married guy keeps texting and FB messaging me

[Anonymous]

SM is Single MALE, right?

[Anonymous]

Block him in Facebook and shunt his emails to your junk folder. Problem solved.

Really, how difficult is this? Why the need to even ask us?

Or, just go ahead have sex with him...

[Anonymous]

I think she meant Single Mother.

Pp above they say advice is what people ask for when they already know what they should do but don't want to... Or something to that tune.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SM is Single MALE, right?

No you idiot. Single mother.

[Anonymous]

Just don't respond. If he doesn't get valdiation he will stop.

My policy is always, never put anything in writing I wouldn't want my spouse to see.

You might want to remind him of this wise policy and ask him if he would like it if his spouse saw these messages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Caution is advised but this man could well be your soulmate, and you could be a better one for him. You won't know unless you both take it to the next level. If you don't, it could nag at you for years. If it doesn't work out, then you know. [/quote

Anyone over the age of 16 who uses the term "soulmate" is . . . thinking like a 16 yo.

[Anonymous]

Respond to the next questionable message from him with "I'd prefer if we could keep our relationship to one that you'd be willing to mention to your wife." If he doesn't clean up the act, then block him.

[Anonymous]

Doctorfeelgood wrote:Funny how things you want to stop happening are easy to stop. However, when you like something that is happening, but feel guilty about it you think kicking around the idea of stopping it is equal to actually stopping it.

You might as well just sleep with him - you want to. Your post here is simply a box you checked in your mind so that you can say "I tried to stop him."

Exactly this. So many PPs are giving her advice on what to say, she knows exactly what to say. She doesn't want to, she likes the attention, and posting this here for even more attention. "Ooh married guy wants me and won't let off even though I barely say no and enjoy his attention." You're working real hard to shut it down honey.

[Anonymous]

When we were standing and talking the other day and the UPS guy was walking by he wanted to me out of the way and he put his hand on my lower back and kept it there for about 10 seconds too long and I didn't stop it.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Yep, OP, you can make it clear without even saying it out right that you are drawing boundaries and you've chosen not to do that, so this guy thinks you're interested. You are not innocent in this interaction. Take responsibility for your actions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

+1

[Anonymous]

Be bold and very blunt and let him know that you are just not interested. Be serious.

If he keeps hounding you, I would threaten to expose him.

That should stop it.

[Anonymous]

By just ignoring doesn't that also send a message?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:next time he's all closely close, just pull back and say, "Buddy. I gotta say, the attention is nice of course, but I kinda feel like you're being a little to familiar with me, particularly considering that you're married. You can claim I'm misinterpreting things all you want, but I know what I know. I like you. Let's be friends, but let's keep it as friends, OK?"

Don't let him assume you're easy pickings because your a SM and he's decent looking. You'll feel good if you take your integrity and throw it in his face.

But she already said she likes the attention and is encouraging it (or rather, not discouraging it). Doesn't sound like she wants to discourage it either.