Spilled Milk

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On the bright side, she probably won’t make that same mistake again!!

It wasn't a mistake. She asked then ignored the answer. If I ask my DH something and don't hear his response, I say "What did you say?". I don't just randomly do something. She did it on purpose then lied about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP this brought back a memory for me when our freezer stopped working while we were out of town, and I lost all the milk I had been pumping and storing for my son.

I was beside myself, just sobbing. Thinking of all that wasted time, feeling like a cow being milked. It was awful.

I do think you need to apologize to your mom for screaming at her, but also just give yourself some grace. You're exhausted and this is hard.

Hang in there.

My freezer broke when I was 8 weeks post partum, full of freezer meals and $50 of lunch meat. Good times. I remember sitting on the couch BFing and asking my husband "What is that noise" What is that noise? What is that noise?". He'd respond "I don't know!!!!". I was never quiet enough when I was not BFing to notice the noise and check it out. The noise was the dying freezer detecting the temp was too high and turning on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the bright side, she probably won’t make that same mistake again!!

It wasn't a mistake. She asked then ignored the answer. If I ask my DH something and don't hear his response, I say "What did you say?". I don't just randomly do something. She did it on purpose then lied about it.

Uh yeah, then she gaslights after it "I am the true victim here!!!!!" Classic narc move

It was not a mistake. Who throws away bottles in a house with a low supply mom pumping? A narcissist mom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the bright side, she probably won’t make that same mistake again!!

It wasn't a mistake. She asked then ignored the answer. If I ask my DH something and don't hear his response, I say "What did you say?". I don't just randomly do something. She did it on purpose then lied about it.

Are you the OP?
My reading of the OP was that it was a mistake. Are you saying it was intentional?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the bright side, she probably won’t make that same mistake again!!

It wasn't a mistake. She asked then ignored the answer. If I ask my DH something and don't hear his response, I say "What did you say?". I don't just randomly do something. She did it on purpose then lied about it.

Are you the OP?
My reading of the OP was that it was a mistake. Are you saying it was intentional?

Yes! You don't think this lady mentioned to her mom she was up for two hours pumping to get a couples ounces of milk? That just didn't come up in conversation? If this is a new baby breast milk looks yellow. If she didn't hear her daughter, why throw it away instead of asking the question again? If you saw a plate of dinner sitting on the counter, asked your DH if he was going to eat it and got a muffled reply, would you toss it in the garbage? Even her excuse doesn't make sense. If it was a true mistake the mom would be extremely sorry, and shocked by the post partum rage, sorry for the baby, concerned for her daughter, speechless, embarrassed, not playing the "I'm your mom how could you!!??!?!" victim card. Imagine you were walking down the street and someone started yelling abuse at you, you would be wondering what you did wrong, worried about that person, shocked, have no words, thinking about calling the cops, etc., you wouldn't return "Hey I'm just getting off work, I have kids to pick up, how DARE YOU talk to me like that!!". Narcissists are extremely good at abusing people then turning the tables/gaslighting for a 2nd round of abuse. They take advantage of the good nature of people. Narc moms are the worse because they mould their children into internally normalizing abuse. I was an adult for years before I realized how effed up my unbringing was. I knew it was a narc mom halfway through the paragraph because my mom has done stuff like that to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the bright side, she probably won’t make that same mistake again!!

It wasn't a mistake. She asked then ignored the answer. If I ask my DH something and don't hear his response, I say "What did you say?". I don't just randomly do something. She did it on purpose then lied about it.

Are you the OP?
My reading of the OP was that it was a mistake. Are you saying it was intentional?

Yes! You don't think this lady mentioned to her mom she was up for two hours pumping to get a couples ounces of milk? That just didn't come up in conversation? If this is a new baby breast milk looks yellow. If she didn't hear her daughter, why throw it away instead of asking the question again? If you saw a plate of dinner sitting on the counter, asked your DH if he was going to eat it and got a muffled reply, would you toss it in the garbage? Even her excuse doesn't make sense. If it was a true mistake the mom would be extremely sorry, and shocked by the post partum rage, sorry for the baby, concerned for her daughter, speechless, embarrassed, not playing the "I'm your mom how could you!!??!?!" victim card. Imagine you were walking down the street and someone started yelling abuse at you, you would be wondering what you did wrong, worried about that person, shocked, have no words, thinking about calling the cops, etc., you wouldn't return "Hey I'm just getting off work, I have kids to pick up, how DARE YOU talk to me like that!!". Narcissists are extremely good at abusing people then turning the tables/gaslighting for a 2nd round of abuse. They take advantage of the good nature of people. Narc moms are the worse because they mould their children into internally normalizing abuse. I was an adult for years before I realized how effed up my unbringing was. I knew it was a narc mom halfway through the paragraph because my mom has done stuff like that to me.

Ok, so you aren’t the OP.