What should I do????
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I just met this guy online whom I really like but as we continue talking I'm starting to realize some things
-He has a felony gun charge on his record which means no real job -He seems to depend heavily on others (right now he has no where to go so he's hiding sleeping in his moms house without her knowing) -It seems like there must be something going on with him and his family that he's not telling the whole story like I don't understand why he's always fighting with one of them, is hiding at his moms house instead of just asking her to let him stay, fought with his cousin got kicked out of there house it's just weird. I come from a family where no matter hat my family would never leave me in the streets. -Already has asked me to help him fill out job applications for him and fully willing to give me all his info like his social and everything. -Already asked me to move in with him A little about me: I'm 23 and I'm ready to no longer be single My dating life sucks I'm a very hard worker I work 3 jobs, 7 days a week and I expect someone to at least have work ethic I have no record I'm not perfect with money but very cautious and saving I can be a but emotional at times (I'm being honest) I can be bossy and I believe I need a guy with a bit stringer personality then me to balance it out My question is Should I give him a chance or stop settling for left |
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Are you crazy? He obviously wants to use you and your resources. You'll be paying for everything. I understand that you're lonely, but you're young and life is loooooooooong when you let the wrong people into it. Run - fast. |
Anonymous
Um. Really? Let's run down the attributes of his that you mention: - Red flag - Red flag - Red flag - Red flag - Red flag You haven't listed a single good thing about him except that he exists and he wants you. Of course he wants you. But if you're even CONSIDERING him as a partner, it sounds like you need to work a whole lot more on your self-esteem before you get into any serious relationship. Learn to love yourself first. I highly recommend the Women's Center in Vienna. They have both self-esteem group classes and very cheap (or free, depending on your income) individual counseling. |
Anonymous
| Are you seriously asking this question??? You have to be kidding. Just so you are no longer single you are willing to be with a felon (and that's only the tip of the iceberg)?? How can you not answer this question for yourself? |
Anonymous
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you should learn how to tell good meth from bad meth right now. You're going to be hooked on it soon and you won't be in your right mind to figure it out.
Also, anything you hold dear to your heart like your mom's wedding ring or whatever - send to a relative now so that you don't pawn it when you are high. I'd say good luck, but the fact that you are even considering dating this guy means you are a piece of shit who will end up dead before 35. What a waste of life you are. |
Anonymous
| Run! Run like the wind!!!!!!!!!!! |
Anonymous
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Please, please don't get involved with this guy, no matter how tired of being single and tired of dating you are. Walk away now, while it's easy. Please.
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Anonymous
That was uncalled for. OP, I've been sucked into such drama before, at the tender age of 20. Please just move on. All his problems will become yours. |
Anonymous
| this is a joke post right? |
Anonymous
| Please, I don't want to read about you on the news. |
Anonymous
My thoughts too! I especially like her apparent desperation for a man at the ripe old age of 23. |
Anonymous
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Sorry PP but at the tender age of 20 you'd think OP would have some sense. Honey, you are an absolute idiot for even considering this. Perhaps your dating life sucks because you have such obvious self esteem and self worth issues. Get some therapy, you need it if you are even considering this guy.
Then again, I'm also 99% sure you're a troll |
Anonymous
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No it's not a joke post-
I guess in a way I am desperate. I'm not getting any younger all the guys I try to date there is always something like: -them considering a house ate a proper first date which is just a deal breaker for me. -bring crazy, too clingy, 3 different baby moms -no respect -can hold a conversation without talking about sex I just cannot bare the thought of never getting married, never have children and just being an old maid. All my friends either have kids, are married, or close to it. |
Anonymous
If you feel "desperate" at the age of 23, you both lack a sense of perspective and you are only going to attract completely shitty guys. This should be a fun, pleasant time in your life, both in dating and otherwise. Dating someone with "baby moms" should be completely off the table. You need to figure out why you don't expect better for yourself. |
Anonymous
| Agree with 13:36 and also have to wonder how you present yourself. Are you educated? Have a job? etc. It honestly sounds like you need a therapist. To even consider dating this guy shows a shocking lack of judgement and inability to think of the consequences because of your desperation. If you work on yourself, you'll meet better men. |