How to I get my boss to stop gossiping about me

[Anonymous]

Without losing my job? She has gossiped about my personal life on matters I have shared with her only as a subordinate. We are not friends. I would never tell her things about my personal life outside of what is required for my position.

[Anonymous]

Stop telling her stuff -- simple as that.
Keep it as simple and non-descript as possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop telling her stuff -- simple as that.
Keep it as simple and non-descript as possible.

I only tell her what is required by our secuirty office.

[Anonymous]

Huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh?

I only tell her what I am required to tell her. E.g new roomate form , supervisor is on the form line. Sexual harassment ...welll duh! I have to tell my chain of command. I would never tell her this crap aside from her being my boss.

[Anonymous]

Then what is she gossiping about? That you have a roommate? That doesn't sound too juicy.

[Anonymous]

What a b!tch!!!! I am sorry OP, I don't have any suggestions except don't tell her anything, go over her head, and if that doesn't work start looking for a new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Huh?

I only tell her what I am required to tell her. E.g new roomate form , supervisor is on the form line. Sexual harassment ...welll duh! I have to tell my chain of command. I would never tell her this crap aside from her being my boss.

You have to tell your employer if you have a roommate? Wtf

[Anonymous]

Start looking yesterday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start looking yesterday.

+1 It's unprofessional for a supervisor to gossip about their employees. Had a boss who told me about other employees. I was careful not to tell him too much because I figured he probably talked about me to other co-workers, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Start looking yesterday.

+1 It's unprofessional for a supervisor to gossip about their employees. Had a boss who told me about other employees. I was careful not to tell him too much because I figured he probably talked about me to other co-workers, too.

PP again. Wanted to also add that that same boss would ask questions he should not have to get personal information while pretending it was part of the conversation.

[Anonymous]

You either need to meet w HR or find a new job.

[Anonymous]

Exactly what is your boss saying? I don't know of any requirement to tell your boss anything personal. Please give examples OP.

[Anonymous]

tell your boss directly that you are uncomfortable because you'v heard personal information being discussed in the company/organization and you are not sure how it could have gotten out. or, go to HR and DOCUMENT in writing your concerns if you can prove it was your boss. This way she can't retaliate against you.

[Anonymous]

Is it gossip or is she discussing w/HR, her own boss, or the ethics office, inhouse counsel, etc? If someone made a complaint about discrimination to me, as the manager, I had to report it to HR and discuss with the executive manager/director, probably with a company attorney, etc. People sometimes think confidentiality means you can't discuss w/anyone but in reality management has to report certain violations, complaints about illegal activity (such as harassment) to our upper management and our HR office.