Difficult choices to send whom to private

[Anonymous]

A fair amount of research suggests that daycare is stressful for young kids. He'd be better off with the grandparents, being loved and broadening his linguistic skills.

I'm sending my kid to an in-person private K. It's amazingly better than the in-person public experience my older children had -- phonics, handwriting, recess. May not be able to afford to continue him there, but I feel it's given him an excellent start.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep the 2.5 half year old home with grandparents and send the K to private in-person school. Next year will NOT be normal. At best, it may be hybrid. Virtual learning for K is terrible.

I agree with this. My 3 is doing a preschool program from home, basically teachers communicate with parents to give ideas on activities for a fraction of the cost. She has a half hour dance, art, music, and circle time a week, which she loves and participate she in. It’s enough to give her a sense of what it means to follow another adult in an activity. We also do play dates outside and masked with a few of the kids in this program. It is good socialization. Maybe you can get a sitter a few times a week to do that with other families at your risk/exposure level.

The older one needs a bigger social group. For the younger one, loving one on one care with grandparents is excellent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is op. Grandparents are elderly, and they do not drive or speak English. They often have TV turned on, and they don’t engage much with the younger one because the younger one is energized. And, they stay home most of the time. Good things about grandparents care are they cook a lot of yummy food for younger one to eat, and they cuddle a lot and so laid back.

Grandparents cannot take the older one to do DL because the older one is too handful (chatterbox, extrovert & energized) and they cannot communicate with each other because of language barrier.

For 2021-2022, I really want to send the younger one to private daycare in person because that was the original plan. But, I am not sure if I can handle DL with my older kid for a full year, and I can imagine me yelling all the time. For older kid, if I decide to go private for 2021-2022, I have 2 options. One is to keep him at current daycare with certified k program in person (I may pick this option since both kids can be picked up/dropped off together, and I know that they will be opened in person) OR find a new private school with k in person (need to do research on this one). We will hope for public school to be opened in person in 2022-2023.

Junk food, cuddles, and minimal engagement will be a disaster for a 2 5yr old.

Grandma is good as a backup babysitter, not as fulltime childcare provider. You're doing a real disservice to everyone.

Oh hmmm... revising my earlier rec based on this. I would say definitely hire a sitter for mornings at least several times a week to do outings and stimulate the little one. Grandparents might be ok to give lunch and a nap, then some play at home. Be sure you give them lots of materials and set up a well-stocked play area — play kitchen, magnatiles, props for pretend play, books on tape, children’s music, play dough, art supplies, etc. Child should not be in same room as TV all day. That is correlated with increased risk of ADHD and language delays.

[Anonymous]

We have K in DL. It is a terrible experience for him. Older kid is ok. This does not seem hard to decide with hindsight. Sign up for private for next fall for the K and keep 2.5 yo with grandparents. You can dude roll midway if the public schools open up.

[Anonymous]

There won’t be DL a year from now, the economy would implode beforehand. I would keep them in their current school.

[Anonymous]

Are you happy about your toddler being able to speak GPs’ language while the 6 year old cannot? Won’t this lead to problems when they’re older?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Keep the 2.5 half year old home with grandparents and send the K to private in-person school. Next year will NOT be normal. At best, it may be hybrid. Virtual learning for K is terrible.

So you want grandma to be exposed to the kindergartners classmates Covid exposures? If it It’s not safe for the public schools to be open, but it’s not safe for grandma to take care of sibling of the kid who’s going to school in person.

Am I misreading the OP? I thought 2.5 yo would be moving in with grandparents for the year, no longer living with mom and dad and kindergarten sibling.