Men yelling at women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the opposite. I am a very even tempered man with a wonderful but hot headed wife who yells anytime she is frustrated.

I have started yelling back. It is the only language she understands when angry.

Yelling back at her is not ok; I’m not saying it is, but it could be a form of abuse.

As for her - you said it is in her nature. Maybe her yelling is a legitimate form of communication among her culture?

Furthermore, there are her hormones to consider (not to mention pregnancy, which wreaks havoc on your emotions; you can’t control it).

YOU need to keep yourself under control, PP.

Guy can never win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the opposite. I am a very even tempered man with a wonderful but hot headed wife who yells anytime she is frustrated.

I have started yelling back. It is the only language she understands when angry.

Yelling back at her is not ok; I’m not saying it is, but it could be a form of abuse.

As for her - you said it is in her nature. Maybe her yelling is a legitimate form of communication among her culture?

Furthermore, there are her hormones to consider (not to mention pregnancy, which wreaks havoc on your emotions; you can’t control it).

YOU need to keep yourself under control, PP.

NP. GTFO with this sexist bullshit.

My mom was a yeller. She was extremely controlling, and the verbal abuse was cherry on top. My dad took it in stride most of his life. I wish he'd pushed back more. His tolerance became an enabling tactic and it emboldened her bad behavior.

[Anonymous]

We were in a Target parking garage and there was a guy absolutely berating a woman. DH stepped in an politely told the guy that no one woman deserves to be yelled at like that. Her turned to the woman and told her that she was free to leave if she wanted to and that the guy would not bother her in that moment. The woman paused and again my husband said you are free to go. She picked her purse up quickly walked away and got in her car. The guy started to leave and DH said we are going to stay here for 30 min so she has time.

The guy literally just stood there in complete and utter shock. The guy kept running his mouth under his breath and DH would just ask if there was a problem, then silence. After 30 min DH just said don’t do that anymore and walked away.

Bottom line is guys that do that type of stuff are just weak POSs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the opposite. I am a very even tempered man with a wonderful but hot headed wife who yells anytime she is frustrated.

I have started yelling back. It is the only language she understands when angry.

Same here, but a woman in a same-sex relationship. My yelling begins after the first hour of being calm while being disrespected in every way possible. My wife is a gem when she drinks and gets angry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the opposite. I am a very even tempered man with a wonderful but hot headed wife who yells anytime she is frustrated.

I have started yelling back. It is the only language she understands when angry.

+1. yelling can go both ways op.

It's only a problem if men do it. Kind of like only white people can be racist.

[Anonymous]

It is never acceptable for a man to yell at a woman.

Believe women!

[Anonymous]

Adults yelling in anger - especially habitually - is not acceptable no matter who is the yeller. My sister has a terrible temper and yelled at everyone in the family when we were kids and even now she can get out of hand. I learned to walk away. And the few times someone I was dating raised their voice to me, I walked. It’s no way to live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My H did this and he had PTSD.

Here it's his ASD and Bipolar, never know what will make him snapped if he got overwhelmed or maxxed out at work. He is even worked up in the early morning after reading his work emails.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were in a Target parking garage and there was a guy absolutely berating a woman. DH stepped in an politely told the guy that no one woman deserves to be yelled at like that. Her turned to the woman and told her that she was free to leave if she wanted to and that the guy would not bother her in that moment. The woman paused and again my husband said you are free to go. She picked her purse up quickly walked away and got in her car. The guy started to leave and DH said we are going to stay here for 30 min so she has time.

The guy literally just stood there in complete and utter shock. The guy kept running his mouth under his breath and DH would just ask if there was a problem, then silence. After 30 min DH just said don’t do that anymore and walked away.

Bottom line is guys that do that type of stuff are just weak POSs.

You guys are amazing!

And yeah, I agree, guys who do that are weak, insecure. My DH is one.

[Anonymous]

My aunt did this to my uncle. Screamed, called him names, in front of us kids. He was meek and submissive. Today we would understand it would be considered verbal abuse. Apparently whenever he threatened to leave she claimed she would take the kids away from him (did not witness that part). She had a hormonal imbalance and maybe bpd/narcissism I think, in retrospect. I think it screwed up my cousins mostly in trying to form healthy adult relationships.

[Anonymous]

Two friends of mine, after much digging, found out their husbands were bisexual. They were tired of being verbally abused and decided to tell a brother and a close doctor about it. At least, they had the courage to confront them. Of course it ended in a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the opposite. I am a very even tempered man with a wonderful but hot headed wife who yells anytime she is frustrated.

I have started yelling back. It is the only language she understands when angry.

+1. yelling can go both ways op.

It's only a problem if men do it. Kind of like only white people can be racist.

This is Op. Totally agree that yelling can go both ways, but in many cases the wife yells back only when she gets to the boiling magma point. You know how volcanoes work, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the opposite. I am a very even tempered man with a wonderful but hot headed wife who yells anytime she is frustrated.

I have started yelling back. It is the only language she understands when angry.

Yelling back at her is not ok; I’m not saying it is, but it could be a form of abuse.

As for her - you said it is in her nature. Maybe her yelling is a legitimate form of communication among her culture?

Furthermore, there are her hormones to consider (not to mention pregnancy, which wreaks havoc on your emotions; you can’t control it).

YOU need to keep yourself under control, PP.

This response is absolutely absurd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the opposite. I am a very even tempered man with a wonderful but hot headed wife who yells anytime she is frustrated.

I have started yelling back. It is the only language she understands when angry.

Yelling back at her is not ok; I’m not saying it is, but it could be a form of abuse.

As for her - you said it is in her nature. Maybe her yelling is a legitimate form of communication among her culture?

Furthermore, there are her hormones to consider (not to mention pregnancy, which wreaks havoc on your emotions; you can’t control it).

YOU need to keep yourself under control, PP.

NP. GTFO with this sexist bullshit.

My mom was a yeller. She was extremely controlling, and the verbal abuse was cherry on top. My dad took it in stride most of his life. I wish he'd pushed back more. His tolerance became an enabling tactic and it emboldened her bad behavior.

Abuse could be from anybody. My mom is very controlling and used to yelled and berated my father when he was alive. I agree that he made some wrong choices but no-one deserved to be treated that way. She adopted the same habit to deal with all her kids and called them all different kinds of names whenever she was frustrated and upset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is never acceptable for a man to yell at a woman.

Believe women!

It is never acceptable for anyone to yell at the other person. It is an abuse even if women does it. Are you saying that men should take abuse from women?