Men yelling at women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the opposite. I am a very even tempered man with a wonderful but hot headed wife who yells anytime she is frustrated.

I have started yelling back. It is the only language she understands when angry.

This. My brother's wife is exactly like this. Thank God he started giving it back and embarrassing her the way she has embarrassed him for years. It is the only thing that shuts her up. Op needs to understand this goes with both sexes, and men are abused verbally and emotionally plenty.

[Anonymous]

I yell at women plenty and I am a woman. You can't play this were equal crap all over the place and then say you're too delicate and should be treated like you are a saint. Most women are not saints and never will be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I yell at women plenty and I am a woman. You can't play this were equal crap all over the place and then say you're too delicate and should be treated like you are a saint. Most women are not saints and never will be.

What’s your life like where you are yelling at women plenty? Where are you yelling at these women and why?

My FIL yelled at me once before DH and I married. He was unhinged and hurtful. It was a precursor to his behavior that I’ve had to deal with for years afterwards. I rarely see him now and his role within our nuclear family is minimal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the opposite. I am a very even tempered man with a wonderful but hot headed wife who yells anytime she is frustrated.

I have started yelling back. It is the only language she understands when angry.

+1. yelling can go both ways op.

It's only a problem if men do it. Kind of like only white people can be racist.

This is Op. Totally agree that yelling can go both ways, but in many cases the wife yells back only when she gets to the boiling magma point. You know how volcanoes work, right?

Not PP but I strongly disagree. My mom yelled all of the time growing up for the littlest reasons. My stepdad never yelled. My sister also yells and her boyfriend never does. Women yell and it isn’t just a reaction to a man yelling.

[Anonymous]

Women can be abusive too. We need to stop acting like women are these fragile beings. If women want equality, they need to be treated just like men. No coddling. Many women yell because they know they can get away with it.

[Anonymous]

OP is part of the problem. She clearly thinks men can’t be victims of abuse and women are nothing but fragile little beings. Women are not kids. They are responsible for their own actions. You want equality, but without the consequences of what it takes to be a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what you mean by identity issues, but my dad is a narcissist. He yells at the women in his life when he thinks someone else is listening and he can grandstand about how he’s the victim of evil wives and children. It’s all lies, but his audience doesn’t know that.

I'm certain seeing a guy yelling at his family would not make people sympathetic towards him

It’s what he yells:

“This is how you repay me for all the money I spent on X” Total BS as he probably spent less than $1000 on each kid from age 0-18.
“You just want to get rid of me.” (Yes, that is exactly why we spent the whole day taking you to do your errands and then to your favorite place for dinner.)
“I never disrespected my father this way. (Actually this is true since your father abandoned you when you were a baby.)

[Anonymous]

The idea that any yelling at all is abuse or toxic is ridiculous and, frankly, itself toxic. If you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who yells at all, that's fine - your choice. But don't categorically paint them as a terrible person. Sometimes yelling is totally appropriate, and sometimes a person can say abusive things without yelling. Consider how often they yell, what triggers it, what they say when they yell, whether it's coupled with any kind of physically menacing behavior, and how the other person feels about the yelling.

[Anonymous]

When is it appropriate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The idea that any yelling at all is abuse or toxic is ridiculous and, frankly, itself toxic. If you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who yells at all, that's fine - your choice. But don't categorically paint them as a terrible person. Sometimes yelling is totally appropriate, and sometimes a person can say abusive things without yelling. Consider how often they yell, what triggers it, what they say when they yell, whether it's coupled with any kind of physically menacing behavior, and how the other person feels about the yelling.

Yelling is rarely appropriate.