My experience with a kid in a very high achieving group at a good public school is that in application season all these kids talk big about where they think they are going and where they would never go etc. but then somehow once the acceptances start rolling in and the financial aid/merit awards etc. students have a much more realistic picture of what's happening--and they are all pretty much happy about it and excited for each other. My kid got into his first choice school and it didn't seem to make him happier than his best friend who got into one of his middle choices--as soon as they decided where they were going they were happy.
It's exciting to be moving on to the next phase of life. |
This is what I Hope happens for my kid. Thanks for sharing your experiences. |
Pitt. Your student will find out early with rolling admission. And a lot of kids end up really liking Pitt. |
I think the state flagship is usually the best safety. Many people will assume DD went to the state flagship because of money. If there's something wrong with the state flagship, then an out-of-state state flagship, like the University of Iowa or the University of Minnesota, that's great and fun but not fashionable. |
UMCP is the in state option, she absolutely does not want to go there because she thinks she will be labeled a "failure" if she goes there. She will not be applying and plans on taking a gap year if she doesn't get into a top 25. I'm fully supportive and just hope she will have great results. |
What a shame that she has drank the kool aid. Top 25 or abject failure. She is not set up well for life, I hope you realize that. Very poor perspective and flexibility. There are undoubtedly more schools that would probably fit well for her in 26-100 than 1-25, but she can't see beyond the ranking in a magazine. I would worry about her if I were you, not so much where she gets in. |
If you are choosing a college based on what you believe other people’s perceptions are, you are doing it wrong. |
+1 She needs help, and I don’t mean with college admissions. |
Are all of the top 25 interchangeable to her- there are vastly different schools with vastly different experiences in that list |
That is what is so worrisome. She has delegated her whole decision to USNWR. Their criteria have not become hers.
Really superficial or immature, insecure, something bad. |
UVA |
Only if OP’s daughter has a 4.47+ GPA, a 1500+ SAT, or 34 ACT and AP courses and great ECs. UVA received over 41,000 applications for 4K slots last year. You need to stand out. |
+100. |
T25 such as WashU is considered a school for rich Ivy rejects. No matter whether she goes to state u or T25, she'll be a rejected "failure" if she continues her way. Sad. |
You both seem pretty immature. |