My School's DL is Awful and I'm Angry

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s still in elementary. So what if he doesn’t get to stay in AAP in middle school? All Honors classes and AP classes are open enrollment in high school anyway. His college prospects won’t be affected by his performance in elementary or even middle school. It just doesn’t matter.

The highest level AP classes in math are only available to students who place into Algebra in 7th grade. Va Tech won't consider applications from kids who aren't in the highest level AP math class.

And? Who cares? There are other schools. Is it worth your child’s life for a chance at VT? Think of it that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s still in elementary. So what if he doesn’t get to stay in AAP in middle school? All Honors classes and AP classes are open enrollment in high school anyway. His college prospects won’t be affected by his performance in elementary or even middle school. It just doesn’t matter.

The highest level AP classes in math are only available to students who place into Algebra in 7th grade. Va Tech won't consider applications from kids who aren't in the highest level AP math class.

And? Who cares? There are other schools. Is it worth your child’s life for a chance at VT? Think of it that way.

Exactly. Our kids will be fine, stop putting so much stress on them to fulfill YOUR goals.

[Anonymous]

You will go through all of this only to find that those precious high school classes have conflicting schedules and the kid needs to do summer school anyway....relax...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS's school is the worst. It's 4 hours a day of the teacher reading aloud from a slide show, then several hours of homework. All the assignments are multi-step projects that take several weeks to finish and have no clear instructions. DS is in 6th grade. He is miserable and depressed. He is refusing even to log in to class and throws a fit whenever my husband or I try to get him to do some of the homework. My husband says my son is lazy and gets angry at me for not somehow fixing this situation, and I get angry back, and we are completely stressed and unhappy. The school could not care less. There is no understanding or "grace" on their end. My son is now failing everything. He was a very good student before DL. He is enrolled in some outschool classes and does very well in those, because there is an actual person teaching and not just a slide show and a bunch of Google decks. He will work with strangers online, but will do nothing at all with me or his father. I sometimes can get a tutor to help him get his work done for the school. But I can't get enough outschool tutors often enough to get enough done that he won't be failing. I wish I could just find a daily online tutor - any high school kid with a good personality would do - to go through the Google classroom with him and help him get some of the assignments done. But I can't find that. Any suggestions for something like that? Commiseration welcome, but please I don't need snarky comments or insults right now.

Transfer him to a public charter online school like K12. It’s free and much better than what you describe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s still in elementary. So what if he doesn’t get to stay in AAP in middle school? All Honors classes and AP classes are open enrollment in high school anyway. His college prospects won’t be affected by his performance in elementary or even middle school. It just doesn’t matter.

The highest level AP classes in math are only available to students who place into Algebra in 7th grade. Va Tech won't consider applications from kids who aren't in the highest level AP math class.

Not true at all. My kid was accepted two years ago when he took pre-calc in 12th grade.

[Anonymous]

Call the school and unenroll him immediately. – Teacher

[Anonymous]

Pull him out and homeschool

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thank you for the helpful comments. We are in Fairfax. I really want to just relax and not worry about this school year, but the school puts so much pressure on us - but unfortunately he goes to middle school next year and has to qualify for advanced classes this year. If he doesn't then for some of those classes there will not be another chance, and that will affect him all the way through high school and ultimately limit his choice of colleges. This is a big source of stress for him because he is aware that he needs to do well in order to stay in the AAP program he has been in.

You are putting too much pressure on him. He absolutely does NOT need to be in AAP, he does NOT need to take honors classes in 7th grade, he does NOT need to go to TJ, and he WILL have additional opportunities in high school, and even if he doesn't, he can still get into an excellent university and have a wonderful career and life. PLEASE stop with the pressure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thank you for the helpful comments. We are in Fairfax. I really want to just relax and not worry about this school year, but the school puts so much pressure on us - but unfortunately he goes to middle school next year and has to qualify for advanced classes this year. If he doesn't then for some of those classes there will not be another chance, and that will affect him all the way through high school and ultimately limit his choice of colleges. This is a big source of stress for him because he is aware that he needs to do well in order to stay in the AAP program he has been in.

So you and he believe that 6th grade will affect his entire future? That is a lot of pressure that is not based in reality. I can see why all of you are so stressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s still in elementary. So what if he doesn’t get to stay in AAP in middle school? All Honors classes and AP classes are open enrollment in high school anyway. His college prospects won’t be affected by his performance in elementary or even middle school. It just doesn’t matter.

The highest level AP classes in math are only available to students who place into Algebra in 7th grade. Va Tech won't consider applications from kids who aren't in the highest level AP math class.

This is not true at all.

My godson is a freshman at VT, and he "only" took Calculus AB his senior year (after taking Algebra 1 in 8th grade).

My nephew is a senior at VT, and he also "only" took Caculus AB his senior year.

Thank you, this is very helpful to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s still in elementary. So what if he doesn’t get to stay in AAP in middle school? All Honors classes and AP classes are open enrollment in high school anyway. His college prospects won’t be affected by his performance in elementary or even middle school. It just doesn’t matter.

The highest level AP classes in math are only available to students who place into Algebra in 7th grade. Va Tech won't consider applications from kids who aren't in the highest level AP math class.

And? Who cares? There are other schools. Is it worth your child’s life for a chance at VT? Think of it that way.

I was just using VT as an example of a school people are familiar with, but yes, I see your point. I understand that my husband and I - to be honest, more my husband - are part of the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I withdrew and did homeschool

+1

Stop this insanity and homeschool your son.

[Anonymous]

I’m in a similar spot, OP. I keep thinking we should finish out this year. Delusional, right? It is so incredibly miserable. Every weekday is melancholy to rage, sadness to overwhelm and exhaustion. Yet we don’t want to burn any bridges. It is so hard.

[Anonymous]

Trust me, if you are not a peace about what’s going on, you need to withdraw your son. It’s for his mental health and your sanity. That is more important. You will figure it out. The school board doesn’t have the brain cells to do it. Bureaucrats don’t give a rats ass about your kid.