I just want love (in bed) from DH

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12/07/2020 16:47

Subject: I just want love (in bed) from DH

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Anonymous wrote:My late husband and I went through a phase of this. It was just very impersonal sex - sometimes rough, sometimes not, but very clearly felt like being used for his enjoyment and nothing else. There was only enough foreplay to make it feasible and at no point did I feel like he cared about me.

It was hard to change. I had to make a bigger effort to drag him into the bedroom and spend time just kissing and cuddling before trying to get things going. I had to be more direct in what I said I wanted during the sex. It took a lot of time, but we got there.

OP here. This is exactly what I feel we're going through. To the other PPs, he didn't know I was crying. He wouldn't continue if he knew. Part of me just kept it going so he would be "finished" but the above really sums up how I feel...enough foreplay to make it feasible and the positions he likes makes me feel like he doesn't care about me. I know we can't make love every time, but sometimes I just have a need to feel loved, cherished, and desired in that way. Hope that makes sense!

OP you're so needy it's got to be a lot of work to be with you. You seem to be creating a lot of drama, no doubt he's tired of it all. Love yourself first and get rid of the meter you continually use to gage your sex life. Seriously if you want to stay in a long term marriage your needs won't always be met. Try to compromise but stop focusing on one thing and look at the positives.

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12/07/2020 17:12