Tokophobia

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I don't know how this has become a group discussion about the right way to give birth, but its disheartening. My original question was asking if anyone experienced this fear. Thanks

Okay, you're the same OP who posted about your severe anxiety recently. First of all, stop thinking you can control the conversation on dcum! Are you new here?? This is not the place for supportive feedback tailored to your specifications. Second of all, STOP GOING ON THE INTERNET!!!!!!!!!! Stop researching. Stop reading. Stop going on message boards. Stop. DISTRACT YOURSELF HOWEVER YOU CAN. Write down any worries you experience during the week and then talk about them with your therapist, NOT DCUM.

First of all I am not the only one who wrote this kind of response. Second of all, I'm not new here - but apparently you run the show and set the rules! Thanks for the tips.

[Anonymous]

OP please give birth however you please - elective c-sections are a valid reproductive choice that should be respected. however, please get your underlying anxiety fully treated, or parenthood is going to be very difficult!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I don't know how this has become a group discussion about the right way to give birth, but its disheartening. My original question was asking if anyone experienced this fear. Thanks

Okay, you're the same OP who posted about your severe anxiety recently. First of all, stop thinking you can control the conversation on dcum! Are you new here?? This is not the place for supportive feedback tailored to your specifications. Second of all, STOP GOING ON THE INTERNET!!!!!!!!!! Stop researching. Stop reading. Stop going on message boards. Stop. DISTRACT YOURSELF HOWEVER YOU CAN. Write down any worries you experience during the week and then talk about them with your therapist, NOT DCUM.

First of all I am not the only one who wrote this kind of response. Second of all, I'm not new here - but apparently you run the show and set the rules! Thanks for the tips.

I get it, I annoyed you, but you remind me of myself during pregnancy and I feel bad for you. I think you are trying to control the experience by gathering information. It is not worth it. I think you will feel so much better if you just stop thinking and talking so much about all of it. I know it's hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP please give birth however you please - elective c-sections are a valid reproductive choice that should be respected. however, please get your underlying anxiety fully treated, or parenthood is going to be very difficult!

I had a phobia of giving birth and I've never had anxiety. Parenthood is/was wonderful and now both kids are in college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP please give birth however you please - elective c-sections are a valid reproductive choice that should be respected. however, please get your underlying anxiety fully treated, or parenthood is going to be very difficult!

I had a phobia of giving birth and I've never had anxiety. Parenthood is/was wonderful and now both kids are in college.

+1. Only phobia, real fear or source of anxiety I have ever had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean not phobia but anyone who isnt' a little bit worried about childbirth is in serious denial.
Maybe try some type of Hypnosis?

good to know. And I agree! I don't know if I have a phobia per se, but I have the usual generalized anxiety and then on top of that some moments in a day here and there of "holy shit I'm terrified and feel doom" Not sure if you can relate. then i become obsessed with whatever it is scaring me and turn to god awful google. Had a great dr app today and feel much better, he said he has seen much worse then me (in terms of anxiety)

Oh I have an Anxiety disorder I can fully relate. Don't google- unless you want to google positive birth stories. I would certainly ask your provider for some recommendations for someone to talk to about this. Sometimes I get anxious about something but that is just a stand in for fears about a bigger problem. So if I'm anxious about a big project in general I freak out about a small piece like a specific email. Maybe you are afraid of parenthood in general and the birth phobia is a sign of that? Just a thought.

I think you would benefit from some meditation or hypnosis. Also journal about your specific fears - break it down. Afraid of bad outcomes for the baby? Afraid of bad outcomes for you? Pain? Write it all out.

Is your partner involved? Can they take a course/read a book to help reassure you?

Best of luck. I will say that my unmedicated births hurt less than passing a kidney stone ha ha ha

[Anonymous]

Too bad that you don't understand that having sex can result in pregnancy.