What is a better number of kids? 3 or 4?

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Anonymous wrote:Have a 4th! I'm almost due with #5. Grew up one of four. Not much difference between 3 and 4.

The difference is each kid will get less time, attention and money the more u have.

They give attention to each other as well. I think that's silly. There are lots of advantages to having siblings.

They need attention from the parents not the siblings. This is what pp was pointing out pawning off parental duties on the siblings.

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Anonymous wrote:Have a 4th! I'm almost due with #5. Grew up one of four. Not much difference between 3 and 4.

I'm one of 3. My mom said, "one is fun, more than 1 is work." She said there was no difference between #2 (that was me) and the 3rd (My brother). [/quote

It should make a difference, that it doesn't is a problem. It definitely makes a difference to the child.

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Anonymous wrote:Have a 4th! I'm almost due with #5. Grew up one of four. Not much difference between 3 and 4.

The difference is each kid will get less time, attention and money the more u have.

They give attention to each other as well. I think that's silly. There are lots of advantages to having siblings.

They need attention from the parents not the siblings. This is what pp was pointing out pawning off parental duties on the siblings.

Oh please. Kids having other kids to play with isn't pawning off duties.

I assure you my 6 year old and 5 year old aren't overly burdened by my 2 and 1 year olds. But they definitely enjoy playing with each other and that definitely makes my job as parent easier.

[Anonymous]

People who claim they have 4 because they were one of 4 and loved it nee to tell if they were the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, or 4th child, what sex they are compared to their siblings, and they age difference.

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Anonymous wrote:Have a 4th! I'm almost due with #5. Grew up one of four. Not much difference between 3 and 4.

The difference is each kid will get less time, attention and money the more u have.

They give attention to each other as well. I think that's silly. There are lots of advantages to having siblings.

They need attention from the parents not the siblings. This is what pp was pointing out pawning off parental duties on the siblings.

Oh please. Kids having other kids to play with isn't pawning off duties.

I assure you my 6 year old and 5 year old aren't overly burdened by my 2 and 1 year olds. But they definitely enjoy playing with each other and that definitely makes my job as parent easier.

Siblings playing with each other doesn't qualify as the parental attention a child needs to thrive. again you prove pp's point.

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Anonymous wrote:People who claim they have 4 because they were one of 4 and loved it nee to tell if they were the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, or 4th child, what sex they are compared to their siblings, and they age difference.

I am the oldest of 4 and I have 4. My youngest sibling is 7 years younger. We are girl, girl, boy, girl.

My children are boy boy girl girl and we want more. Its a busy house but at least we are never bored! And we have one severe SN (#2).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have a 4th! I'm almost due with #5. Grew up one of four. Not much difference between 3 and 4.

The difference is each kid will get less time, attention and money the more u have.

They give attention to each other as well. I think that's silly. There are lots of advantages to having siblings.

They need attention from the parents not the siblings. This is what pp was pointing out pawning off parental duties on the siblings.

OMG! You guys are nuts!

When my older 2 children are laughing and running around the house playing hide and seek while I nurse the youngest, that is not “pawning off parenting duties.” Thats called a huge benefit of having siblings and I’m so happy they have each other during this pandemic. The people who think the kids are being abused because they’re playing together instead of with me (which also happens—just not 100% of the time) are seriously insane.

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Anonymous wrote:Have a 4th! I'm almost due with #5. Grew up one of four. Not much difference between 3 and 4.

The difference is each kid will get less time, attention and money the more u have.

They give attention to each other as well. I think that's silly. There are lots of advantages to having siblings.

They need attention from the parents not the siblings. This is what pp was pointing out pawning off parental duties on the siblings.

OMG! You guys are nuts!

When my older 2 children are laughing and running around the house playing hide and seek while I nurse the youngest, that is not “pawning off parenting duties.” Thats called a huge benefit of having siblings and I’m so happy they have each other during this pandemic. The people who think the kids are being abused because they’re playing together instead of with me (which also happens—just not 100% of the time) are seriously insane.

Nobofy thinks kis are being abused by playing together that's a fairytale you have made up.

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Anonymous wrote:Have a 4th! I'm almost due with #5. Grew up one of four. Not much difference between 3 and 4.

The difference is each kid will get less time, attention and money the more u have.

They give attention to each other as well. I think that's silly. There are lots of advantages to having siblings.

They need attention from the parents not the siblings. This is what pp was pointing out pawning off parental duties on the siblings.

Oh please. Kids having other kids to play with isn't pawning off duties.

I assure you my 6 year old and 5 year old aren't overly burdened by my 2 and 1 year olds. But they definitely enjoy playing with each other and that definitely makes my job as parent easier.

Siblings playing with each other doesn't qualify as the parental attention a child needs to thrive. again you prove pp's point.

You sound like a helicopter parent. My kids have plenty of love and all kinds of affection and space to grow as well. We have a loving warm home with lots of friendw and family. Siblings enrich our lives don't take away from it.

I'm sorry for your lonely isolated existence where you can only fathom a loving relationship with 1 or 2 children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People who claim they have 4 because they were one of 4 and loved it nee to tell if they were the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, or 4th child, what sex they are compared to their siblings, and they age difference.

I am the oldest of 4 and I have 4. My youngest sibling is 7 years younger. We are girl, girl, boy, girl.

My children are boy boy girl girl and we want more. Its a busy house but at least we are never bored! And we have one severe SN (#2).

How many children do your 2nd and 3rd sibling have?

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There is no "right" number for sibling dynamics. I'm one of 3. You could argue I have classic middle child syndrome. I think it would have been f'in nuts for my parents to have a fourth...and I am certain it would have been worse for all of us.

Have the number of kids that *you* can handle. Sibling dynamics are never a guarantee.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have a 4th! I'm almost due with #5. Grew up one of four. Not much difference between 3 and 4.

The difference is each kid will get less time, attention and money the more u have.

They give attention to each other as well. I think that's silly. There are lots of advantages to having siblings.

They need attention from the parents not the siblings. This is what pp was pointing out pawning off parental duties on the siblings.

Oh please. Kids having other kids to play with isn't pawning off duties.

I assure you my 6 year old and 5 year old aren't overly burdened by my 2 and 1 year olds. But they definitely enjoy playing with each other and that definitely makes my job as parent easier.

Siblings playing with each other doesn't qualify as the parental attention a child needs to thrive. again you prove pp's point.

You sound like a helicopter parent. My kids have plenty of love and all kinds of affection and space to grow as well. We have a loving warm home with lots of friendw and family. Siblings enrich our lives don't take away from it.

I'm sorry for your lonely isolated existence where you can only fathom a loving relationship with 1 or 2 children.

Again with your fairytales. You think parenting is all about activities and playing that you interestingly describe as helicoptering. The truth is you are more likely to miss something important happening with your child because you have 4 kids, your attention in your big , funny, happy house is too divided.

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Anonymous wrote:People who claim they have 4 because they were one of 4 and loved it nee to tell if they were the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, or 4th child, what sex they are compared to their siblings, and they age difference.

I am the oldest of 4 and I have 4. My youngest sibling is 7 years younger. We are girl, girl, boy, girl.

My children are boy boy girl girl and we want more. Its a busy house but at least we are never bored! And we have one severe SN (#2).

How many children do your 2nd and 3rd sibling have?

They are very religious and don't use BC. They are recently married and one just had 2 in 13 months and the other 2 in 17 months... So I'm figuring a lot long term. #4 isn't married yet but I expect fewer kids from that one, more like me (isn't against BC)

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Anonymous wrote:There is no "right" number for sibling dynamics. I'm one of 3. You could argue I have classic middle child syndrome. I think it would have been f'in nuts for my parents to have a fourth...and I am certain it would have been worse for all of us.

Have the number of kids that *you* can handle. Sibling dynamics are never a guarantee.

This is true, but people overestimate what they can handle when it comes to parenting.

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Anonymous wrote:People who claim they have 4 because they were one of 4 and loved it nee to tell if they were the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, or 4th child, what sex they are compared to their siblings, and they age difference.

I am the oldest of 4 and I have 4. My youngest sibling is 7 years younger. We are girl, girl, boy, girl.

My children are boy boy girl girl and we want more. Its a busy house but at least we are never bored! And we have one severe SN (#2).

How many children do your 2nd and 3rd sibling have?

They are very religious and don't use BC. They are recently married and one just had 2 in 13 months and the other 2 in 17 months... So I'm figuring a lot long term. #4 isn't married yet but I expect fewer kids from that one, more like me (isn't against BC)

Oh so your Duggar types this totally explains the big funny happy, house and sibling buddy thing.