurance. Books are on her too.

We buy some groceries but she pays for hello fresh, her apartment, electric, rental insurance. She won't be able to work full time going forward for next two years so it is college loans.

She paid cash for her used car.

What does an 11 year old do for work?

And are you low-income? If not, why would you put her in this position?

Kids can ref soccer as an AR starting at 11. Lifeguarding and more.

We didn't "put" her in any position. We paid for our college and paid off our loans in less than 10 years.

We did

Oh right, the 11-year-old life guard certification. How

interesting/terrifying.

I believe you misread that. An 11 year old can ref and the PP daughter also earned money lifeguarding which can start at 15 here. There is also babysitting and dog sitting and saving.

[Anonymous]

My family are foodies, all of them. (Today I learned that DCUM doesn’t approve of this)