Anytime DH and I Fight He Goes on Strike

[Anonymous]

‘2 yrs’ at this point has been mostly Covid. He’s tired and you are too. I would try to talk about it when you are both level headed. I wouldn’t throw a grenade and start holing up at the Hilton every time this happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he normally do all of those things? What do you do?

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honey, I've noticed you go on strike whenever we fight. Examples, (list examples). From now on when this happens, after you are done being on strike, I will be leaving for a hotel for the same number of days.

If he goes on strike say, forever, get a divorce and then when he has visitation he'll have to do it all.

Sure.And I'll tell the kids that you're leaving because you don't love them.

That would be dumb. My xH would try to pull that, tell the kids I left because I didn’t love them. The judge ripped him a new one and gave me most of what I wanted. Courts do not look favorably on alienation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honey, I've noticed you go on strike whenever we fight. Examples, (list examples). From now on when this happens, after you are done being on strike, I will be leaving for a hotel for the same number of days.

If he goes on strike say, forever, get a divorce and then when he has visitation he'll have to do it all.

Sure.And I'll tell the kids that you're leaving because you don't love them.

That would be dumb. My xH would try to pull that, tell the kids I left because I didn’t love them. The judge ripped him a new one and gave me most of what I wanted. Courts do not look favorably on alienation.

Alienation? You mean like abandoning your children and holing up in a hotel on a bender? LOL

[Anonymous]

I don't withhold sex when we're having a disagreement because that would be punishing myself. Anyone who withholds doing things for their family around the house/helping with the kids etc. because of a disagreement is a selfish child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honey, I've noticed you go on strike whenever we fight. Examples, (list examples). From now on when this happens, after you are done being on strike, I will be leaving for a hotel for the same number of days.

If he goes on strike say, forever, get a divorce and then when he has visitation he'll have to do it all.

Sure.And I'll tell the kids that you're leaving because you don't love them.

That would be dumb. My xH would try to pull that, tell the kids I left because I didn’t love them. The judge ripped him a new one and gave me most of what I wanted. Courts do not look favorably on alienation.

Alienation? You mean like abandoning your children and holing up in a hotel on a bender? LOL

Where was the part about the "bender?" The rest of us must have missed it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Escalate. Head out to a hotel for the weekend and leave him with the kids

Abandonment. Nice suggestion idiot.

oh yes, having a weekend away while your kids are with their other parent is totally abandonment.

Moron.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honey, I've noticed you go on strike whenever we fight. Examples, (list examples). From now on when this happens, after you are done being on strike, I will be leaving for a hotel for the same number of days.

If he goes on strike say, forever, get a divorce and then when he has visitation he'll have to do it all.

Sure.And I'll tell the kids that you're leaving because you don't love them.

That would be dumb. My xH would try to pull that, tell the kids I left because I didn’t love them. The judge ripped him a new one and gave me most of what I wanted. Courts do not look favorably on alienation.

Alienation? You mean like abandoning your children and holing up in a hotel on a bender? LOL

You must not understand what alienation is. Alienation is when one parent psychologically manipulates a child to damage their relationship with the other parent. You’re thinking of abandonment.

Judges generally won’t care if you stay in a hotel for a couple days. Weeks, sure, but if a couple days prevents exposing the kids to conflict they don’t really care.

Not sure where you’re getting the bender thing from.

But alienation is usually considered a very big deal, so if you have kids, I suggest you think twice before doing it. My mom lost custody in part because she went on a large alienation campaign with us.

[Anonymous]

Mine did this because he sees anything he does for kids or the home as a favor to me because his view is it's all my workload. I hope your husband isn't as much of an a$$hole as mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine did this because he sees anything he does for kids or the home as a favor to me because his view is it's all my workload. I hope your husband isn't as much of an a$$hole as mine.

I was thinking that too. It’s not fair for the OP to be the “default parent.” And the adult of the family.

[Anonymous]

He must be one of the good husbands if you notice any difference when he goes on housework strike.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine did this because he sees anything he does for kids or the home as a favor to me because his view is it's all my workload. I hope your husband isn't as much of an a$$hole as mine.

This. He clearly does not see himself has having responsibility for the house or kids if he thinks it’s ok to go on strike because he’s butthurt.

[Anonymous]

I personally find it disgusting that just because he is upset w/you, he will not drive his kids where they need to go and/or purchase food for them either??!

So he basically makes you a single mom until he gets over himself??

Screw that.
I could not share a roof with such an immature, passive aggressive person.
It must be hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Escalate. Head out to a hotel for the weekend and leave him with the kids

Abandonment. Nice suggestion idiot.

DP. Just like OP's husband abandoned his family responsibilities? No need to be rude, not that I would recommend this approach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He must be one of the good husbands if you notice any difference when he goes on housework strike.

Should OP be grateful for that? Lol. Everyone should contribute