Please don’t let your children eat common allergens while playing on public playground equipment

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Anonymous wrote:It’s amazing that people are here claiming that nuts are the “only food” their kids can eat. BS. Have your child eat other foods, it’s not that hard

Nobody owes you an explanation of what their kids will or won't eat. Work with the park officials to make a nut free park because this is not the way. And as you know first it will be you with the nuts, then someone else with dairy, then the next person with wheat. it will never stop. You can't control others.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. I have one child with anaphylactic allergies to peanuts and pistachios, and another without. We are always mindful to eat cleanly in public spaces so as not to pose a threat to others, or my own son.

It’s the plane that’s terrifying. Even with two Epipens. People eating nuts and no way for the plan to land in time.

Anaphylactic reactions to airborne peanut dust are non-existent. These reactions are rare and mild. (Seafood and wheat can be a different story.)

Hopefully this will at least help you feel less stressed on the plane.

Oh man - I had a lady eat a whole basket of shrimp in the window seat when I was on the aisle seat. I almost barfed.
Seafood is not acceptable for closed spaces with no opportunity to leave/ventilate.

It was also in reference to the fact that seafood has airborne reactions at higher rates. https://www.allergicliving.com/2010/10/04/whats-the-scoop-on-airborne-seafood-reactions/ because of the simple fact that the proteins are essentially aerosoled when cooked or served piping hot.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread reminds me of a recent post on my neighborhood's Nextdoor group where a woman wanted everyone to stop using their fireplaces and woodstoves because the smoke triggers her asthma when she goes for walks.

We'll get right on that!

Omg people are effing ridiculous. Truly.

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Peanut butter is a food bank staple. Check your privilege.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t take your kid to a public park.

Life is not fair. Sorry. My kid had cancer as a little kid. Back then I couldn’t ask people to wear masks, wash hands, get vaccinated so we could go to story time. It sucked. Life is not fair.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s amazing that people are here claiming that nuts are the “only food” their kids can eat. BS. Have your child eat other foods, it’s not that hard

Nobody owes you an explanation of what their kids will or won't eat. Work with the park officials to make a nut free park because this is not the way. And as you know first it will be you with the nuts, then someone else with dairy, then the next person with wheat. it will never stop. You can't control others.

+1

The nut allergy community is, truly, nuts. Pun intended. The lack of empathy for other special needs kids and total lack of situational awareness is almost comical. Classic projection calling other people selfish when they point out the impracticality and pitfalls of nut bans. It's the quintessential self-absorbed entitled rich person disease.

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Anonymous wrote:Peanut butter is a food bank staple. Check your privilege.

Very good point. Not everyone can afford sunbutter or risk wasting the money if they buy it and their kids refuse it.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait until your child gets to elementary school, high school, college and the work world. Are you going to tell your child’s roommates they can’t eat almonds?

Actually yes. We only will be able to send her to peanut free schools. In college she will have to request a peanut free roommate unless she grows out of it. And we’re working on it.

These don’t exist. Maybe preschools.

Good luck.

Yes, they do?!

My DD's public elementary school was 100% peanut free due to kids with severe allergies. We received numerous notices prior to the start of every school year to remind us/inform new parents. They sent lists of alternative nut butters that were approved instead. There was even an open house event that had samples of different nut butters so kids could try alternatives.

My kids school is supposed to be nut free and there are kids there every day with nuts in their lunchboxes!!! My own kid will only eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich so we just tell him it’s sunflower seed butter and not to share it with other kids! The nut free allergy kids I know are smart and don’t eat anything from other kids.

I also have a kid who will only eat peanut butter sandwiches for lunch. We tried various meats and other good sources of protein, but for a kid with severe feeding issues that require OT, everything else is just too damn difficult for my kid to eat in the very very short lunch period. Nut allergy parents assume every kid can just eat something else and be fine and that only their kids have special snowflake problems. I really wish I had more empathy for nut allergy parents, but I have been dealing with my kid's neurological and feeding issues for too long and I am f'ing exhausted! Nut allergy kids are not my problem. I have enough problems.

Selfish pig

This is obviously a troll post, but the idea that everyone must care about other people's children as much as they care about their own is so stupid. There is absolutely nothing selfish about a parent working themselves to exhaustion to meet their own child's needs and not having anything left over to accommodate some **hypothetical** stranger's child's needs. Do you go around whispering and never whistling because there exist children with sensory issues who react badly to certain loud noises? Do you forego deodorant and perfume because there exist children with sensitivity to fragrances? If not, you too are a selfish pig.

+1 what about my nephew who is autistic and can’t come to the playground because of the loud noise screaming kids make? Should we expect all kids at the playground to speak quietly and never scream? Why are parents so selfish and can’t teach their kids not to scream at the playground?

OP, my kids don’t eat nuts or similar products. They actually never eat at the playground unless there is a birthday party. I would be 100% happy to do whatever your child need if you ask me, but I don’t have the mental space to start considering the various needs of all the different kids/people out there when I have my own 3 kids’ needs, my job, my family to think about. Where do you people find the time to start considering all the possible people’s needs out there?

Screaming won’t make your son DIE. Stupid false equivalence.

Correct. That's the difference here, kids with anaphylaxis can die. I posted earlier about my son's classmate, who died from secondary exposure to nuts.

Not eating nut products in public is not hard.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait until your child gets to elementary school, high school, college and the work world. Are you going to tell your child’s roommates they can’t eat almonds?

Actually yes. We only will be able to send her to peanut free schools. In college she will have to request a peanut free roommate unless she grows out of it. And we’re working on it.

These don’t exist. Maybe preschools.

Good luck.

Yes, they do?!

My DD's public elementary school was 100% peanut free due to kids with severe allergies. We received numerous notices prior to the start of every school year to remind us/inform new parents. They sent lists of alternative nut butters that were approved instead. There was even an open house event that had samples of different nut butters so kids could try alternatives.

My kids school is supposed to be nut free and there are kids there every day with nuts in their lunchboxes!!! My own kid will only eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich so we just tell him it’s sunflower seed butter and not to share it with other kids! The nut free allergy kids I know are smart and don’t eat anything from other kids.

I also have a kid who will only eat peanut butter sandwiches for lunch. We tried various meats and other good sources of protein, but for a kid with severe feeding issues that require OT, everything else is just too damn difficult for my kid to eat in the very very short lunch period. Nut allergy parents assume every kid can just eat something else and be fine and that only their kids have special snowflake problems. I really wish I had more empathy for nut allergy parents, but I have been dealing with my kid's neurological and feeding issues for too long and I am f'ing exhausted! Nut allergy kids are not my problem. I have enough problems.

Selfish pig

This is obviously a troll post, but the idea that everyone must care about other people's children as much as they care about their own is so stupid. There is absolutely nothing selfish about a parent working themselves to exhaustion to meet their own child's needs and not having anything left over to accommodate some **hypothetical** stranger's child's needs. Do you go around whispering and never whistling because there exist children with sensory issues who react badly to certain loud noises? Do you forego deodorant and perfume because there exist children with sensitivity to fragrances? If not, you too are a selfish pig.

+1 what about my nephew who is autistic and can’t come to the playground because of the loud noise screaming kids make? Should we expect all kids at the playground to speak quietly and never scream? Why are parents so selfish and can’t teach their kids not to scream at the playground?

OP, my kids don’t eat nuts or similar products. They actually never eat at the playground unless there is a birthday party. I would be 100% happy to do whatever your child need if you ask me, but I don’t have the mental space to start considering the various needs of all the different kids/people out there when I have my own 3 kids’ needs, my job, my family to think about. Where do you people find the time to start considering all the possible people’s needs out there?

Screaming won’t make your son DIE. Stupid false equivalence.

Correct. That's the difference here, kids with anaphylaxis can die. I posted earlier about my son's classmate, who died from secondary exposure to nuts.

Not eating nut products in public is not hard.

It's almost as easy as just not going to the park.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait until your child gets to elementary school, high school, college and the work world. Are you going to tell your child’s roommates they can’t eat almonds?

Actually yes. We only will be able to send her to peanut free schools. In college she will have to request a peanut free roommate unless she grows out of it. And we’re working on it.

These don’t exist. Maybe preschools.

Good luck.

Yes, they do?!

My DD's public elementary school was 100% peanut free due to kids with severe allergies. We received numerous notices prior to the start of every school year to remind us/inform new parents. They sent lists of alternative nut butters that were approved instead. There was even an open house event that had samples of different nut butters so kids could try alternatives.

My kids school is supposed to be nut free and there are kids there every day with nuts in their lunchboxes!!! My own kid will only eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich so we just tell him it’s sunflower seed butter and not to share it with other kids! The nut free allergy kids I know are smart and don’t eat anything from other kids.

I also have a kid who will only eat peanut butter sandwiches for lunch. We tried various meats and other good sources of protein, but for a kid with severe feeding issues that require OT, everything else is just too damn difficult for my kid to eat in the very very short lunch period. Nut allergy parents assume every kid can just eat something else and be fine and that only their kids have special snowflake problems. I really wish I had more empathy for nut allergy parents, but I have been dealing with my kid's neurological and feeding issues for too long and I am f'ing exhausted! Nut allergy kids are not my problem. I have enough problems.

Selfish pig

This is obviously a troll post, but the idea that everyone must care about other people's children as much as they care about their own is so stupid. There is absolutely nothing selfish about a parent working themselves to exhaustion to meet their own child's needs and not having anything left over to accommodate some **hypothetical** stranger's child's needs. Do you go around whispering and never whistling because there exist children with sensory issues who react badly to certain loud noises? Do you forego deodorant and perfume because there exist children with sensitivity to fragrances? If not, you too are a selfish pig.

This line is so absurd. “WAAAAH I DON’T HAVE THE BAAAAAANDWIDTH TO FEED MY KID A DIFFERENT SANDWICH AT THE PLAYGROUND OR,IF THEY’RE SO VERY SPECIAL THAT ANOTHER FOOD CAN NEVER TOUCH THEIR LIPS EXCEPT PEANUT BUTTER, TO FEED IT AT HOME BEFORE GOING TO THE PLAYGROUND!!!”

You sound like the ridiculous SAHM moms who whine endlessly about “mental burden” and add up the salaries of professional chefs, laundry services, chauffeurs, nurses, therapists, etc, and them scream that that’s how much they're “worth.”

And once again, autism and sensory sensitivities aren’t *fatal,* so you can stop with the false equivalences now.

Just feed your kid a nut already.

I do. I’m not OP. Next!

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Anonymous wrote:Wait until your child gets to elementary school, high school, college and the work world. Are you going to tell your child’s roommates they can’t eat almonds?

Actually yes. We only will be able to send her to peanut free schools. In college she will have to request a peanut free roommate unless she grows out of it. And we’re working on it.

These don’t exist. Maybe preschools.

Good luck.

Yes, they do?!

My DD's public elementary school was 100% peanut free due to kids with severe allergies. We received numerous notices prior to the start of every school year to remind us/inform new parents. They sent lists of alternative nut butters that were approved instead. There was even an open house event that had samples of different nut butters so kids could try alternatives.

My kids school is supposed to be nut free and there are kids there every day with nuts in their lunchboxes!!! My own kid will only eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich so we just tell him it’s sunflower seed butter and not to share it with other kids! The nut free allergy kids I know are smart and don’t eat anything from other kids.

I also have a kid who will only eat peanut butter sandwiches for lunch. We tried various meats and other good sources of protein, but for a kid with severe feeding issues that require OT, everything else is just too damn difficult for my kid to eat in the very very short lunch period. Nut allergy parents assume every kid can just eat something else and be fine and that only their kids have special snowflake problems. I really wish I had more empathy for nut allergy parents, but I have been dealing with my kid's neurological and feeding issues for too long and I am f'ing exhausted! Nut allergy kids are not my problem. I have enough problems.

Selfish pig

This is obviously a troll post, but the idea that everyone must care about other people's children as much as they care about their own is so stupid. There is absolutely nothing selfish about a parent working themselves to exhaustion to meet their own child's needs and not having anything left over to accommodate some **hypothetical** stranger's child's needs. Do you go around whispering and never whistling because there exist children with sensory issues who react badly to certain loud noises? Do you forego deodorant and perfume because there exist children with sensitivity to fragrances? If not, you too are a selfish pig.

This line is so absurd. “WAAAAH I DON’T HAVE THE BAAAAAANDWIDTH TO FEED MY KID A DIFFERENT SANDWICH AT THE PLAYGROUND OR,IF THEY’RE SO VERY SPECIAL THAT ANOTHER FOOD CAN NEVER TOUCH THEIR LIPS EXCEPT PEANUT BUTTER, TO FEED IT AT HOME BEFORE GOING TO THE PLAYGROUND!!!”

You sound like the ridiculous SAHM moms who whine endlessly about “mental burden” and add up the salaries of professional chefs, laundry services, chauffeurs, nurses, therapists, etc, and them scream that that’s how much they're “worth.”

And once again, autism and sensory sensitivities aren’t *fatal,* so you can stop with the false equivalences now.

Stfu crazy

No, entitled.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. I have one child with anaphylactic allergies to peanuts and pistachios, and another without. We are always mindful to eat cleanly in public spaces so as not to pose a threat to others, or my own son.

It’s the plane that’s terrifying. Even with two Epipens. People eating nuts and no way for the plan to land in time.

Anaphylactic reactions to airborne peanut dust are non-existent. These reactions are rare and mild. (Seafood and wheat can be a different story.)

Hopefully this will at least help you feel less stressed on the plane.

Please post your verifiable M.D. credentials. Thanks in advance.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait until your child gets to elementary school, high school, college and the work world. Are you going to tell your child’s roommates they can’t eat almonds?

Actually yes. We only will be able to send her to peanut free schools. In college she will have to request a peanut free roommate unless she grows out of it. And we’re working on it.

These don’t exist. Maybe preschools.

Good luck.

Yes, they do?!

My DD's public elementary school was 100% peanut free due to kids with severe allergies. We received numerous notices prior to the start of every school year to remind us/inform new parents. They sent lists of alternative nut butters that were approved instead. There was even an open house event that had samples of different nut butters so kids could try alternatives.

My kids school is supposed to be nut free and there are kids there every day with nuts in their lunchboxes!!! My own kid will only eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich so we just tell him it’s sunflower seed butter and not to share it with other kids! The nut free allergy kids I know are smart and don’t eat anything from other kids.

I also have a kid who will only eat peanut butter sandwiches for lunch. We tried various meats and other good sources of protein, but for a kid with severe feeding issues that require OT, everything else is just too damn difficult for my kid to eat in the very very short lunch period. Nut allergy parents assume every kid can just eat something else and be fine and that only their kids have special snowflake problems. I really wish I had more empathy for nut allergy parents, but I have been dealing with my kid's neurological and feeding issues for too long and I am f'ing exhausted! Nut allergy kids are not my problem. I have enough problems.

Selfish pig

This is obviously a troll post, but the idea that everyone must care about other people's children as much as they care about their own is so stupid. There is absolutely nothing selfish about a parent working themselves to exhaustion to meet their own child's needs and not having anything left over to accommodate some **hypothetical** stranger's child's needs. Do you go around whispering and never whistling because there exist children with sensory issues who react badly to certain loud noises? Do you forego deodorant and perfume because there exist children with sensitivity to fragrances? If not, you too are a selfish pig.

+1 what about my nephew who is autistic and can’t come to the playground because of the loud noise screaming kids make? Should we expect all kids at the playground to speak quietly and never scream? Why are parents so selfish and can’t teach their kids not to scream at the playground?

OP, my kids don’t eat nuts or similar products. They actually never eat at the playground unless there is a birthday party. I would be 100% happy to do whatever your child need if you ask me, but I don’t have the mental space to start considering the various needs of all the different kids/people out there when I have my own 3 kids’ needs, my job, my family to think about. Where do you people find the time to start considering all the possible people’s needs out there?

Screaming won’t make your son DIE. Stupid false equivalence.

*nephew

First of all, kids screaming is the reason why my nephew can’t go to playgrounds (just like OP’s kid). Second, OP can follow her child and wipe every surface she touches or put gloves, etc. I realize this is not ideal and I would be happy to put my peanuts away (not that I ever eat them) if OP asks me to. However, my BIL can’t do anything about the kids screaming. He can’t just stick wipes into kids’ mouths to stop them from screaming. How is this a false equivalence?

Because your nephew won’t die, decease, be gone from this earth if there is screaming at the playground. We’ve already covered this.

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Anonymous wrote:If you grabbed the snack from my Type 1 diabetic child's hands, I would definitely have you charged with assault or theft.

You would have no grounds for assault, no matter how many times you all repeat it. And theft? For a $2 snack? I’m sure the police will jump right on that.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here, and I have not read much of the thread. But as the parent of a kid in kindergarten, this is something I've thought a lot about.

I understand OP's request and why she would make it. If my child had a serious allergy, I'd of course worry about this too, and do whatever I could to protect my kid. That's what good parents do. I get it, I really do.

But here is the problem. I have a kid with ARFID who relies on nut butters and nuts to get enough protein. I expend a ton of energy worrying about my kid's diet. And what you are asking me to do is worry that some of the very few foods my kids will eat might leave a residue on her fingers that could be transferred to a piece of playground equipment and then harm your child.

I'm sorry, that's too much. It's too much! I have to worry about my own kid. Is the risk from a peanut residue actually that dangerous to your kid? If so, I think that like me, you need to take the responsibility for your child's unique situation on yourself -- wipe down equipment if you are concerned, have your kid wear gloves, even be ready to let other families at the playground know the situation so that they can make reasonable choices in the moment.

But to ask me to simply refrain from allowing my kid to eat one of a very small number of foods she will eat at the playground, especially when these foods are already not allowed at her school, is too much. I can't. I'd like to help you, but I can't. Just like you can't help me.

Good luck to you.

Why in God's name do all you people need to eat at the playground? Eat at your stupid nut butters at your *house*. Or at a restaurant. Or just keep it at the picnic table. This is not hard. NO ONE needs to eat on playground equipment. NO ONE. Not even your kid who only eats nut butters. NO ONE.

The real problem here is not that OP's kid has allergies or that your kid needs to eat nuts. It's that disgusting Americans feel they should be able to eat anytime anywhere and not clean up properly after themselves.

You all eating letting your little kids walk around with food all the time and everywhere are disgusting. YOUR kids are the ones learning to be entitled. Eat at home and then go. Or go and then come home and have your lunch. Are you traveling three hours to this playgrounds? WTAF????