Do you think kids who are better looking are treated better by their parents?

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Anonymous wrote:Cute kids change and become ugly teenagers and adults. Two ugly parents might have cute kids, but will likely have ugly adult kids.

When little, all you look at is the face and small features. However, being tallish, slender with big eyes and big lips is considered (at least for women) universally attractive.

I have two girls and treat them the same. DD1 is tall, with long lean legs and arms. She has my DH’s family body. DH’s sisters are tall, slender and beautiful. DD also has big eyes, big mouth, but at 8 she is “less” pretty than DD2.

DD2 is 6 (so still young). She has a very pretty face with gorgeous eyes, full lips, small nose, blonde hair, etc. However, she took after me and she is average height and stalkier than her sister. She is thin, but her legs and arms are thicker and shorter.

DD2 is prettier now, but in 15 years I think DD1 might be more attractive.

All of this to say that thinking your kid is beautiful/ugly now means nothing because they will change A LOT and other things (like their body) will become more important

Short women do better in life.

I don't think height matters that much for women and can't comment on the last PP's statement, but in response to the bolded:

https://www.bradley.edu/sites/bodyproject/perspectives/

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Anonymous wrote:No. Most parents think their kids are beautiful even when they’re not.

That said, I feel so sorry for your niece. She has horrible parents.

This isn’t true.

I do agree that parents tend to treat the child that is most attractive the best. I’ve seen this play out in real life.

Being a parent doesn’t stop a human being form being vain.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two grandsons both 7 years old. One is very cute but when we see him he barely says hello and basically just tolerates us. The other has average looks but when we see him he runs up to us, hugs us and loves to spend time with us. Which of the two would you prefer?

This!!! I have a cute son but he is pretty aloof and keeps to himself most of the time. I often take him and his friend on outings. The friend is polite, nice, outgoing, smart (they are both smart but my son sticks to one topic whereas his friend can really hold a conversation with an adult). The friend is average looking but I almost prefer him to my son

I want my child (currently 4) to be like your son’s friend. What do you think the parents did right?

I have no idea! Their other son is quite different (something between mine and his younger brother). I think it’s genetic tbh. Parents are quirky too, so it’s not even like he takes after them!

It’s definitely genetics. I have two DD’s and one is aloof and the other is friendly and outgoing. When she was 2-3 years old, outgoing dd used to ask me how my day was when I got home from work, and actually listen to my response and ask follow up questions. She’s the kid that will say good morning to the school administrator on the way in to school, and “have a good evening Ms. X” on her way out. I’ve never met another kid who was so in tuned to other people starting at such a young age. The other one is oblivious to people around her. It’s just their personalities!

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I come from a large family and one of my brothers was born with a very challenging disability and it was always clear he was my Mom’s favorite though it was never blatant. When I became a mother I asked her about her favorite and she said it had nothing to do with his actual physical disability. She said that it was his spirit, personality and drive to succeed and win from a very early age that was incredibly endearing. Soon after she died I was talking with my other siblings about it and they all agreed he was everyone’s favorite! So it’s not about looks though he was pretty darn cute!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have two grandsons both 7 years old. One is very cute but when we see him he barely says hello and basically just tolerates us. The other has average looks but when we see him he runs up to us, hugs us and loves to spend time with us. Which of the two would you prefer?

This!!! I have a cute son but he is pretty aloof and keeps to himself most of the time. I often take him and his friend on outings. The friend is polite, nice, outgoing, smart (they are both smart but my son sticks to one topic whereas his friend can really hold a conversation with an adult). The friend is average looking but I almost prefer him to my son

I want my child (currently 4) to be like your son’s friend. What do you think the parents did right?

I have no idea! Their other son is quite different (something between mine and his younger brother). I think it’s genetic tbh. Parents are quirky too, so it’s not even like he takes after them!

It’s definitely genetics. I have two DD’s and one is aloof and the other is friendly and outgoing. When she was 2-3 years old, outgoing dd used to ask me how my day was when I got home from work, and actually listen to my response and ask follow up questions. She’s the kid that will say good morning to the school administrator on the way in to school, and “have a good evening Ms. X” on her way out. I’ve never met another kid who was so in tuned to other people starting at such a young age. The other one is oblivious to people around her. It’s just their personalities!

YES!! me too. DD1 is so outgoing and says hi to everyone while DD2 remains more reserved.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD is quite cute (if I do say so myself) and we shower her with attention, buy nice clothes for her, send her to private school, etc.

OTOH, my SIL’s DD is not very cute (SIL is good-looking and has expressed disappointment in her DD’s looks over the years), and her parents don’t give her much attention or spend much money on her clothes or schooling/activities, even though they are likely richer than us. My niece acts out/throws tantrums to get attention, though she is naturally more athletic and quite possibly smarter than my DD.

This is hands down the weirdest post I have ever seen on DCUM.

We also send our girls to private school but I'll make sure we reevaluate that decision every year based on their attractiveness.

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I was the only girl in my family so there was never any comparison of looks. Thankfully, I have one of each now and no one compares a boy with a girl. Both my kids are good looking and cute to me. To the outside world, they are certainly not hideous!!

Girls (sisters) get more commonly compared for looks and it is horrible. I am so glad I do not have two DDs though my DH wanted only girls.

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I refuse to believe that some parents don't think their kids are cute. Op, what does your sister say exactly about her dd?

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Anonymous wrote:My DD is quite cute (if I do say so myself) and we shower her with attention, buy nice clothes for her, send her to private school, etc.

OTOH, my SIL’s DD is not very cute (SIL is good-looking and has expressed disappointment in her DD’s looks over the years), and her parents don’t give her much attention or spend much money on her clothes or schooling/activities, even though they are likely richer than us. My niece acts out/throws tantrums to get attention, though she is naturally more athletic and quite possibly smarter than my DD.

This is hands down the weirdest post I have ever seen on DCUM.

We also send our girls to private school but I'll make sure we reevaluate that decision every year based on their attractiveness.

LOL

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I think so. Most are not so crass to say it in front of non-family. Everyone else already knows. The child certainly does.

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My parents didn't want me to take my looks to my head, so they favored my sister who was better in school.

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Both my little boys are heartthrobs. They have my husband's looks and complexion. They have his natural tanning ability and perfect hair. They have his charming nature and personality. From me they inherited being petite. Hopefully they will have good growth spurts as they get older. My oldest is 11 and very protective of me when my husband is not around. He runs ahead to open doors for me or any adult and is quite the little gentleman. He's always helping me clean and will put away the groceries without being told to so. He will lock the house down at night and set the alarm. He is always thanking me every night for everything we do for them. My youngest is more affectionate and likes snuggling. Even at 8 years old he still calls me "Mommy". He's a lot more dependent but always says please and thank you. Both of them are constantly being recognized at school for grades and citizenship. So my answer is they're both my favorite.

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Anonymous wrote:Both my little boys are heartthrobs. They have my husband's looks and complexion. They have his natural tanning ability and perfect hair. They have his charming nature and personality. From me they inherited being petite. Hopefully they will have good growth spurts as they get older. My oldest is 11 and very protective of me when my husband is not around. He runs ahead to open doors for me or any adult and is quite the little gentleman. He's always helping me clean and will put away the groceries without being told to so. He will lock the house down at night and set the alarm. He is always thanking me every night for everything we do for them. My youngest is more affectionate and likes snuggling. Even at 8 years old he still calls me "Mommy". He's a lot more dependent but always says please and thank you. Both of them are constantly being recognized at school for grades and citizenship. So my answer is they're both my favorite.

They sound great. Why is an 8 year old saying Mommy of note? At what age should kids stop saying mommy/daddy?