S/O What makes a woman high maintenance?

[Anonymous]

The other thread got me wondering.. guys, could you define a high maintenance woman? Is it getting nails done and blow drying hair on a regular basis, or something body unrelated like having a housekeeper? I'd think most men like their women to look somewhat groomed. That involves some work. I guess I'm curious to hear what is considered being well groomed and where it goes into high maintenance territory.

[Anonymous]

Woman here (not that you asked). I think it has to do with how "demanding" he perceives you to be. I am also curious to know.

I have seen men practically worship fat wretches who may have once had a nice face, may make a lot of noise in bed, pretend they are the cats meow, but have a lower IQ than a sack of rocks. That would be hard for me to respect.

More often than not, such women are just looking for someone to subsidize a way of life that would make their nightmare mother happy. In reality, neither that nightmare wife nor nightmare MIL will ever be happy! I fondly more guys knew this!

I would find the social climbing, impossible to please, a sign of "run don't walk" - won't more women warn their sons of these shallow types!!??

Vent over.

[Anonymous]

fondly = only

[Anonymous]

Woman here who loves all the trappings of being female and takes great pride on appearing well put together, neat, stylish, etc.

High maintenance is when your focus on maintaining your appearance inhibits you from fully participating in life, causes arguments and/or demands special exceptions. I detest women like this.

I love sexy high heels, but I'm not wearing those to my kids baseball game. I think my new hairstyle is flattering a nice change, but somedays, it's easier to put it in a ponytail. I wear light makeup every day, but when I go camping next weekend, I'd feel ridiculous to pack all of that!

[Anonymous]

I don't get the impression it's about appearance at all.

[Anonymous]

I don't think "high maintenance" is about your appearance. You don't have to be a man to define high maintenance women. High maintenance = demanding, and needs constant reassurance, affirmation, their needs always come first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think "high maintenance" is about your appearance. You don't have to be a man to define high maintenance women. High maintenance = demanding, and needs constant reassurance, affirmation, their needs always come first.

Could not have said it better myself.

Fortunately, I am married to a woman who is low mtce because she is nothing like is described above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman here who loves all the trappings of being female and takes great pride on appearing well put together, neat, stylish, etc.

High maintenance is when your focus on maintaining your appearance inhibits you from fully participating in life, causes arguments and/or demands special exceptions. I detest women like this.

I love sexy high heels, but I'm not wearing those to my kids baseball game. I think my new hairstyle is flattering a nice change, but somedays, it's easier to put it in a ponytail. I wear light makeup every day, but when I go camping next weekend, I'd feel ridiculous to pack all of that!

Wearing high heels to a baseball game or bringing eye shadow on a camping trip do NOT automatically make someone high maintenance. It's about making demands on everyone around you to meet your needs. IF you wear the high heels to the game, but then complain the whole time that you now have mud on them, you're high maintenance. But if you wear the heels and have lovely time while you cheer your kid on, chat with the parents and pass out juice boxes with a smile, you're simply a nice lady.

High maintenance women can just as easily be found in Birkenstocks and no make-up.

[Anonymous]

High maintenance is someone who requires constant tending from their partner.
e.g.:
They are always too hot or too cold; your schedule must always be changed to accommodate their whims; they can't possibly take the metro because it is too crowded, or you have to leave the theater early because they feel tired, they make a big deal in the restaurant because they don't carry the type of bottled water they like.
Basically, it is a woman who makes everything a hassle for the man, the opposite of someone who just puts their head down and gets on with it.

[Anonymous]

Less about needs, and more about contribution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:High maintenance is someone who requires constant tending from their partner.
e.g.:
They are always too hot or too cold; your schedule must always be changed to accommodate their whims; they can't possibly take the metro because it is too crowded, or you have to leave the theater early because they feel tired, they make a big deal in the restaurant because they don't carry the type of bottled water they like.
Basically, it is a woman who makes everything a hassle for the man, the opposite of someone who just puts their head down and gets on with it.

This. Plus, not being particularly great in bed. Perhaps being good enough in the beginning...but this quickly fades once the contract is sealed. See: Chris Rock & "Representative"

[Anonymous]

High maintenance consists of any woman who needs more than enough attention to keep her happy.

A woman who nags and complains and is hard to please.

Men by nature are laid back and it can get very annoying to be around women who complain and feel sorry for themselves.

[Anonymous]

Its about market demand like econ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its about market demand like econ.

To add , all the women here are pretty damn ugly (ths is not la), so the few decent ones can make even more demands

[Anonymous]

honestly, just looking at the other current thread (obviously for women) "Ladies...what's the worst trait for a guy" - leads me to believe a lot women could be considered high maintenance given the sheer endless lists and volume of pages that have been written.

Jeez, and you wonder why so many women can't find a man - there is no one who could possibly live up to such scrutiny and why would any sane man subject himself to that?!