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Anonymous
| Yes, the cosiderations are diffferent for fraternal, especially if they are not the same gender. |
Anonymous
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RE identicals vs fraternals...I have heard people say you have to give a break to the identical's parents as they were a "surprise" as opposed to the fraternals which are mostly IVF and therefor by choice. Meaning fraternal twin parents do not deserve a break b/c they ran the risk of multiples when they did IVF and should not now get 2 coveted spots. I was blown away when someone said this but ven more disheartened to see many who heard the comment shake their heads in agreement.
My heart goes out to you twin parents (idents and frats). Just trying to get one child in is so difficult I can not imagine the stress when it is for twins. Good luck. |
Anonymous
I actually agree with this as awful as it mind sound to you and I am speaking as someone who may have to pursue such treatment myself. These are coveted spots we're talking about - not free t-shirts. . ."aw, you gave one to little billy, so you gotta give one to his twin bill!" Sorry . . . but it's the truth. |
Anonymous
This is really a bizarre and mean thing to say. It basically is an extension of the sibling preference policy that most schools have. I have often heard parents say that thank god the older child got in because the yournger child probably would not have been accepted but for the sibling preference policy. As an aside, twins generally score similiarly on exams and so it is not a stretch to say that if one qualifies, the other probably does too. That being said, I am aware of situations where schools have accepted one and not the other when issues presented with the second twin. |
Anonymous
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1:15: Wow, I am so relieved that I did not hear anyone make these comments. I would not have been able to keep my powder dry. Thanks for your kind words. The early months are tough - even when you *know* you are having twins - but the rewards are immense and can even get easier when they are older and able to entertain each other.
10:06: OMG! Parents of twins are not trying to game the system. They simply have children who are siblings and are separated in birth order by minutes, not years. We know that these coveted spots are for children, not "free t-shirts". FWIW, an reproductive specialist may not elect to have you as a patient with your niave ideas about parenting multiples. |
Anonymous
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In my DC's grade there were 4 sets of twins at Beauvoir (in 4 classes totalling 75-80 kids).
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Anonymous
What's even more bizarre is the fact that NOT ALL FRATERNAL TWINS are conceived via IVF -- ,my boy/girl twins weren't. I do think that each twin should be evaluated separately in terms of admission. If both twins are qualified applicants and a good fit, then they should be allowed to take up two spots. On the other hand, if one of the twins is developmentally behind or is obviously not a good fit for the school, then perhaps he/she will do better in a different school. |
Anonymous
| I know someone with triplets conceived the natural way. |
Anonymous
| triplet boys at GDS. Accepted at lower school a few year back. |
Anonymous
| ... who$e father i$ a big developer, ka-ching ... |
Anonymous
| Easy to judge when it is not you.... |
Anonymous
| We told schools to make their decisions based on the girls and let the chips fall where they may. We hoped for some overlap in their acceptances as we (and the girls)prefer that they attend the same school if it is a good fit for both. Both were accepted everywhere they applied and will likely end up at the same school. No decision yet. |
Anonymous
Actually, and this has come up on the boards before, evidence suggests that identical twins are also more common via IVF: http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/science/article2017644.ece (not the primary source but references it). A couple of anedotal examples: cousin had ID twins via IVF and two of Octomom's octuplets are identical. |
Anonymous
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Wow! I have to get on this site more.
As a DC dad with natural fraternal twins - I'm "thrilled" to see some of the mommies on here thrashing around and passing blame on parents of twins who want to "game the system." The same mommies on here complaining about twins sucking up private school space I have to imagine are the same mommies driving the old mom/young mom divide. I hope my children never have to meet you. |
Anonymous
| Accepted. WIS. |