Safety schools for high achievers

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Anonymous wrote:OP’s kid’s looking only at top 25 schools simply because she’s looking for top 25 most eligible bachelors. Is that so wrong? If the poor bastard is number 26, just drop him. Go girl!

You are a sexist idiot, from another era, who belongs back there.

Can't imagine you would say this to a male with those credentials.

We have a long way to go as long as there are people like you in this world.

Everyone’s trying to figure out this OP. I’m doing my part to explain OP’s thinking. OP is probably thinking the kid can fall in love with top 25 just as well as she can with number 100. This is not my thinking. This is what OP thinks.

If you are correct, and the kid can fall in love with any school (of any type/size/location/culture) just based upon the number that USNWR assigns to it....that is what is off.

What is the kid a shapeshifter?

Kids really should, by that age, have some preferences with regard to the type of environment they feel at home in.

I am worried that this kid/parent are just going to SHOVE her into the highest number school that admits her and she will mimic those around her. What a formula for (or indicator of) poor mental health and low self esteem.

Really? I think this "kids' preference" thingy is way overblown. My senior has no preference other than "I don't want to be in a big city". However, once he visited a few city campuses he is fine as long as it's a distinct campus (e.g. CMU) and not too integrated with the city (Penn, VCU). Other than that no size, student mix or location preferences. He will do equally well at all of the top schools (except for city based schools like NYU, Penn, columbia, etc. ). Maybe the DD's daughter is less picky than my son..

Remember that thousands of foreign kids come to the US and go to schools sight unseen and all have great experiences.

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Really? I think this "kids' preference" thingy is way overblown. My senior has no preference other than "I don't want to be in a big city". However, once he visited a few city campuses he is fine as long as it's a distinct campus (e.g. CMU) and not too integrated with the city (Penn, VCU). Other than that no size, student mix or location preferences. He will do equally well at all of the top schools (except for city based schools like NYU, Penn, columbia, etc. ). Maybe the DD's daughter is less picky than my son..

Remember that thousands of foreign kids come to the US and go to schools sight unseen and all have great experiences.

Except those are actually preferences. Knowing "I want a distinct campus" is actually a preference. Once you eliminate for geography and potential size, a list gets narrowed pretty quickly.

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Really? I think this "kids' preference" thingy is way overblown. My senior has no preference other than "I don't want to be in a big city". However, once he visited a few city campuses he is fine as long as it's a distinct campus (e.g. CMU) and not too integrated with the city (Penn, VCU). Other than that no size, student mix or location preferences. He will do equally well at all of the top schools (except for city based schools like NYU, Penn, columbia, etc. ). Maybe the DD's daughter is less picky than my son..

Remember that thousands of foreign kids come to the US and go to schools sight unseen and all have great experiences.

Except those are actually preferences. Knowing "I want a distinct campus" is actually a preference. Once you eliminate for geography and potential size, a list gets narrowed pretty quickly.

+1 We visited a range of styles of schools and DS pretty quickly narrowed it down to liking the vibe of a big school in a college town, definitely not urban and not small. And, he wants to be a reasonable drive from home (I encouraged him to look farther afield but he doesn't want to have to get on a plane to get to/from school). That very easily narrowed the field of options.

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Really? I think this "kids' preference" thingy is way overblown. My senior has no preference other than "I don't want to be in a big city". However, once he visited a few city campuses he is fine as long as it's a distinct campus (e.g. CMU) and not too integrated with the city (Penn, VCU). Other than that no size, student mix or location preferences. He will do equally well at all of the top schools (except for city based schools like NYU, Penn, columbia, etc. ). Maybe the DD's daughter is less picky than my son..

Remember that thousands of foreign kids come to the US and go to schools sight unseen and all have great experiences.

Except those are actually preferences. Knowing "I want a distinct campus" is actually a preference. Once you eliminate for geography and potential size, a list gets narrowed pretty quickly.

I suppose. However, I think parents know their child. I know that mine will go to Penn if he does get in and will like it once there (If I were to make him apply and by some miracle he does get in). I won't pressure him with that given the high cost of Penn and low likelihood of admission.

Bottomline is your child's preference is an input into the decision process. There are so many other factors at play and all need to be considered. It's the parent's job to assess the kid's preferences against other factors and "help" the kid make the right choice. The kids are NOT in the drivers seat yet. They are 17.

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I disagree. This is a young adult coming of age and out to start thinking about where they want to be and what they want to do. Parents really shouldn't have that much input.

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Really? I think this "kids' preference" thingy is way overblown. My senior has no preference other than "I don't want to be in a big city". However, once he visited a few city campuses he is fine as long as it's a distinct campus (e.g. CMU) and not too integrated with the city (Penn, VCU). Other than that no size, student mix or location preferences. He will do equally well at all of the top schools (except for city based schools like NYU, Penn, columbia, etc. ). Maybe the DD's daughter is less picky than my son..

Remember that thousands of foreign kids come to the US and go to schools sight unseen and all have great experiences.

Except those are actually preferences. Knowing "I want a distinct campus" is actually a preference. Once you eliminate for geography and potential size, a list gets narrowed pretty quickly.

I suppose. However, I think parents know their child. I know that mine will go to Penn if he does get in and will like it once there (If I were to make him apply and by some miracle he does get in). I won't pressure him with that given the high cost of Penn and low likelihood of admission.

Bottomline is your child's preference is an input into the decision process. There are so many other factors at play and all need to be considered. It's the parent's job to assess the kid's preferences against other factors and "help" the kid make the right choice. The kids are NOT in the drivers seat yet. They are 17.

And this is actually the first time most should be entrusted with a major decision. It will be THEIR home, THEIR workplace. If you want you them invested, give them a voice.

You get a voice too, as the funder and someone with more experience. But you really do need to hear them. Being in charge of the ultimate choice (once you have had some influence on the options) helps give them confidence to leave the nest and make good choices at college.

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To further clarify DD is URM, half african american half cambodian.

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Maybe OPs idea of Safety is askew. Safety colleges in admissions generally means a school with an 80% chance of getting in. If your DD is the child of a senator maybe i can see Dmory being something of a safety otherwise a school with an acceptance rate of 15% is a Reach for pretty much everyone.

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If a girl, look at Smith and Wellsley

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You know, if you don't have something nice to say, please don't comment. This situation may not be your situation but the mom has come here for advice not snark.