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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly. 
Why Breast Milk is best. 
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice. [/quote]

You sound fun.[/quote]

“Why breast milk is best”

Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby 
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"Fed is best"  = Formula feeding.  This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved.  It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.

If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.  
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Oh no, you're missing the point entirely and you are the reason people feel the need to even say "fed is best."

My family is functional and healthy. I am functional and healthy. My baby was normal and healthy. But breastfeeding was a terrible experience. Because I was led to believe that, all else being what it was, I SHOULD have been able to nurse, I felt like a failure that it just wasn't working. Everything was fine, my baby just couldn't latch easily, I was in terrible pain, my supply was awful and none of the tips and tricks were working. Healthy mom, check. Healthy baby, check. Supportive family, check. It was emotionally harmful for me to hear "breast is best," when people told me to stick with it (stick with the screaming baby who can't be soothed by nursing combined with the pain? wtf?). If someone had told me "fed is best" back then, I wouldn't still be irritated by people like you 11 years later!

You are missing some major factors that go in to nurturing a baby. Thank God I started exclusively formula feeding by 9 weeks.

Or maybe you're being glib? But it's time for the pendulum to swing back to the middle. Fed is best. That's all. [/quote]

Nope. Your negative breastfeeding experience is your negative experience with breastfeeding. Yes, it sucked for you and glad you made the best of it and glad your kid did well with formula.

But, breastmilk is superior than formula for normal healthy babies.   You are the exception that proves the rule.

What you are arguing is akin to saying that divorced families are the same as intact families for kids.  No. All functional and intact families are better than any kind of dysfunctional or broken family.  See the difference? Yes, divorced parents may be better than living in an intact family with an alcoholic or abusive parent, but that is the backup plan when a happy, functional and intact family is not the reality.

Breastmilk is optimum but if it is not fated for you or your child then you make do with formula and go on and live your life. Every kid does not get breastmilk and every kid does not even get a mother who can or want to nurse - [b]life is unfair[/b]. [/quote]

You are being very obtuse and I don't understand whether you think it's ok to be so smug, or what. I know moms who think it's ok to let their baby cry with hunger because they can't latch or get enough breast milk. I have a friend who fed her child nothing but breast milk from the breast until the kid was 12 months old. Have you never read or heard anyone talk about how guilt inducing it is to struggle to nurse? These things occur because the "breast is best movement" has gone too far. Are you the one who called my personal situation a " failure" before the forum went down? And now you're saying my child is in an " unfair " situation. Gee what has given you the superiority complex to say such things to a fellow mom? I know... you've been brainwashed into believing that breast feeding is best NO MATTER WHAT, and anyone who doesn't in inferior. That's a problem. You're the problem. [/quote]

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