My 13-year-old is posting coming out videos on Tiktok

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her she’s not gay, to stop being so silly and to knock that shit off, and that people generally don’t proclaim sexuality to others.

I would tell her to grow up, except she’s just 13 and going along with the crowd.

OP this is terrible, terrible advice. This is the kind of attitude that contributes to higher suicide rates among LGBT kids, and it will do damage to your relationship with your daughter that will be hard to undo.

No it isn’t. OP’s kid isn’t a lesbian; she is a dramatic teenage girl trying to fit in with a crowd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her she’s not gay, to stop being so silly and to knock that shit off, and that people generally don’t proclaim sexuality to others.

I would tell her to grow up, except she’s just 13 and going along with the crowd.

OP this is terrible, terrible advice. This is the kind of attitude that contributes to higher suicide rates among LGBT kids, and it will do damage to your relationship with your daughter that will be hard to undo.

No it isn’t. OP’s kid isn’t a lesbian; she is a dramatic teenage girl trying to fit in with a crowd.

Stop read parlar.

Nobody is faking who they want to date to be in the crowd.

Yes 13 is a normal age to want to date, kiss, go together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her she’s not gay, to stop being so silly and to knock that shit off, and that people generally don’t proclaim sexuality to others.

I would tell her to grow up, except she’s just 13 and going along with the crowd.

OP this is terrible, terrible advice. This is the kind of attitude that contributes to higher suicide rates among LGBT kids, and it will do damage to your relationship with your daughter that will be hard to undo.

No it isn’t. OP’s kid isn’t a lesbian; she is a dramatic teenage girl trying to fit in with a crowd.

I had my first crush when I was 9 and my first kiss at 12 and I guess I didn’t know I was straight, I was just trying to go along with the crowd.

No, that advice is really, really terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her she’s not gay, to stop being so silly and to knock that shit off, and that people generally don’t proclaim sexuality to others.

I would tell her to grow up, except she’s just 13 and going along with the crowd.

OP this is terrible, terrible advice. This is the kind of attitude that contributes to higher suicide rates among LGBT kids, and it will do damage to your relationship with your daughter that will be hard to undo.

No it isn’t. OP’s kid isn’t a lesbian; she is a dramatic teenage girl trying to fit in with a crowd.

Stop read parlar.

Nobody is faking who they want to date to be in the crowd.

Yes 13 is a normal age to want to date, kiss, go together.

While I don't support the advice of the original poster of this post, of course kids of this age in this time try to fit in by 'not limiting themselves to a box' and saying things like they're asexual and gender fluid. You run the risk of being shamed for being 'heteronormative' or whatever because you're supposed to be open to everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her she’s not gay, to stop being so silly and to knock that shit off, and that people generally don’t proclaim sexuality to others.

I would tell her to grow up, except she’s just 13 and going along with the crowd.

OP this is terrible, terrible advice. This is the kind of attitude that contributes to higher suicide rates among LGBT kids, and it will do damage to your relationship with your daughter that will be hard to undo.

No it isn’t. OP’s kid isn’t a lesbian; she is a dramatic teenage girl trying to fit in with a crowd.

Stop read parlar.

Nobody is faking who they want to date to be in the crowd.

Yes 13 is a normal age to want to date, kiss, go together.

While I don't support the advice of the original poster of this post, of course kids of this age in this time try to fit in by 'not limiting themselves to a box' and saying things like they're asexual and gender fluid. You run the risk of being shamed for being 'heteronormative' or whatever because you're supposed to be open to everything.

Okay so it is theoretically possible that OP’s DD is just doing it to fit in, parents have no way of knowing that. And the odds of somebody being shamed for being heteronormative just by being straight are LOW. The odds of being shamed not being straight are way higher. Not all kids think being gay is cool, and most adults don’t think it’s cool at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her she’s not gay, to stop being so silly and to knock that shit off, and that people generally don’t proclaim sexuality to others.

I would tell her to grow up, except she’s just 13 and going along with the crowd.

OP this is terrible, terrible advice. This is the kind of attitude that contributes to higher suicide rates among LGBT kids, and it will do damage to your relationship with your daughter that will be hard to undo.

No it isn’t. OP’s kid isn’t a lesbian; she is a dramatic teenage girl trying to fit in with a crowd.

Stop read parlar.

Nobody is faking who they want to date to be in the crowd.

Yes 13 is a normal age to want to date, kiss, go together.

You are dead wrong. My daughter has met a number of kids who did exactly that, later "recanted". They were looking for a peer group.

[Anonymous]

OP, use your instincts. You dont need affirmation from anyone here. Be the parent- its ok to set limits on things. Its ok to treat this as something that could pass but maybe dont tell HER that. If you come down on her too hard you may make things worse.

[Anonymous]

Aww she’s so young and probably very lonely. I can understand how it fills a void. But she’s too young to spend time on tik tok. Can she FaceTime with some friends instead?

I would separate out the sexuality stuff and the social media stuff. And make sure she’s knows the no tik-tok rule has nothing to do with LGBQT.

[Anonymous]

A 10 year old girl just died after a Tiktok challenge. My kids are a little younger, but I am terrified and will try to avoid having this App

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A 10 year old girl just died after a Tiktok challenge. My kids are a little younger, but I am terrified and will try to avoid having this App

My DD is 13 and she has never been on tik took. None of her friends are into it either. They do like Minecraft though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s almost cool to be in the in crowds to be LGBTQ

Almost? It is cool

It’s been that way for at least a decade. I remember being in college and it was definitely a thing with my high school age cousins. Not surprised that 13 year olds are into it now.

I would be very unimpressed and give it the same attention as if she told you she likes toast. “Okay, good for you. I’m still not letting you have a tiktok account.” For 99% of these bi/asexual/queer girls they will end up dating a guy, getting married, having kids. If they need the label to make the mundane more interesting, so be it.

[Anonymous]

My DD was 16 when she announced she was bi and sent a message to her friends, posted it on social media, etc. - she wanted congratulations from us as her friends were congratulating her. I couldn't understand the need to post this at such a young age, for some reason kids are feeling that they need to identify their sexuality at a young age- (my DD ended up dating guys -who knows that could change and it's fine with us if she does but I just don't think there is a need to label oneself )

Those who say take their phone away, please note that it's almost impossible to patrol social media, they use their laptops, their friends phones, etc. in order to post. OP- I do think you should try to educate your DD on safe social media practices, but don't lose sleep on her posting this, it seems to be what kids do these days.