Facebook and Sil

[Anonymous]

So, SIL ( younger than me, single) is on FB and does a couple if weird things - one, she often tags herself in pictures of my kids - right on the kid and then will post a comment like "my baby!" Or "my little girl!" - It bothers me because it opens up the pictures to be seen by all if her friends network (I have super strict privacy settings, but once someone tags themself in your picture and you accept the tag, their privacy settings apply). I also just find it weird how possessive she is of my kids online - it's almost too much for me.

Secondly, for Father's Day, she posted a picture of DH with the kids and wrote a paragraph post of what an amazing father he is and how wonderful, blah blah blah. She didn't even mention her own dad at all, which is off bc they're pretty close.

I think she's doing all these petty small things to get at me - DH never checks Facebook at all, so the post wasn't for him, and she knows I am concerned about FB privacy - she got in a snit when I mentioned to her about tagging herself lets the kids pictures into a broader audience (said "I can't believe you don't trust me and my friends.")

I'm going to just slowly block her from photos (it's annoying that she's tagged on each of my DD's photos since I don't even tag myself), but wondering if anyone had any other thoughts/insight.

[Anonymous]

Sounds bizarre, I agree. And, don't you have to accept the tag? Or is there a setting that prohibits others from tagging your pictures. I would start blocking her from most of your pictures. Maybe let her see one or 2 so she doesn't get suspicious. Or just tell her that you are giving FB a rest for now.

[Anonymous]

I think you can go into this:

How can I manage tags people add and tagging suggestions?

and make it so she can't tag your photos?

or just block her altogether.

[Anonymous]

So if you have it set where you have to accept a tag before it's publicly tagged...then why do you accept the tag. Just deny it. Or if I'm misunderstanding and she has the freedom to tag without permission, then just untag it. Since it's your photo you have the ability to do that. If she asks you about it just say again "I keep my photos private among the people I know. I do not know you're friends so I'm not comfortable with their pictures being out of my friend network." Her snit is her own problem. The tagging would piss me off too.

[Anonymous]

Err, I might be wrong, there may be no way to turn off tagging. Should be.

[Anonymous]

Step away from FB, OP.

[Anonymous]

Don't post pictures of your kids online

[Anonymous]

Don't post pictures of your kids online. Even if you feel your settings are private, you are still posting them online.

If you must, then when posting select friends "except" and then select yr sil.

I hate having photos of myself or my kids online. It makes me so angry that people feel they have the right to put pictures online of me without my permission. I avoid being photographed for this reason. I no longer agree to pose for pictures.

[Anonymous]

Op here - I have a setting where I get informed about tags - problem is she complains to DH if not allowed to identify my child as "belonging" to her... He feels bad (?) for her and wants me to allow her, which is why I think I'm going to start blocking her on most photos..:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here - I have a setting where I get informed about tags - problem is she complains to DH if not allowed to identify my child as "belonging" to her... He feels bad (?) for her and wants me to allow her, which is why I think I'm going to start blocking her on most photos..:

Well that's just her own problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here - I have a setting where I get informed about tags - problem is she complains to DH if not allowed to identify my child as "belonging" to her... He feels bad (?) for her and wants me to allow her, which is why I think I'm going to start blocking her on most photos..:

Wow, that is crazy. I would just block her. Are there other mutual friends that would see your pictures so she will somehow realize she has been blocked? I would keep that in mind as well.

[Anonymous]

My settings are such that I have to approve a tag. And I do not approve MIL (or anyone) tagging themselves in a picture of my kid that I'm not in. I don't tag myself in pictures of him, I'm certainly not going to tag her. When she asks (which is often) I tell her I thought it must have been a mistake since she's not in the picture.

[Anonymous]

It's pretty basic. If it bothers you so much, don't post pics online. Prob solved.

You can flat out tell her you isn't want pics of your kids online so u stopped posting them.


I think u love drama.

[Anonymous]

Honestly stop posting pictures online. How old are you anyways???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly stop posting pictures online. How old are you anyways???

Not OP, but I don't think it's abnormal to post pictures of your family on FB. I don't think you should have to stop because someone else wants to compromise the privacy of the photos. You should be allowed to post your own photos at your own will to only the people you want. The issue is that the SIL is taking the liberty to share them with whoever she wants. And OP needs to put her foot down with that and not allow the tags. If SIL has a snit then OP should have a snit right back. OP she clearly doesn't care about your wishes so why are you caring so much about hers. Your kids, your responsibility to keep their pictures private.