Is it inherently bad to audibly fart in the presence of your spouse?

[Anonymous]

Is this a joke?

Or are you the type to write in to Miss Manners?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So what I'm hearing is that it is not *inherently* bad to fart around your spouse. It's fine if that's what both parties agree to, as shown by several PPs

The problem in our house is that one person, me, thinks it's OK and the other person, DH, thinks it's really, really not OK, effectively making it off-limits unless I want some withering, mean lecture.

Give him a lecture on physiological necessities and complicity in marital relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if it really stinks when you farters fart near your spouse? Does your spouse just shrug and go, oh honey I don't mind that temporary stench 'cause I love you so much? Do they not notice? Do they suck it up because you're so hot?

I'm trying to understand, honestly, why my DH is so repulsed by the smell but other spouses aren't.

Mine laughs and puts a cloth over is face. He normally gets annoyed if I do not give him notice and I do it in the car with the windows up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, notwithstanding the other posters, who seem to be able to tolerate or even enjoy their spouse's farts --- I would say you should avoid it if you ever want to make love as if you were a gorgeous catch again.

You seem to have a view of sex based on watching too many Hollywood movies.

If me crapping all over the table, while pusing a baby out of my vagina did not ruin our sex life, I'm guessing we are pretty solid (no pun intended).

[Anonymous]

We totally fart in front of each other- it turns into a competition most of the time. We also pee and poop in front of each other too.

[Anonymous]

At least my DH stopped burning them after he burned the hair off his butt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH watched me give birth - 2x now and soon 3x - farting in front of him is nothing.

LOL. So true. Maybe if DH and I didn't spend a lot of time together I could politely do it elsewhere but unfortunately, I toot when I sleep. Also, even if I go into the bathroom, he can still hear it from the bedroom and will make a comment. So unless I am going to jump out of the room, go to a bathroom where he possibly won't hear, everytime - not much I can do but say excuse me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Mine laughs and puts a cloth over is face. He normally gets annoyed if I do not give him notice and I do it in the car with the windows up.

PP here - ROFL with this thread. Anyway, everyone has a different comfort zone. I still close the door when I go to the bathroom and even if we are in the shower together there are certain cleaning things I prefer privacy. But when it comes to passing gas - it isn't my preference to do this in front of my spouse, but it just isn't practical to leave the room everytime. I don't know if it makes it better or worse to say "excuse me". If I have already done one that is a silent assasin, I will excuse myself from the room.

[Anonymous]

I vote for trying to keep a little romance and mystery alive. Sometimes you can't help farting in front of each other, but if it can be avoided, why not avoid it? I hate when my husband lets out a big, stinking thunderclap. My first thought is not, "Hey, that's sexy!"

[Anonymous]

OP, does your husband burp in front of you? If so, why does he see that as different somehow? Unfortunately for you, if your husband has this strong preference, you might want to just humor him. It's not such a big sacrifice, is it? You don't pick your nose in front of him, do you? I can totally understand your finding it inconvenient and maybe even a little insulting, but he's your guy and it is what it is.

[Anonymous]

I"m in the "if it happens it happens" camp. But, I don't go out of my way to do it.

Sometimes he does in purpose and that is highly annoying. ESPECIALLY if they are the result of chili or sausage for lunch.
I need a gas mask in those instances.

[Anonymous]

I think you should be able to let it all out, stinky farts and all. Geez, did he think he was marrying a robot?

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine living such a life.
If I'm not comfortable enough to fart in front of him why would I marry him anyway?
We're all humans, our bodies are rotting, we'll start stinking all over very soon, we won't work perfectly like this forever...
I guess this is part of the thought process that makes us end up throwing our elderlies in nursing homes... we're just too grossed out by human physiology to deal with the human being behind it.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I wonder what all these people obsessed with their partner thinking about how sexy they are all the time will do when one of them gets a serious illness?

Please don't visit me at the hospital, I'm not looking sexy...

speaking of which, as a man, having witnessed childbirth, which was about as sexy as a couple of hours in a slaughterhouse, a fart is really nothing....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So what I'm hearing is that it is not *inherently* bad to fart around your spouse. It's fine if that's what both parties agree to, as shown by several PPs

The problem in our house is that one person, me, thinks it's OK and the other person, DH, thinks it's really, really not OK, effectively making it off-limits unless I want some withering, mean lecture.

girl, my dh is the same damn way. he HATES it when i fart/burp. but i grew up in a family who doesn't care about that kind of stuff and actually thinks it is funny. sometimes though i cannot help it and i just have to let it rip, and dh always has this disgusted look on his face and says, "that's disgusting, i hate it when you do that". whatever...i am a gassy person. sometimes i do it just to piss him off and i tell him i can't hold it.