Don’t bring a gift to a birthday play date?

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Anonymous wrote:The only times I went to a no gift party and I followed the rules, everyone else had brought a gift.

People say this all the time, and I just don't believe it. Were you the first guest there and were you really observing everyone who arrived? I have thrown and attended no-gift parties, and while there are always some guests who arrive with gifts, either because they didn't read the invitation or because of some self-righteous "I decide when I give someone a gift bs," it's never everyone.

This post made me think - what if the party host invited one (or more) people whom they KNOW simply cannot afford to bring a gift, so in an effort to ensure the person can participate without any embarrassment, they declare the party “no gifts!” - great! Problem solved, everyone can enjoy and no one loses face!

But then a bunch of the other guests take it upon themselves to just bring a gift anyway… now that person feels crappy and embarrassed. I’m sure thatnot what all of you who insist in going against the host’s stated wishes intend to happen, but it may be something you should consider.

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Anonymous wrote:In this situation, we usually bring the birthday child a copy of one of our favorite books and a card.

I would hand it back to you and ask if you read the invitation where I said NO GIFTS! Also, I do not want more trash with a card. Do what people ask!

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Why do people refuse to follow this very simple request? Mind boggling…

Why do you have an issue with your kids getting a gift?

Not your concern. You don’t get to decide how other people parent their kids. If they say “no gifts” just don’t bring a gift (or trash like cards or stickers pr bubbles or whatever). Stop trying to control how other people choose to celebrate/host!!!

I don’t bring stuff like that and real gifts. Don’t have a party if you don’t want gifts. You don’t get to control gifts.

Don't go if "No gifts" is too hard for you.

What about being a gracious host and just saying "thank you?" Some of you have zero tact and manners. Donate the gift if you're that adamant but don't be an a-hole at a kid's party because your commands weren't followed to the letter.

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Anonymous wrote:In this situation, we usually bring the birthday child a copy of one of our favorite books and a card.

I would hand it back to you and ask if you read the invitation where I said NO GIFTS! Also, I do not want more trash with a card. Do what people ask!

+1

Why do people refuse to follow this very simple request? Mind boggling…

Why do you have an issue with your kids getting a gift?

Not your concern. You don’t get to decide how other people parent their kids. If they say “no gifts” just don’t bring a gift (or trash like cards or stickers pr bubbles or whatever). Stop trying to control how other people choose to celebrate/host!!!

I don’t bring stuff like that and real gifts. Don’t have a party if you don’t want gifts. You don’t get to control gifts.

Don't go if "No gifts" is too hard for you.

What about being a gracious host and just saying "thank you?" Some of you have zero tact and manners. Donate the gift if you're that adamant but don't be an a-hole at a kid's party because your commands weren't followed to the letter.

Manners come in by respecting the host's request. Why can't people do that?

I know a kid who would be ok (ish) with a party, but for some reason gifts from others overwhelmed him. He had no gift parties. He just wanted to play with friends.

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Anonymous wrote:In this situation, we usually bring the birthday child a copy of one of our favorite books and a card.

I would hand it back to you and ask if you read the invitation where I said NO GIFTS! Also, I do not want more trash with a card. Do what people ask!

+1

Why do people refuse to follow this very simple request? Mind boggling…

Why do you have an issue with your kids getting a gift?

Not your concern. You don’t get to decide how other people parent their kids. If they say “no gifts” just don’t bring a gift (or trash like cards or stickers pr bubbles or whatever). Stop trying to control how other people choose to celebrate/host!!!

I don’t bring stuff like that and real gifts. Don’t have a party if you don’t want gifts. You don’t get to control gifts.

Don't go if "No gifts" is too hard for you.

What about being a gracious host and just saying "thank you?" Some of you have zero tact and manners. Donate the gift if you're that adamant but don't be an a-hole at a kid's party because your commands weren't followed to the letter.

Manners come in by respecting the host's request. Why can't people do that?

I know a kid who would be ok (ish) with a party, but for some reason gifts from others overwhelmed him. He had no gift parties. He just wanted to play with friends.

So you ditch your manners if someone else doesn't have any? That doesn't make you the better person. It's tit for tat.