Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?

[Anonymous]

My DD has a friend whose parents truly believe that when she comes here they are outside only. In the rain. Snow. Cold. They are not. The girls are 17/18. We are fine with having her inside because she and her family are super Covid safe.

Just saying you may think your amazing child is following your rules and they might not be. She goes and sits outside on our porch right before they pick her up. If the mother asked me I’d tell her the truth but I’m not goin out if my way to tell her.

[Anonymous]

Of course not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No to inside and outside.

So your teen hasn’t seen any friend at all, in person, for nearly a year?

NP. Same for us. Kids socialize online, through video games, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD has a friend whose parents truly believe that when she comes here they are outside only. In the rain. Snow. Cold. They are not. The girls are 17/18. We are fine with having her inside because she and her family are super Covid safe.

Just saying you may think your amazing child is following your rules and they might not be. She goes and sits outside on our porch right before they pick her up. If the mother asked me I’d tell her the truth but I’m not goin out if my way to tell her.

Wow. You suck.

And this is why we don’t let our kids socialize with their friends right now. You can’t trust others to follow the rules.

[Anonymous]

Outside only family here too. We know because the other families are outside only too. We actually trust and believe our kids.

[Anonymous]

OP here -

There’s nothing I could do if she were lying to us, but I’d hope she’d be less whiny about the rule anyway if she were actually going inside behind our back.

[Anonymous]

Parent of a 15 year old: No.

[Anonymous]

Outside only, with masks.

[Anonymous]

I let my kids hang out with friends outside. They all go biking to Starbucks or Target. My husband, our three girls, and I have had Covid already (traced to a work event, not to our kids). You have to do what is best for your family, don't worry about what everyone else is doing. For us, my girls need that interaction. They are also in year round sports. Sacrifices we have had to make based on our choices is that we can't really see our parents, unless we are all masked outdoors. I can't see my sister and her kids even masked outdoors because she has a compromised immune system. But we FaceTime every day. If you don't feel comfortable letting your kids go out with other kids, or go to other kid's homes, don't. Do what you feel is right for your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here -

There’s nothing I could do if she were lying to us, but I’d hope she’d be less whiny about the rule anyway if she were actually going inside behind our back.

You monitor it and give consequences. You are the parent.

[Anonymous]

We allowed inside today but windows wide open - it was just too cold on the porch. They always wear masks too.

[Anonymous]

13yo, outside only, with masks.

The first time this group got together, several of the other parents called me first to discuss guidelines and ground rules. We’re all on the same page.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I let my kids hang out with friends outside. They all go biking to Starbucks or Target. My husband, our three girls, and I have had Covid already (traced to a work event, not to our kids). You have to do what is best for your family, don't worry about what everyone else is doing. For us, my girls need that interaction. They are also in year round sports. Sacrifices we have had to make based on our choices is that we can't really see our parents, unless we are all masked outdoors. I can't see my sister and her kids even masked outdoors because she has a compromised immune system. But we FaceTime every day. If you don't feel comfortable letting your kids go out with other kids, or go to other kid's homes, don't. Do what you feel is right for your family.

You are why it’s spreading. Starbucks and target are inside. The problem is people have no concern for others, like you. You are not making any sacrifices so stop pretending.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All these parents who say outside only...how do you know your teen is actually doing that?

Because my kid sees just one friend in person, and I know the other mom and neither of us are letting them get together in our houses. They walk, or sit on the back porch. So unless they’re going indoors at a random neighbors house (there are no other friends walkable from our houses, which is pretty much why it’s just the two of them hanging out in the first place) then they’re outdoors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I have two kids and each has a group of friends that they hang out with outdoors and indoors. No masks. Other than the couple of weeks of shutdown last spring, they have been allowed to see friends the whole time. No issues and no regrets.

Wow.