S/O Family Vacations

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't really go on my boyfriend's family vacations. I would be open to it, but I haven't been invited yet. My parents invited him to ours in 2019 and he couldn't make it due to work, which was fine. I think it's weird to force the issue. What if you couldn't make it due to work? Health issues? I do agree it is a kind thing to welcome your adult child's boyfriend or girlfriend like this, but if it's an unwritten expectation that can be kind of pushy.

I don't think they are forcing her to go. I think it's the boyfriend pissy that she won't commit to attending.

[Anonymous]

Oh lord. Run before you spend the next 35 years doing exactly what he wants when he wants it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh lord. Run before you spend the next 35 years doing exactly what he wants when he wants it.

+1

His reaction is super weird. I would ask him about it, and see what he says. If he doubles down, this is him showing you who is is.

[Anonymous]

Not normal at all. DH and I sometimes skip out of each other's family vacations because of limited vacation time or other things going on. No big deal.

I get about 9 weeks of vacation a year, DH gets 5 but very rarely can use all 5.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents stopped inviting me when I graduated college. After marriage, we started planning joint trips together though and we like to vacation together. We usually go on one a year. It makes it really nice with kids. We get adjoining rooms in the hotel. We put the kids to bed and then go out and enjoy the nightlife. My parents are exhausted and don't want to go out past 9pm, but would wake if there were something wrong with the kids (sound sleepers who don't wake).

I find it concerning that your bf still goes on family vacations. How old is he? Are they paying?

Why is it concerning that bf goes on family vacations? Is there an age cut off where that's not cool anymore? Also. You mention you still like to vacation with your parents, what's the difference?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents stopped inviting me when I graduated college. After marriage, we started planning joint trips together though and we like to vacation together. We usually go on one a year. It makes it really nice with kids. We get adjoining rooms in the hotel. We put the kids to bed and then go out and enjoy the nightlife. My parents are exhausted and don't want to go out past 9pm, but would wake if there were something wrong with the kids (sound sleepers who don't wake).

I find it concerning that your bf still goes on family vacations. How old is he? Are they paying?

Why is it concerning that bf goes on family vacations? Is there an age cut off where that's not cool anymore? Also. You mention you still like to vacation with your parents, what's the difference?

this. Him going on vacation w/ parents is not the weirdest part of the predicament. The problem is it's HIS family but his girlfriend can't miss one trip? When they go on two a year? Insane.

[Anonymous]

I would have anxiety if I were expected to physically be present on every family vacation...of a family that wasn't even biologically mine lol. I skipped a family vacation organized by my actual mother (I had a work conflict).