College Kids returning... house rules?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our college kids are returning and was wondering what house rules everybody else is having.

I'm not sure why they are telling me their rules, their sons should communicate this to them, everybody is different and I can't keep track of everybody's rules.

If that is their rules at their house that is fine, if my son does not quarantine 14 days and that is their rule, they should not invite him over.

I agree - they should communicate directly with their own children about their expectations, and should only be communicating rules to people actually visiting. If they are not inviting you over, why are they telling you rules for your adult children? Makes no sense.

I think they are just trying to understand other peoples rules to gage each other’s rules. One deferred college because their mom was too afraid to send him, one already had it (college athlete)... I don’t know about the other 2.

My sons had jobs all summer, I’m sure they will deliver Uber eats or something over the holidays. For some isolation is not possible ... for others it’s necessary. I think it’s up to each family.

This is why this out of control pandemic will never end. It's not an individual matter, it's not a family matter. It's a whole-community matter. Your choices affect EVERYONE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our college kids are returning and was wondering what house rules everybody else is having.

I'm not sure why they are telling me their rules, their sons should communicate this to them, everybody is different and I can't keep track of everybody's rules.

If that is their rules at their house that is fine, if my son does not quarantine 14 days and that is their rule, they should not invite him over.

I agree - they should communicate directly with their own children about their expectations, and should only be communicating rules to people actually visiting. If they are not inviting you over, why are they telling you rules for your adult children? Makes no sense.

I think they are just trying to understand other peoples rules to gage each other’s rules. One deferred college because their mom was too afraid to send him, one already had it (college athlete)... I don’t know about the other 2.

My sons had jobs all summer, I’m sure they will deliver Uber eats or something over the holidays. For some isolation is not possible ... for others it’s necessary. I think it’s up to each family.

This is why this out of control pandemic will never end. It's not an individual matter, it's not a family matter. It's a whole-community matter. Your choices affect EVERYONE.

I don’t think you really understand why it’s out of control. It’s not from seeing a few people in your friends group.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP i agree with you that the moms shouldn't really be the primary ones communicating this at college age but I also agree that they are probably trying to express it to you because it sounds like you are way more lax than the vast majority in this area right now in terms of inside exposure because you are saying you will allow about 10 friends (overall) coming and going inside which right now is by far the biggest cause of the spread of this virus (different households interacting inside other's homes) and most people I know are actively avoiding this with anyone outside their immediate pod.

You are right that every family has their own risk tolerance, but this is also about being a part of a community and playing a part in the community effort to slow down spread, in my opinion. So even though you aren't worried about your one son because he already had it, if you invite groups of his friends inside your home, those kids are all at risk (not from your son but each other). You are totally right that they are adults and they should be able to manage this but we all know that most college aged kids still need their parents help managing risk (frontal lobe development still at work). I would encourage moving your boundaries to just being outside hang outs and then you will lower the risk of your house being the spot of a spreading event greatly (and getting it yourself).

I understand your concern and the concern of the 4 parents. I suspect those 4 will do the 14 day isolation and see each other outside with masks.

I suspect the other 6 will test upon arrival and see each other over the next 2-3 months (like they did all summer) hanging out in each others basements watching TV and playing video games.

Actually i really don't think either is right or wrong, it's becoming more clear that the 4 kids are pushing back on their parents rules which is why they are reaching out.

I don't think small pods are creating spread. I think it's people that are having uncle bob over after his boat parade and aunt betty who doesn't believe in masks.

That depends on the behavior of the people in the small pod.

https://healthblog.uofmhealth.org/wellness-prevention/how-to-keep-covid-19-from-invading-your-pod-and-how-to-stay-safe-if-it-does

[Anonymous]

I have a patio heater, a fire pit, and I just bought the max limit of $8 blanket throws from Costco and some electric blanket throws. All social events outdoors. I had reserved a private movie showing, but that may get postponed. Our college kid is testing before she comes home this weekend along with her roommate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP i agree with you that the moms shouldn't really be the primary ones communicating this at college age but I also agree that they are probably trying to express it to you because it sounds like you are way more lax than the vast majority in this area right now in terms of inside exposure because you are saying you will allow about 10 friends (overall) coming and going inside which right now is by far the biggest cause of the spread of this virus (different households interacting inside other's homes) and most people I know are actively avoiding this with anyone outside their immediate pod.

You are right that every family has their own risk tolerance, but this is also about being a part of a community and playing a part in the community effort to slow down spread, in my opinion. So even though you aren't worried about your one son because he already had it, if you invite groups of his friends inside your home, those kids are all at risk (not from your son but each other). You are totally right that they are adults and they should be able to manage this but we all know that most college aged kids still need their parents help managing risk (frontal lobe development still at work). I would encourage moving your boundaries to just being outside hang outs and then you will lower the risk of your house being the spot of a spreading event greatly (and getting it yourself).

I understand your concern and the concern of the 4 parents. I suspect those 4 will do the 14 day isolation and see each other outside with masks.

I suspect the other 6 will test upon arrival and see each other over the next 2-3 months (like they did all summer) hanging out in each others basements watching TV and playing video games.

Actually i really don't think either is right or wrong, it's becoming more clear that the 4 kids are pushing back on their parents rules which is why they are reaching out.

I don't think small pods are creating spread. I think it's people that are having uncle bob over after his boat parade and aunt betty who doesn't believe in masks.

Well, my observation from people I know is that almost everyone has an uncle bob or an aunt betty. Even within pods people don't always fess up about visits from those kind of relatives.

[Anonymous]

We're staying away from elderly family members, and being considerate when it comes to those who are uncomfortable with close contact, whether that discomfort is logical or not. Other than that, we're living our lives as normal. The virus has a 99.8% recovery rate, higher for healthy, non-elderly people like us. The culture of fear we've accepted as normal is the real pandemic.

[Anonymous]

My wife is a bit lax. But I am not. I recall during pandemic since I had a pool and a nice flat backyard my kids friends would come over. Parent drop them off with mask enter my yard. Pretty soon using my bathroom as hot and buggy. I have a full finished basement I never use. They come in and hang out. Whole group, parents pull up and text kids would put on mask and go out my back door and appear from yard. Eventually all parents did this. Kinda pod.

Go to Cabin John Mall in Potomac on a nice day at lunch around 200 kids outside no masks hanging out.

I guarantee you Thanksgiving weekend Cabin John Mall will be packed with college kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^^^^ 9/15

NCAA rules 14 days isolation, 7 days back to health plan with full cardio and lung tests before fully practicing with the team.

I would say for my no son it took the full 21 days to feel good enough to practice. But he suffered from depression and anxiety after (more related to the isolation) and is still being treated for that.

They test all players 3x /week but once they test positive no testing for 90 days.

I’m sorry about your nephew I hope he fully recovers.

If you haven't already done so, you should get your son in to see a cardiologist at Children's before returning to sports. Inflammation can be deadly.

And your own house rules are nuts. Im hoping you're a troll. Your plan risks the health of a dozen people just in thr first round.

It's myocarditis and appears to be a fairly common/non-rare development in young people who have had COVID-19. It appears to last at least for months after a person tests negative, although it is too early to tell if it persists longer or leaves behind permanent damage. Myocarditis is the leading cause of sudden death in high school and college athletes. Get you son to a cardiologist before he goes back to practice. Truly can be a ticking timebomb.

And just to add what others here have written, your cavalier approach to this uncontrolled, lethal pandemic is scary. I'm truly hoping you are a troll, getting your jollys seeing everyone else tell you that you're an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife is a bit lax. But I am not. I recall during pandemic since I had a pool and a nice flat backyard my kids friends would come over. Parent drop them off with mask enter my yard. Pretty soon using my bathroom as hot and buggy. I have a full finished basement I never use. They come in and hang out. Whole group, parents pull up and text kids would put on mask and go out my back door and appear from yard. Eventually all parents did this. Kinda pod.

Go to Cabin John Mall in Potomac on a nice day at lunch around 200 kids outside no masks hanging out.

I guarantee you Thanksgiving weekend Cabin John Mall will be packed with college kids.

I guess life kinda sucks if you are a college kid and Cabin John Mall is your hangout space. LOL

[Anonymous]

A college coach told me today that athletes are not passing EKG tests after getting COVID. I agree that they shouldn't tell you, but for you and others to be so lax about young people getting it is crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A college coach told me today that athletes are not passing EKG tests after getting COVID. I agree that they shouldn't tell you, but for you and others to be so lax about young people getting it is crazy.

Interesting post.

Athletes sent a letter to NCAA saying the didn’t want to play but to keep their scholarships they had to play, society demanded it. Grocery store workers, restaurants, liquor stores.... everybody wants their “necessity”.... but 3 kids play video games is “selfish”. Very interesting perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^^^ 9/15

NCAA rules 14 days isolation, 7 days back to health plan with full cardio and lung tests before fully practicing with the team.

I would say for my no son it took the full 21 days to feel good enough to practice. But he suffered from depression and anxiety after (more related to the isolation) and is still being treated for that.

They test all players 3x /week but once they test positive no testing for 90 days.

I’m sorry about your nephew I hope he fully recovers.

If you haven't already done so, you should get your son in to see a cardiologist at Children's before returning to sports. Inflammation can be deadly.

And your own house rules are nuts. Im hoping you're a troll. Your plan risks the health of a dozen people just in thr first round.

It's myocarditis and appears to be a fairly common/non-rare development in young people who have had COVID-19. It appears to last at least for months after a person tests negative, although it is too early to tell if it persists longer or leaves behind permanent damage. Myocarditis is the leading cause of sudden death in high school and college athletes. Get you son to a cardiologist before he goes back to practice. Truly can be a ticking timebomb.

And just to add what others here have written, your cavalier approach to this uncontrolled, lethal pandemic is scary. I'm truly hoping you are a troll, getting your jollys seeing everyone else tell you that you're an idiot.

NCAA requires it. So every athlete dies that. Also playing was not really optional for athletes on scholarship, they said it was but it wasn’t.

Hope you enjoy fear porn you seem addicted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^^^ 9/15

NCAA rules 14 days isolation, 7 days back to health plan with full cardio and lung tests before fully practicing with the team.

I would say for my no son it took the full 21 days to feel good enough to practice. But he suffered from depression and anxiety after (more related to the isolation) and is still being treated for that.

They test all players 3x /week but once they test positive no testing for 90 days.

I’m sorry about your nephew I hope he fully recovers.

If you haven't already done so, you should get your son in to see a cardiologist at Children's before returning to sports. Inflammation can be deadly.

And your own house rules are nuts. Im hoping you're a troll. Your plan risks the health of a dozen people just in thr first round.

It's myocarditis and appears to be a fairly common/non-rare development in young people who have had COVID-19. It appears to last at least for months after a person tests negative, although it is too early to tell if it persists longer or leaves behind permanent damage. Myocarditis is the leading cause of sudden death in high school and college athletes. Get you son to a cardiologist before he goes back to practice. Truly can be a ticking timebomb.

And just to add what others here have written, your cavalier approach to this uncontrolled, lethal pandemic is scary. I'm truly hoping you are a troll, getting your jollys seeing everyone else tell you that you're an idiot.

NCAA requires it. So every athlete dies that. Also playing was not really optional for athletes on scholarship, they said it was but it wasn’t.

Hope you enjoy fear porn you seem addicted.

You're out of your mind. You have no idea--because no one can have any idea--what the long-term health consequences are for your son if he had COVID. But would definitely check for myocarditis and keep him out of practice for a few months. OP, or whoever is posting, is so ridiculously opposed to any kind of understanding of the pandemic, that I assume either you are just a troll stirring the pot or you are writing this note from some bar in South Dakota.

[Anonymous]

My son is coming home, and we informed our close friend (like a grandma to my kids), so she had the option of not joining us for Thanksgiving. She agreed that she would wait and see us when the numbers are back down. My son has had four covid tests due to random testing at his campus, and all have been negative. Still it's a risk.

Our house rules are the same as they have been since graduation: no drinking, no weed, (he's not 21) need to be home at 1am, or find some where else to sleep. Doors are locked at 1, unless you've cleared it with us first.

I'm not even sure he will go back to campus in January.

[Anonymous]

Sophomore lands on Friday, their school is testing all of the kids on the way out (just got their test back, negative). I realize they may catch it on the plane home (too far to drive, across country) so we're setting up a test on this end again. If that comes back fine then they don't have to quarantine.