Dirty secret about an industry that you have worked in?

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Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. A lot smoke weed. A lot.

Really? What grade do you teach? This doesn't describe my co-workers - unfortunately.

I've taught everything from preschool to college and this is definitely true.

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Anonymous wrote:Give me a break with the daycare stories. The teachers at our center send their own kids there. Explain that?

+1. Our center director and many of the teachers send their kids to our center. I check on the video feed often and have never once seen teachers eating the kids' food, hitting, falling down drunk on the playground, etc.

Same - and I drop in unannounced all the time, as do other parents. Zero issues.

You are kidding yourself. Staff know when parents are in the facility. There are often code words used. "Elvis is in the building" was used whenever a parent was unexpectedly on-site at my last center. I worked with a teacher who would put her long coat over kids and pretend to be hugging them. She was pinching their little ears. Another teacher took kids in the bathrooms out the camera site and smacked them on the head with their shoes if they took them off. These were degreed teachers in accredited centers. Yes I reported.

It would take me hours to list all the scary stuff I saw in even the "best centers". There are some great teachers out there. But there are also some awful ones. Low pay plus the stress of dealing with young children and long hours with few breaks creates a less than ideal environment.

Whatever.

I think it's hilarious at people don't believe these stories. Why would PPs lie about this crap? Nobody is trying to scare anyone off from daycare, but this does exist.

I think there are nannies from the nanny forum who are pretty invested in scare stories. My kids are much older and I did all variants of childcare when they were younger so don't really have a horse in this race, but this is a pattern I've seen on DCUM.

Good point.

+1. DCUM is heavily populated by nannies. I don't trust a lot of what I read. Including the salaries, benefits and how bad daycares are. It doesn't mesh with my own personal experience or from what my friends/relatives say.

I would definitely tell myself the same thing if my kids lived at daycare. So heartbreaking. How would you like to spend 10 hours a day in the same room?

I have done it all as far as childcare goes (SAHM, part-time nanny, part-time preschool, full-time daycare) and I think your histrionics are ridiculous here. Thanks, however, for demonstrating the point that DCUM is populated by a group of people who are very invested in making up daycare scare stories, though.

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In my company, a quasi-government entity, I have observed many affairs between employees and directors, and no body seemed to care even though the rumors were spreading like wild fires. Even the VP who was the boss of the parties involved said that " they are having a little fun, and that is fine."

A female director, who is not not my boss, made an advance on me and I kept ignoring her. I am not a saint, but I don't love her. She has a reputation for backstabbing people, so I kept a distance from her, until last year I did a cross-group project for her. Oops, in the annual performance review last year, she said very bad things about me which caused me a big trouble.

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Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. A lot smoke weed. A lot.

Don't blame yah! Former teacher assistant here with special needs students. I was physically attacked by my student every God damn day (worked with the autism program) I cried every day after work....I don't smoke....ended up drinking a lot...

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Non profit employee.

Everyone is an odd combination of lazy, entitled and neurotic!

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Anonymous wrote:Non profit employee.

Everyone is an odd combination of lazy, entitled and neurotic!

This describe 85% of working adults in DC.

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Anonymous wrote:Give me a break with the daycare stories. The teachers at our center send their own kids there. Explain that?

+1. Our center director and many of the teachers send their kids to our center. I check on the video feed often and have never once seen teachers eating the kids' food, hitting, falling down drunk on the playground, etc.

Same - and I drop in unannounced all the time, as do other parents. Zero issues.

You are kidding yourself. Staff know when parents are in the facility. There are often code words used. "Elvis is in the building" was used whenever a parent was unexpectedly on-site at my last center. I worked with a teacher who would put her long coat over kids and pretend to be hugging them. She was pinching their little ears. Another teacher took kids in the bathrooms out the camera site and smacked them on the head with their shoes if they took them off. These were degreed teachers in accredited centers. Yes I reported.

It would take me hours to list all the scary stuff I saw in even the "best centers". There are some great teachers out there. But there are also some awful ones. Low pay plus the stress of dealing with young children and long hours with few breaks creates a less than ideal environment.

Whatever.

I think it's hilarious at people don't believe these stories. Why would PPs lie about this crap? Nobody is trying to scare anyone off from daycare, but this does exist.

I think there are nannies from the nanny forum who are pretty invested in scare stories. My kids are much older and I did all variants of childcare when they were younger so don't really have a horse in this race, but this is a pattern I've seen on DCUM.

Good point.

+1. DCUM is heavily populated by nannies. I don't trust a lot of what I read. Including the salaries, benefits and how bad daycares are. It doesn't mesh with my own personal experience or from what my friends/relatives say.

I would definitely tell myself the same thing if my kids lived at daycare. So heartbreaking. How would you like to spend 10 hours a day in the same room?

When I worked in pre-school you'd be surprised at how many would leave their kids in daycare 10-12 hours a day. It was very sad.

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Anonymous wrote:The amount of sexual harassment in colleges would astound you And the mean at high level universities- Ivy's and similar. Be ESP careful sending your kids on trips with profs. Even more common from profs to grad students but sometimes grad students will have sex with profs if they pursue them. Either to have an easier time with Orval's or disssrtation or because they are enamored with them. Still power is so unequal. Profs have complete control over these kids careers. Academic freedom means univ usually turns a blind eye.

Also profs are often ego driven and commonly present their students work as their own. Treatment of grad students is horrible. Pretty girls will be chased around the desk constantly. Although I've known males to be harassed by female profs also.

And not always student to prof. There is a huge amount of extramarital sex happening between profs also. One of the most unethical and depraved group of people I ever worked with overall.

So true.

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Government agency and the climate change numbers were based on erroneus data.

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I worked for a sex therapist whose real goal was to be a media personality. Has several published books, was on major national talk shows, actually briefly had a cable show, etc.

The book she was working on when I was there was being ghost written by a college intern. I don't mean the intern was editing and wordsmithing it. Writing it from scratch.

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Anonymous wrote:Government agency and the climate change numbers were based on erroneus data.

This statement would be more believable if you used correct spelling.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with financial services industry. My do is in a related industry and we would never recommend some hire of financial planners unless you have no clue at and many millions of dollars. And I mean many millions. Keep it simple with plenty of insurance and diversified index funds plus some international. Only funds not single stocks. You can read about percentages as you age. But finan svcs people are notoriously terrible at managing their own money and are just trying to maximize their commission. On,y ever use fee based ones and even that I would not recommend.

Spot on.

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Anonymous wrote:The amount of sexual harassment in colleges would astound you And the mean at high level universities- Ivy's and similar. Be ESP careful sending your kids on trips with profs. Even more common from profs to grad students but sometimes grad students will have sex with profs if they pursue them. Either to have an easier time with Orval's or disssrtation or because they are enamored with them. Still power is so unequal. Profs have complete control over these kids careers. Academic freedom means univ usually turns a blind eye.

Also profs are often ego driven and commonly present their students work as their own. Treatment of grad students is horrible. Pretty girls will be chased around the desk constantly. Although I've known males to be harassed by female profs also.

And not always student to prof. There is a huge amount of extramarital sex happening between profs also. One of the most unethical and depraved group of people I ever worked with overall.

So true.

Jeez, I am now in grad school and would never suspect all this. Most of the students are international.

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Anonymous wrote:I've read 21 pages and still don't know why I shouldn't order the chicken.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with the PP about childcare. I was the lead teacher in a kindergarten classroom. It was a daycare as well. I was there during the academic part of the day. Basically 8:30 until 12:30. I also worked with licensing for several years and did inspections. I'm not going to share stories because I would just be accused of being a troll. But I swore I would never put my child in a daycare center after seeing what goes on even in the very best.

It gets better when kids become more verbal. At least then they can tell you what happens.

I can respect that you don't want to share because you're being discreet. But how fair is that to the parents who have no idea how bad the care is and leave their kids somewhere --and pay their whole salary to do so?