married guy keeps texting and FB messaging me

[Anonymous]

I haven't told him to cut it out yet and I've tried to be very platonic, a lot of the time ignoring his more flirtatious messages, but we see each other a lot through work and when we're physically near each other he gets real close when we talk. Of course I would have told him to stop if he wasn't a handsome guy and I wasn't a SM.

[Anonymous]

He is married. Do yourself (not to mention his wife and all kids involved) a favor and stay away.

Pretend his wife is present for all of your communications with him, let that be your guide-would you say it/text it if she were there?

[Anonymous]

Does it matter if he's attractive if he thinks you're the sort of woman who would engage in a relationship with a married person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does it matter if he's attractive if he thinks you're the sort of woman who would engage in a relationship with a married person?

+1

[Anonymous]

next time he's all closely close, just pull back and say, "Buddy. I gotta say, the attention is nice of course, but I kinda feel like you're being a little to familiar with me, particularly considering that you're married. You can claim I'm misinterpreting things all you want, but I know what I know. I like you. Let's be friends, but let's keep it as friends, OK?"

Don't let him assume you're easy pickings because your a SM and he's decent looking. You'll feel good if you take your integrity and throw it in his face.

[Anonymous]

Why not just ignore his texts and avoid any non-work conversations? You could even text back and ask him to loose your number. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Stop flirting back ("ignoring his more flirtatious messages" means you're NOT ignoring some of his messages, which is being interpreted as interest). Be clear to him that sex is OFF THE TABLE. He will leave you alone eventually, once he believes you.

Unless you want to fuck with the lives of strangers, in which case go right ahead and sleep with a married guy.

[Anonymous]

Threaten to go to HR if he doesn't stop this shit immediately.

Save all of the evidence. You may need it down the road.

[Anonymous]

No bjs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No bjs

Yeah, that should do the trick.

[Anonymous]

OP,

Flash forward three yours. You're married. You happen to see your husband's cell phone, and discover he's sending very flirtatious texts to someone he sees through work. The discovery leads to fights, talk of separation, suspicion, a violation of trust.

STAY AWAY.

[Anonymous]

Caution is advised but this man could well be your soulmate, and you could be a better one for him. You won't know unless you both take it to the next level. If you don't, it could nag at you for years. If it doesn't work out, then you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Caution is advised but this man could well be your soulmate, and you could be a better one for him. You won't know unless you both take it to the next level. If you don't, it could nag at you for years. If it doesn't work out, then you know.

Please, do be quiet. Anyone can be your soulmate in all honesty, should she go fuck the whole world to find out?

[Anonymous]

hes not my soulmate. just a very nice looking guy i hit it off with because we work in the same building. Didnt even know he was married the first few times we met, until I saw on facebook.

[Anonymous]

17:26 Mary, Mary, quite contrary, how does your garden grow?