Caught him texting

[Anonymous]

Exclusivity or not, a date is a date, and if it’s not all eyes on you, well... he’s not worth your time to explain it to home.

These other women probably think it’s going great, too. At least you know, and can move along with your dignity intact.

[Anonymous]

Wait, all he said in the text was “thinking of you”? So the bit about making out *wasn’t* in the text - you were telling us that you and this guy made out that night, right? (That’s the second time I’ve been confused by your posts).

Are you sure the text wasn’t to a sick friend, or a family member?

[Anonymous]

Just ask him. His response or justification or apology will give better insight. Say it seemed rude and ask why he did it in front of you. Dont put words on his mouth or help him answer. Keep quiet and listen to how he responds.

[Anonymous]

My friend is going through a divorce. She texted me something the other day while I was making dinner. I didn't want to not respond, but also didn't have time to go back and forth so my response was a quick "Thinking of you". If that's all you saw I think you're jumping to conclusions.

IMO, when people are dating they should assume the other person is dating other people until you both decide you are not. You can't sit around and "hope" that you guys are working towards exclusivity. If you want to work towards that you need to open your mouth and have a conversation - Here's what I'm feeling, here's where I'm at, I just want to see if we're on the same page. Or something along those lines. After the conversation, you can decide if you want to continue on or end it.

[Anonymous]

He sounds incredibly rude. Move on, OP.

[Anonymous]

The other woman is or will soon be his girlfriend. She’s #1.

He sent that language at that time so that she doesn’t think he’s on a date. He knows exactly what he’s doing, he’s not clueless so don’t give him the benefit of the doubt.

[Anonymous]

I would call him or text him and say "I like spending time with you. I am interested in getting to know you better and moving toward an exclusive relationship but I get the feeling you are not in the same place and are interested in continuing to date other women, so if this is the case, its probably best for me to move on. Thanks for understanding."

[Anonymous]

Honestly, this is just so rude, I'd have to break up with him. Even my kids learned not to text in an adult's presence during an event or meal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would call him or text him and say "I like spending time with you. I am interested in getting to know you better and moving toward an exclusive relationship but I get the feeling you are not in the same place and are interested in continuing to date other women, so if this is the case, its probably best for me to move on. Thanks for understanding."

Do you always use so many words? Do you stammer as well? Jesus, that’s an awful script.

[Anonymous]

You have your proof that he is not that into you. Best time to find out! Move on now before you've invested more time and it's harder to break it off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Other woman was probably his mom or sister, lol.

What I saw him texting was clearly a romantic interest.

How do you know this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would call him or text him and say "I like spending time with you. I am interested in getting to know you better and moving toward an exclusive relationship but I get the feeling you are not in the same place and are interested in continuing to date other women, so if this is the case, its probably best for me to move on. Thanks for understanding."

Do you always use so many words? Do you stammer as well? Jesus, that’s an awful script.

+1

Just ask him. Are you seeing other people? I’m curious and won’t judge your answer. I might even offer up that I had romantic interests myself, even if we weren’t on the same page. Make it normal. Just be direct. Don’t play a stupid game of chase. You don’t want to move on based on a feeling. You want an answer to make your decision. Show more self-confidence sweetheart

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would call him or text him and say "I like spending time with you. I am interested in getting to know you better and moving toward an exclusive relationship but I get the feeling you are not in the same place and are interested in continuing to date other women, so if this is the case, its probably best for me to move on. Thanks for understanding."

Do you always use so many words? Do you stammer as well? Jesus, that’s an awful script.

Why such a Debbie Downer? Just do the first part.

[Anonymous]

You said you are not doing it so that means you are not exclusive.
You don't get to keep your options open and have him close his.
Either paint or get off the ladder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah I mean it doesn’t bode well that he’s texting while on a date with you. I’d just move along. Plus 6 weeks is awhile to not have advanced the relationship.

OP here. I want to give this some hope, don't you think six weeks is kind of early to bring up a relationship talk? It's a bit long distance, so we talk a bunch but don't see each other all the time. Which, leads to the insecurity I have with him.

Did you answer why you’re certain it was a romantic interest?