Depends on the kids.
DD had a friend who was obnoxious at a sleepover - I would never host her for one again. But the other girls were a delight and I’d have them back in a heartbeat |
It gets better when they are older and you can pretty much just ignore them. DD13 is having one tonight with a good friend and I haven’t even seen them. They’ll briefly appear for dinner and then disappear again. I’ll go to bed before them.
Better days ahead OP! |
Exactly. If they went to bed at midnight, I’d be fine. But they’re going to bed at 3-4AM. And one kid always wakes up at 6am and wakes everyone else up or steps on their hair on the way to the bathroom. My older child loves sleepovers, but my younger one is so crabby after and prefers to sleep in her own bed. |
Sounds like poor parenting. Most children are sleep deprived because their parents can't actually parent them. A 10 yr old needs 10-11 hours of sleep. Good job, Mom. |
Me too - HATE them. |
I love sleepovers, but I enforce strict bedtime and also try tire them out beforehand with physical activity. They are in the basement rec room and I am in the basement bedroom. Far enough away so that I can’t hear what they’re saying, but close enough so they can’t sneak upstairs. I furnish water and non-sugary snacks. They can watch a movie and after that it’s lights off. They can still talk but they’re often too tired to talk for long. I usually plan another fun activity after breakfast before pickup, so that’s another incentive for them to follow my bedtime instructions. Of course, they’re only 9 so I doubt these tactics will work for long! |
You’re not supposed to like them. Don’t you remember being a kid and having your friends’ parents come down and threaten all sorts of things if you didn’t quiet down and go to bed? |
+1 |
+1 Sounds like my 9 yo DD and her boy BFF the same age who's our neighbours. Having him over for sleepovers has always been a joy. |
+2 I've learned to be discerning with sleepover invitations. The kids who are brattier on playdates are inevitably intolerable on sleepovers. |