Struggling to leave Catholicism

[Anonymous]

Does anyone here have experience with leaving the Church when you didn't really want to because you were unsure you wanted to go through the annulment process following a divorce? I'm planning on remarrying and my future spouse is not Catholic. I've tried different churches and found an Episcopal church I really like, but it's just not quite the same to me spiritually. Should I just move on?

[Anonymous]

I know many people who have divorced, never anulled, but still consider themselves Catholic. It's not an issue unless you really have your heart set on marrying in the Church again. I'd find a forward thinking, welcoming parish, and make my home there.

[Anonymous]

And the bonus being the Pope recently said the church needs to review the allulment process.

And does your next marriage need to be a "church" wedding.

My MIL's third marriage was her first church wedding. For a women who goes to latin mass and gives us rosaries every easter, i think she somehow is skirting the system. (of course my husband is a *astered in the eyes of thr church)

Find a church with an active social justice group and ypu will be welcomef.

[Anonymous]

I think I would like to remarry in the church. I at least want it as an option and not have it closed off to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I would like to remarry in the church. I at least want it as an option and not have it closed off to me.

Then you need to follow the RCC rules on getting the annulment. I am an atheist raised Catholic, married to some one who was married before. Because DH is Military, we could not wait for an annulment, which we needed even though, he is not Catholic, his ex is not Catholic and he was not Married in Catholic Church. Those are the rules. We did not like them so we got married in a Presbertyian church. You either play by the rules or find somewhere else to get married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I would like to remarry in the church. I at least want it as an option and not have it closed off to me.

Then you need to follow the RCC rules on getting the annulment. I am an atheist raised Catholic, married to some one who was married before. Because DH is Military, we could not wait for an annulment, which we needed even though, he is not Catholic, his ex is not Catholic and he was not Married in Catholic Church. Those are the rules. We did not like them so we got married in a Presbertyian church. You either play by the rules or find somewhere else to get married.

Duh! I'm not complaining about the annulment rules; I simply said I was unsure whether to go to the process and was looking for some thoughts from others who have gone through it and whether it was worth it to them to do so. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Go through*

[Anonymous]

I went through it and thought it was worth it. I remarried in the church and our children have both been baptized.

[Anonymous]

Lutheran is similar, but more accepting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I would like to remarry in the church. I at least want it as an option and not have it closed off to me.

Then you need to follow the RCC rules on getting the annulment. I am an atheist raised Catholic, married to some one who was married before. Because DH is Military, we could not wait for an annulment, which we needed even though, he is not Catholic, his ex is not Catholic and he was not Married in Catholic Church. Those are the rules. We did not like them so we got married in a Presbertyian church. You either play by the rules or find somewhere else to get married.

If none of you are practicing Catholics why would you be getting married in the church anyway thus even needing an annulment?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I would like to remarry in the church. I at least want it as an option and not have it closed off to me.

Then you need to follow the RCC rules on getting the annulment. I am an atheist raised Catholic, married to some one who was married before. Because DH is Military, we could not wait for an annulment, which we needed even though, he is not Catholic, his ex is not Catholic and he was not Married in Catholic Church. Those are the rules. We did not like them so we got married in a Presbertyian church. You either play by the rules or find somewhere else to get married.

If none of you are practicing Catholics why would you be getting married in the church anyway thus even needing an annulment?

OP here, can't tell if you are directing this to me. If so, I am still a practicing Catholic. I'm also wondering why a Catholic turned atheist and non-Catholic would want a Catholic wedding.

[Anonymous]

I was "still catholic" at the time of the wedding. I was doing it to "make my parents happy". Fast forward 7 years, nobody, mom, dad, brother or sister is still a "catholic". Sister who had catholic wedding is the only believer in the family and she is Methodist.

[Anonymous]

Why would you want to annul a marriage in which children were conceived?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I would like to remarry in the church. I at least want it as an option and not have it closed off to me.

Then you need to follow the RCC rules on getting the annulment. I am an atheist raised Catholic, married to some one who was married before. Because DH is Military, we could not wait for an annulment, which we needed even though, he is not Catholic, his ex is not Catholic and he was not Married in Catholic Church. Those are the rules. We did not like them so we got married in a Presbertyian church. You either play by the rules or find somewhere else to get married.

If you are an atheist, why did you get married in a church at all?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I would like to remarry in the church. I at least want it as an option and not have it closed off to me.

Then you need to follow the RCC rules on getting the annulment. I am an atheist raised Catholic, married to some one who was married before. Because DH is Military, we could not wait for an annulment, which we needed even though, he is not Catholic, his ex is not Catholic and he was not Married in Catholic Church. Those are the rules. We did not like them so we got married in a Presbertyian church. You either play by the rules or find somewhere else to get married.

If you are an atheist, why did you get married in a church at all?

I read it that she was an "Atheist raised Catholic" meaning, she was raised by Atheists but is now a Catholic...pp, is that correct?