My mom's friends sending me gifts...is this kind of strange or a normal trend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - You could have knocked off the stupid thank you notes in less time than it took to post your (too long) initial response and read our comments.

Grow up. Fight your battles with your mom with your mom and act like a mature woman regarding everyone else.

And, regarding this new baby: you reap what you sow.

I just took off my "I can't stand my mom!" hat and realized that you, and everyone else who said it was rude not to send thank you notes, and realized that you are right. I sent thank you notes to everyone else who sent us something and there's no reason these people should be treated differently, whatever their reason for sending it. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely my mother's friends sent me gifts. They sent the good ones. I was thrilled to get each and every one of them. And I dutifully reported back to my own mother so that she could measure the gift sent to me against whatever she had sent to her friends' children. I also wrote lovely thank you notes for each gift so that the friend could tell my mother what a nice thank you note she received and how lucky my mother is to have such a wonderful daughter and new grandchild.

It is things like this that make my mother happy and feel validated so who am I muddy the water for her.

Ditto. My mom's friends sent gifts because they love my mom. I sent thank-you notes to each and every one and I appreciated their generosity and kindness. I don't quite understand why you wouldn't be gracious and send a thank-you note.

[Anonymous]

OP, everyone has issues with their parents, one way or another. Decide to be classy. Decide to be the bigger person. Decide to parent right yourself. Now, with a baby, is the time to decide to do the right things. The thank yous are one of them.

You can show her friends that you know better, in spite of her. You seem to carry a lot of weight on your shoulders about this. You seem rather bitter, maybe talking to a professional would help. Good luck.